Can’t handle more

[Shilpa08]

Hii I have married in a house where there was already a divorce and now I am thinking the same but I am worried what will happen to these people as they are already not well but I have my life too I have no love for them I want a chill life like people have on Instagram I panic when responsibility comes I don’t care about anyone as I am too mentally occupied by myself everyday I think about leaving but I am confused also but I am not happy here and I don’t know if I will be ever but is leaving a solution I am messed up

[Hidden]

Maybe you should see a therapist to make the best choice for yourself

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

Yes I am thinking same because everyday I am struggling and I can’t survive in such mental health because when I am not happy i am not worth anything and I can’t make anyone happy

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

It's very difficult to make others happy when we are not, I really hope that you can find a good therapist.

[Shilpa08]

But because of me there will be sadness in house if I go then what will happen would it be fair if I am thinking about myself

[Hidden]

If you take care of your family as in help with feeding, cleaning, adhering to their physical needs in which they would be without any care what so ever, talk to your family about others stepping in. Is this your husbands family? You do have some love for them as you constantly worry about their well being.

So to answer, as you’ve asked this before, yes it’s okay to take care of you.

I’ll add, people on Instagram portray illusions of happiness, no one posts how sad, miserable or depressed they are. It’s all show for the likes and attention social media provides. So what you are seeing, comparing and wanting to be most likely aren’t what’s going on in their lives. Make your own happiness, get into treatment as has been suggested before. Don’t wait.

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you but I am not finding courage for it I am scared.. I am having anxiety

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

I have anxiety to. The sooner you get help, the sooner you start learning more about your mental health and the sooner you will adopt coping strategies and start working on bettering your quality of life. Right now if you keep doing the same things day after day you won’t get better, you’ll keep staying right where you are.

It takes courage to admit something is bigger than we can handle on our own (you’ve already done that here) and it takes just a little bit of strength within us to seek help. That help will help you expand your strength and courage and you’ll live a happier life. Remember everything we do in live is about CHOICES. If you choose to stay where you are, be okay with that. If you aren’t, make a choice to reach for help.

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

This marriage was my choice and now I am bored with this choice I always run away from problems and here I am internally suffering as I have started hating everyone but my mental health is important everyday I say to myself that why I am alive I try to do things but I am not happy inside as I am dead also I am scared also as I have comfort here but I I am not able to get a fantasy life here as I am an unsatisfied-person and I am scared I will always be wherever I go... it’s really confusing I am going mad... should I just struggle everyday or leave and take a treatment

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

If you have found comfort where you are, are you okay staying there? If you’re not then you have your answer.

Running, hiding, hating, blaming yourself or others, see a pattern here? Only you can stop the madness. I wish the best outcome for you possible. 💜🌺

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

Actually comfort is of things not mentally

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

I understand that point now. If that comfort is satisfactory, then choose that?? But be okay with that choice and make the most out of your decision to stay. This is not to say you can’t work on your mental health staying, it might prove difficult in your recovery, but you could improve your quality of life, or is it all or nothing?

Anyways, My advice still stands though, only you can stop this, only you can choose the better outcome if that’s what you want or will allow yourself.

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

But my I am very weak and I am not able to cope up it’s been an year I am not able to work on mental health here as I have to be different person here also without treatment how will be I fine

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

I honestly do not have the answers you seek. I truly wish I did.

I’ve tried my best to give you options to think about, I’ve tried to ease anxiety but failing to do so. Lastly, I will add this one last hope that you’ll read and take under advisement, without treatment you won’t get better no matter where you live or it’s possible a change of your environment and circumstances may pave the way, you’ll have to work out the details how you go about that. Wishing you the best. 🌺💜🌺💜🌺

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much I just need help that’s all and I want to share and talk

[Hidden in reply to Shilpa08]

If you just need to talk and share and not looking for said advice, your threads should indicate that your not really looking for advice, your venting, ranting, etc. I’ve misunderstood all your threads I’ve posted in, that’s okay, I dedicate my free time here daily, but I wouldn’t try so hard to drill the moves you need to make to better yourself and get the help you need.

I’ll refrain from the future stuff you post, I’m under the impression everyone is looking for advice. I’m sorry I posted so much self help here. Best of luck. 😊

[Shilpa08 in reply to Hidden]

No no I am looking for advice as well I am so sorry I am so confused that I don’t know what to do it’s just I am stubborn I take advice but I don’t know how to amend it

[TinaRibena]

Speak to a counsellor or at least a friend. There is already sadness in the house if you are feeling this way, you cannot go on like this. Regarding Instagram and people having their best lives, I would not go by anything you see on there. That is not real life. Life is not always easy, it's not always a bed of roses, though some people want to give that impression.

[Shilpa08 in reply to TinaRibena]

Yeah I get that I do speak to frnd but they all are busy I just don’t like it here or anywhere all day I am sad or tensed all my desires are dead I can’t stop thinking and comparing I need a treatment but I am not able to get courage sometimes I think of just running away