rejection from internal job interviews

[guitarfreak357]

hello there. so I've mentioned in previous posts ive been suffering with depression around 2 and a half years.

last year I applied for an internal job at workplace for a team leader role in my team. in a few words i didn't get it and was told why, mostly all good. last week I applied for another internal role (again in my team) and didn't get it, don't fully agree with the managers reasons. however have been given a small.payrise i see that as a good thing.

however.... i can't not stop myself feeling a a sense of rejection. which is starting to effect my mental health and my confidence. at the beginning of the year i spoke to my doc and went down a dose of my pills as I was doing ok. i don't know if this is just the depression talking though I feel this could massively effect me applying for other jobs and my parents just do not understand depression and will kick me out if i get signed off again.

any advice to help matters would be amazing, thank you all

[Seddy85]

Hi getting a pay rise means they value you definitely see this as a positive maybe look in to doing an NVQ in management I did this as I kept getting rejected but after doing my course they realised I would put the hard work in and I got the job keep going and keep your head held high if you need to talk come on here plenty of us to talk to don’t be afraid of talking about anything we all have different issues so no one will judge x

[guitarfreak357 in reply to Seddy85]

thanks how much did your nvq cost?

[Seddy85 in reply to guitarfreak357]

I managed to get it before 25 so was free maybe look on google or open university x

[EleanorRose]

This would upset me too and I know I’d be feeling exactly the same way in your position.

However, looking at it from an outside perspective, I think they value you as a member of the team. They didn’t have to give you a pay rise, they did it because they wanted to. They must be aware also that they haven’t given you the promotion twice but clearly have a lot of respect for you and see you as important - they’ve given you a pay rise to show you that.

For whatever reason, they didn’t think you were right for these roles (and by the sounds of it, you sort of agreed with them the first time) but try not to take it personally. Often these things are less about us and more about the person who did get the role. Maybe on a different day or with different candidates you would have got the role - don’t let it put you off, keep trying!

If you think it could be your depression impacting how you’re feeling about this, could you discuss it with your doctor? Perhaps lowering the dose of your antidepressants wasn’t the right step just yet.

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It is difficult to suggest regards your promotion, people fail to get promotion, all very common and sadly the Employer may have reasons why they prefer someone else.

It can be dependent on how long you have been doing the job or how qualified you are and others qualified. It seems your boss is happy with your Work, by the small pay rise given.

Life is full of disappointments, have you considered taking qualifications, that should help you move on at work, or looking for new positions and new money.

Look at where you are in life and plan a pathway you would prefer to take over future years.

It would be really sad if you allowed your mood to become all encompassing and your depression became more concerning .

Be positive and start planning what you need to do to get those promotions you expect

BOB

[Afrohair]

I understand the feeling of rejection from jobs every time I’m rejected and work so hard I don’t understand it I’ve got a ba honour under my belt and distinctions in other things so it’s hard for me to understand I work in retail now as a supervisor which is practically being lifted of my feet I’ve come to realise I might just be one of those people what have to fight harder for what I want.it’s harder to accept internally because you already know them and may think it’s a different reason but you can’t prove it

[Afrohair]

Also wanted to say don’t feel put off cause I’ve done this and it’s put me back for years I’m now in a position I don’t really want to be in and now all the jobs i trained for are just dreams as I’m so scared of rejection and having to train up again because I left it too long people I trained with are now successful managers at places I wanted to work all that anxiety put my life into a stop mode and I’ve settled for less