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So sad - disabled person kicked out of home

indervir
indervir

Another boy/man at residential place for special needs was put in mental hospital, kicked out of place - he has been offered another place. Unlike my son he is verbal and can talk and walk - just slightly mentally - learning disability. He was showing violent behaviour and broke the window above the door and cups and attacked the carer/staff. He had been attacking the staff recently but they called the police and second time, in the night they took him to mental hospital. So sad because I know what kicked it off - he had been asking why his mother had cancelled on him and was not coming to visit him. She kept cancelling on him and he stayed on the phone - asking why. So sad, she frustrated him and made him angry and now he has to move places. He was nice to us and laughed with my son. Just such a sad case. I normally do activities with my son and he laughs and plays but in his case - they just cancelled on him

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Oh ,that is so sad ,how could a Mother treat her Son like that. No matter what kind of disability he had .she's still his Mum. He probably showed violent behaviour because he felt unloved and unwanted..It's not as if she had him living with her. She wasn't looking after him or taking Care of him in any way. All he wanted was to see her .OOOOH.

Bless Him. I'm just wondering what's going to happen to him now. It makes me shudder to think. You're right, he's just been cancelled out. I don't know what else to say. 😥😪

Indervir

How old was the child

Generally I understand if there has been a disturbance, or fight where someone has been hurt they will move them on to a Hospital Environment. They will be concerned that if the child has problems, they will decide to want to keep an eye on the Person.it may also

If the home is not functioning and the child has been unsettled, the child may be better in a place where they can control and attend the the Mothers negative feelings toward Her Child. The child may eventually be put into a Foster Home etc, dependent on His Mental Condition

However if family members are showing was showing a lack of interest to the child that could cause problems within the environment of the school. They set boundaries and if they are broken they would look for an alternative for the child to attend.

Is the school private or run by the State in some way. Safety is paramount

BOB

I should have made clearer - they were at residential school and moved into Care Home for supported living - as adults now they have carer/staff to look after them but they are treated as adults with special needs/disabled individual

Is it possible he was moved for the safety of others in the environment?

indervir
indervir
in reply to Dolphin14

Yes, that seems probable but he was only attacking staff and not the users

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to indervir

Attacking staff isn't acceptable. He may need a higher level of care to be able to support any outbursts.

Group homes have guidelines for admission I would imagine.

My heart breaks for him. Sounds like the mom needs to make a commitment to him. Does she frequently say no?

indervir
indervir
in reply to Dolphin14

I agree staff couldn't react to him - they had not been trained to deal with challenging behaviour or anything.

And, yes mother had been cancelling most of the time, on several occasions - he really was frustrated and angry about this and stayed on the phone - asking why which he couldn't understand the answer or accept. Really sad case.

Dolphin14
Dolphin14
in reply to indervir

Yes, it is a sad case.

I know from your other posts you are very devoted to your son. Not everyone is like you.

You sound like a very dedicated loving mom. Every child deserves love.

Keep up the fight for your son. You are strong and determined.

If He was attacking Staff that would be a good enough reason to move him on to a more proactive place where care is more intensive and controlling.

Generally they will not consider any excuses when it comes down to above, The person will need to follow the guide lines of the establishment invkolved. They would remove him for the safety of other patients

Not all Parents are like you sad to say, Sometimes families disown someone with mental health concerns, they palm of the child to the State. I feel for the child, this sort of problem makes angry Young Men with Mental Illness. Eventually I would think He will end up with a carer over the long term , in various types of Community. The placement will mean He will be allowed out during the day and back to the centre at night

BOB

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