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In an argument with my husband he told me to stop talking. Stop making my point cuz he disagrees. He said shush! I said don’t shush me. He said I can shush you. Have any women been shushed by a man? It’s so disgusting and rude. What an asshole he is.

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Other people get a hundred replies, I get one, usually nine I mean noneCatman

Death

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Same, sometimes this site - mental health is a bit slow - late night or morning users!

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It’s not slow..

I just don’t get any replies at all..

I did get one though..

He asked if I’m on medications in PM

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So sorry, I would help if I can and if I am useful and my back and sides have been hurting, otherwise I love replying

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Yeah - like who I thought was a friend just said,

I am here...

so comforting when she iced and ghosted me this week

with I explanation why

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Sometimes it can be hard to be positive and inspiring to other and careful thought is not put on - may not be worthy of response or general depressed state all and not being able to do things - but I will try harder to respond as I know will cheer up someone and you - try to remain positive support while others are failing

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I am going to put on deep heat cream but always remain with your gentle heart and kind words - they mean alot

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I agree that my posts are not worthy of a response or reply...

How do I fix what I am done wrong ??

and what is it I am doing wrong ???

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Generally people have deep emotions and able to put it in words, articulate but where they leave a question or argument that elicits a response - just best to be yourself - and use terms that you researched on the matter is another helpful thing people do - using internet . Explaining a problem, worries or concerns properly in detail - is what people are good at doing and people may be able to help. But don't doubt yourself people usually like reply than post which is difficult to reply to. Just a thought, can ignore if want - it'd not you and not that people are uncaring but they are going through alot

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I do all of these things...

I get liked liked like crazy,

but no responses at all ever...

I begged openly for replies once before, and got a few...

Nobody else has to beg at all...

I think that I say is just Way to Personal and cutting..

I make people cry repeatedly in my own personal like, just by saying a sentence or two..

The guards in jail said I am good with words...

I made two call girls and a homeless guy cry like crazy by saying a few things...

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I apologize for making them cry

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All Mixed Up

by The Cars

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I am sorry

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I was not feeling well I still am not but I am trying my best

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Then why do you talk endlessly to everyone else, but say nothing at all to me, or give me a charity 2 or 3 words ??

😔

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And you are “So done with me and are deleting all of my posts “

which even offended administration...

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Catman22 how are they offended that I deleted my posts

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I did nothing wrong

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I agree

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Why did you say -

“I am so done with you, I am deleting all of your posts “

the other day ???

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I never said that

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You deleted it...

It’s tough to climb out of a hole,

once you’ve dug one and climbed in....

Don’t lie to HU again

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Oh my god I deleted a post so what

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You said all of my posts

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Go eat your m and ms

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I am fine

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That’s the point, that you are fine

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and I am not

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You want to keep ducking it out with -

the Catman ???

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Liar liar

skirts on Fire

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THATS IT

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please don’t do this right now

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I am already having a horrible week

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I’m leaving to have some peanut m+m’s

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I should have PM’d all of that -

I’m brutal with words

everyone tells me

that

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Hi , oh I've had worse than a shush!! Hey mabey when you two are sitting having you're dinner and chatting you should shush him just to make you're point🤣 no it's very rude and underminding it would have made my blood boil, what did you do once he had shushed you?

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I continued with my point then left the room. He’s a real jerk

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Well I'm glad you stood you're ground and continued what you were saying. Yes it's not nice being devalued like that. Yup what an jerk!!

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What did you do when it happened to you?

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At the start till about half way through the relationship I he had me convinced that I wasn't worthy for the gutter so I used to wiper to his every word, till one day I don't know something happend and I realised no ,, no this is not right took me five years to gather the physical and mental strength to get rid. I realised my point of view was just as important as everyone else and now I stand a polite firm ground with anybody who trys to put me down that way. You have to tell him never ever will you put up with being treated like that it's foul! ⭐⭐

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Thank you for sharing. I wish I had your strength

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You do just everyone finds it at different times 👍👍⭐⭐ you'll get there 😊

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I napped all afternoon. I say napped but I mean stayed under the blankets crying. Now I need to eat dinner with asshole husband and daughter so looks fine for her. So painful to be an actress

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Don't be, let it go slowly , you're only human you have feelings there's only so much one can take. Let him know it's time for a change things need to move on you've had enough and enough is enough . You only have one life,,,,, this is you're shot to go live it , you deserve to be treated with respect and live happily ⭐⭐

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Thank you Loki777. It is time for a change

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Yes do it for you , you go girl kick some butt😊😊👍

No

I apologize to her parents

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My Bad on that

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I wish you and ratman would forgive

me too -

I can have a Big Mouth

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It’s okay -

It’s not really possible

to like everybody

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I’m aware of my being reported,

more than once

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Please stop hurting me Luna

I’m sorry for that

I didn’t mean to cause so much harm

Can you ask ratman to maybe say hi ??

I would just Love to hear from him...

He was So Kind to me,

in a way I will Never forget

Loser man

Chris

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She was unkind too

Hi Lina hope you are doing well. Yes the muttering of abuseve words riled me up even more it was like " I can hear you , you dumb f*** , just scream it in my face don't mutter away you bitter twisted fool" sorry just hits a soft spot , you know how it is .

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Oh Luna_ Child, I feel so stuck. It’s killing me that I haven’t told my friends or family anything. My mother is 78, lives nearby, and is always commenting on how quiet I’ve become. If I tell her my husband is a problem she will insist I leave immediately. I’m the bread winner here.

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He barely works due to Covid. I feel if I tell anyone I look like an idiot for constantly taking verbal abuse.

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If only

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Yes I’m used to traveling for work

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Already did that

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Thank you. Your offer is so kind. No- I’m not traveling now

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I fake sleep too. I hide under blankets all snuggled eyes closed. I run through stories in my head of being on the beach, watching the sunrise, eating a breakfast with a kind man. I run the same stories in my head each day. Brings me moments of peace

Wow I wish shush was the worse thing I guy has said to me. Did he always speak to you like this before you were married? I don't know the state of your marriage but I would discuss with him as calmly as possible that you won't tolerate being talked to that way. Set boundaries & talk about why it hurt you for him to say something so rude to someone he is supposed to love. Nip it in the bud & don't bury the feelings to fester into resentment. Open communication may be the best course of action & if he continues to treat you inappropriately you might need to consider other options like marriage counselling. We are treated in the manner we tolerate. Don't let it snowball into something worse. I'm sorry he was so rude & upset you. But that is something he should really be saying.

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You go girl! Rude is so right! If that was a one time thing, if it was me, I would let it go after a serious discussion and an apology. But if it became a habit, well, that’s a different scenario....

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LOL

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I agree. Report ASAP.

We should all be polite and understanding to each other, Sometimes things are said and regretted, repeated as an irritant. then we all end up in a very unhappy situation. You deserve respect and you should not need to argue about it. Your husband needs to grow up, and both of you need to know each others needs and expectations.

I did something similar when I first got married, then we both agreed to watch and respect each other If you cannot show respect other problems may arise as a bridge has been crossed

BOB

Tell H I was blocked by Saskia

It's ok I married when I was 16 🤣🤣

I know totally well me and my ex thaught we knew everything and we were warned by our parents but I suppose at that age you just don't listen. Anyway we got married had a gorgeous daughter but unfortunately the marriage did not last , to much to young. We stayed friends in fact we are best friends and our daughter is now 20 years old.

You got that right 😊😊👍👍

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You run through stories too?

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Does your husband always treat u this way? You are ALOUD to voice your own opinions and he may not agree but he should RESPECT them

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My husband and I tell each other to shush all the time!

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