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New here. Just trying this out to see what kind of support there is for someone who hates life

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Hello ashly Welcome

How can we help you ?

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My girlfriend of over a year told me a couple weeks ago that they were done with our relationship. She then said oh BTW there were three others I ended it with too. It may sound crazy but the relationship was heavy. I supported her through three suicide attempts and other severe mental health issues. And the thanks I got was I’m done with you and I’ve been cheating on you with three people. I personally have mental health issues and this just hurts like hell. I’ve never liked life and this just put another reason in the pile.

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Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way. What's going on with you?

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My girlfriend of over a year told me a couple weeks ago that they were done with our relationship. She then said oh BTW there were three others I ended it with too. It may sound crazy but the relationship was heavy. I supported her through three suicide attempts and other severe mental health issues. And the thanks I got was I’m done with you and I’ve been cheating on you with three people. I personally have mental health issues and this just hurts like hell. I’ve never liked life and this just put another reason in the pile.

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Oh wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you. While it's not right, and nothing can make it right, it sounds like a lot of that stress is hers to carry, not yours. Yes, that's a terrible way to treat people, but it sounds like you tried to help and did your best. This split may just be for the best, and may be an opportunity for you to find something better. In leaving, maybe she cleared the way for you to find someone who loves you like you love them. She will probably never "thank" you, so don't spend time waiting for approval/affirmation from your ex. Now this is all about you, not her. You need to get through this and get it straight in your own head, and move on to enjoy everything that life can offer. I understand that it sucks right now, but things will get better. There's a high likelihood you'll meet someone who has their life together and won't make you feel this way. And this will all be a distant memory when that does happen. Also remember that you are in control of yourself. The world is what it is, and I'm sorry that you've experienced some of the worst of it, but there is good out there too. You can find it. In a way, she has freed you and given you back a part of yourself. Now you can focus on yourself, and on finding all the goodness that life has in store for you. Life is messy, but even in the bleakest times there are simple pleasures we can enjoy. Sunshine on your face, a warm cup of coffee, birds chirping. Take time to practice self-care and figure out what is meaningful to you in life (maybe somewhere you've always wanted to visit, or something you've always wanted to do), then set realistic goals to achieve it. If you take care of yourself and find what is meaningful to you, the right people will be attracted to you.

In short, you are free! Take this as an opportunity to take care of and focus on yourself.

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ashlynsabioso in reply to hopeful09

It’s true it’s her burden. Thank you for your kind words

There will be plenty of girlfriends while you find the right one. One way to stop getting bored and enjoy life is to do things that you have never done before - pinterest has many interests on it and youtube always has exciting motivational videos or something

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