I a bad person? Somebody offers me 30 plants. I say yes and immediately start researching, I spent almost 2 weeks preping. Now they say because I decided to put the plants in large containers, for various reasons, I'm told I can't have them unless I do it their way I can no longer have said plants. I feel betrayed. And then my husband defends them. I now feel very betrayed. What did I do to deserve this family. I live in a family of bullies. I believe in my marriage vows. I love him, but I feel like he chose them over me. Am I wrong for this strong feeling of betrayal. Am I such a bad wife that I deserve to be treated like second best? They just don't know how close I am too walking away from them all. I want to stop trying to be a part of this family. After 21 years I still haven't learned to just STAY home. Ugh I am so far over these people. I really don't like being called a snowflake either.