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can someone drain your energy?

ang95
ang95

Hi,

I've been in a really bad place these days, crying for no reason, chest tightness, and pain

It felt like my energy was low, so what does consume that energy? overthinking, anxiety, worry.. what about people? Can people affect that? I know someone whenever I'm with them I get emotionally tired, we're simply not alike but we love each other

It's like putting too much into the relationship and I keep getting frustrated about how my opinion or suggestions have no value? I don't know if that makes sense

The weird thing is that one time when I was really low, that person was the one who cheered me up (usually I'm the listener so it felt special) but the next day as soon as I got into contact with them I started getting low again!

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Yes..definately yes..in my opinion.It may not be intentional either.Its good to see you know when it happens,step back n take a breather n then when ur in a better place give them a second chance or move on.

ang95
ang95
in reply to hippolove1

Yes maybe stepping back a bit would be good

Thank you for the respond

hippolove1
hippolove1
in reply to ang95

Do it for yourself..write ur feelings in a journal n maybe at some point u can share it with ur friend.Best to u😁

ang95
ang95
in reply to hippolove1

Thank u 😊 will do

He sounds like he really cares for you and make you feel better, he gave you his time and energy but in the other hand if it’s him making you feel low is that a trigger, if you love each other then you need to work through it together, I’m suffering really bad with anxiety at the mo and he’s been supportive best he can don’t know if it’s going in though, as I’m sure your feeling the same xx

There is good energy friends and other ones that are negative energy make you feel like rubbish or fake friends . Add that to a relationship and my Ex was a depressive and he dragged me down and I loved him but he let me go as he was making me ill and worry I felt like his Mum . We are good friends and always will be . Always hear to chat if you want any advice or someone to listen happy to do both :). All the best

ang95
ang95
in reply to Mia898

Sorry that you went through that! it's hard to love someone who makes you feel down

Glad that you both are still friends, probably things would be better if I don't get so close!

Thank you for the support ♥

Mia898
Mia898
in reply to ang95

Always hear if you need me . I love him but not in that way . Want a loving Partner .

ang95
ang95
in reply to Mia898

You'll find a loving partner someday. Wishing u the best

Mia898
Mia898
in reply to ang95

Thank you . May have one I thought I had scared him off but comes back :) . I did say about my Ex at the time so that is why I scared him off and in a bad place just maybe he will come back or someone else will come along the fun is we do not know so have to wait :)

ang95
ang95
in reply to Mia898

If you are meant to be together, you will end up together

Maybe he's the one maybe not, the most important thing is your happiness

Mia898
Mia898
in reply to ang95

The fun is we do not know . Love to think we did get together as I cannot find anyone who I do not compare and think of him always go back to him ... I would like to when the virus and lock down is better just walk in the parks and have fun as friends just see if some how we will get together from that if meant to be !! In the mean time I do have another Partner though but off and on.

ang95
ang95
in reply to Mia898

Try to not have expectations so won't get hurt and keep on living the moment

Mia898
Mia898
in reply to ang95

I have no expectations as with my boyfriend but reckon I could end up with my ex . Who knows enjoy the day and see what happens in living in the moment . Do you have any advice for living in the moment?

ang95
ang95
in reply to Mia898

They always say: Do whatever makes you happy as long as you're not hurting anyone

Live the moment as enjoy your day without overthinking everything

Admire the things around you and smile

Yes people especially toxic can affect your mood and your expectations in life.

Consider pulling away and only dealing with these people as the need arises. We need to keep our expectations positive.

If you have had enough move on, however on occasions this can be the wrong way forward.

Consider your options and never waver.

BOB

ang95
ang95
in reply to borderriever

Thank you, I will consider that

My husband saps the life blood out of me. He has become the most exasperating person I have ever known. I can't talk to him without him accusing me of having a go at him. This could be something as stupid as saying "what are we going to do today". He instantly starts shouting about can't I stop bullying him, when in reality it was just a conversation starter. The other thing he does is twists my words. I can say something in conversation, and he will round on me, twist what I have said into something with a completely different meaning, and then go off ranting and shouting. I honestly think that it is easier to just not talk to him. Lately I have been waiting for him to speak to me, rather than attempting to start a conversation with him, but it still goes wrong. So yes, I do believe that a person can drain the energy out of you. They can also drain your love, your emotions, your entire sense of self worth. I feel completely empty, I don't even know why I bother getting up everyday. I just feel like every new day is just going to be another trial. I lurch from one day to the next waiting for the next outburst, it's like living life on a knife edge. Yes, someone can drain every inch of your being, what you are feeling is real.

ang95
ang95
in reply to Carjul60

I'm sorry that you're going through this! Try to talk to him about the problem and what's the exact wrong thing happening

Sometimes we need to understand each other and for me I find myself in another path from that person so I shouldn't get too close

For you, you're married which means there's something beautiful happened before so try to understand what happened along the way

I hope things will get better soon

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