Mr imperfect

[Alegroo]

Good job , daughter 18 student doing great, wife married 24 years , been together 30 years, no financial problems , just feel like I have done my job of what people do every day of having a house , paying the bills, bringing children up to be the best they can be, now I feel so much that what’s left, I cry alone over memories that I know are nice memories, I just want out. Live a life on my own , I don’t want my family to see me getting worse in my mental condition I feel so much disconnected from the family we once was.

[Hidden]

Sometimes religious, holy people feel like this, they explore Buddhism, hindu or other religion and decide they want to live that kind of life. Perfectly reasonable and accepted. Your children are able to look after themselves, so you will probably feel this is the great time to do this. Whatever you are searching for I hope you find.

[Alegroo in reply to Hidden]

Just your reply was much appreciated.

[Hidden]

We go through life, and at various stages we are introduced to various tasks like birth,, marriage , children etc. We then enter further phases where we enter Middle Age, and we then look for other phases to pass through. Like Travel, Further Education, Gardening etc etc. I cannot actually advise it is up to you to move on and look for diversions you enjoy

In a way you are very lucky, you have children who will grow and have your Grandchildren.

We have no children, most of my health concerns are genetic, pushed down through the generations. I have other diversions to divert my thoughts and expectations. It is no good me feeling low all the of what live could have been we need to be able to move on and consider how to move on. We reach a time where our life is ours where we have time to partake in other activities we know we will enjoy.

I have various activities, one is travel, We saw many things abroad and it was a wonderful thing to get the chance to do. We now travel around the UK, we are Life Members of National Trust and English Heritage. Recently we joined Historic Houses, we have interests in History and visit all the sites. This year we are going to Ferry hop around the islands of Scotland. Been retired the holiday has been extended to over one month, we are Retired and out time is our own. So our activities relate to that where we enjoy and do things we enjoy. We also look for bargains in Hotel Stays and we have breaks throughout the year

We travel the countryside and we see our own countryside. Diversions help us to move on and enjoy our remaining time on this earth.

I am not saying to do what we do, all I say is enjoy your time we all need to be able to move on use our time left more fully

BOB

[welly10]

It's hard I had my daughter late shes 9 I'm 49 now. I had lived a full life ex forces travelled Asia 3 years all with friends or on my own.been in relationship for 14 years married mortgage and still I long sometimes of how it used to be.i think you still need time for yourself though maybe join a club where you ho off for a while.hopefully you'll steer through this transition good luck.

[Hidden]

Alot of us have the exact same words as you.

Remember how "lucky" we r to have what we have.

I call it a" midlife crisis fart",we just need to reinvent ourselves for ourselves.Weve done what's expected of us as humans for others..we need it for us n our mental health the most now.

Me personally...tattoos,being the real me,changing my look for me, helped the "crisis fart" lol