Am I wrong

[Jorna]

Hi I want to know am I wrong to cut the people out of my life that hurt me dont understand I know this is what I have to do but it hurts soo much I just cant they never understand they always say it's my fault.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

That’s a pretty deep question.

Things are not always your fault. Sometimes they are.

Boundaries need to be set. Take time to decide how you will treat people and then expect those people to treat you the same. The past does not count after you set the new boundaries. Be vocal. Say out loud ‘I will no longer do such and such’. Then they can’t be surprised when you don’t accept it from them. No surprises or drama. Be consistent.

If someone doesn’t stick to the boundary then slowly pull away with a smile and no discussion.

Boundaries solve problems and make the circus move out of town. (Grandmas wisdom)

One at a time and take your time.

Best of luck to you

Doaty💛

[hypercat54]

It's not a question of right or wrong as everyone has decide their own boundaries. I will say it's not healthy to keep toxic people in your life for your own well being. x

[Cat_cat44]

Hi Jorna, no you're not wrong, if people aren't helping and only hurting, they gotta go. You deserve peace & love!

[Hidden]

I think if u can't talk with someone about how they hurt u,then getting them out of ur life is a necessary evil.Its like what another member mentioned "No toxic people".

Ive had to do that n as hard as it is..u have to think about ur own mental n physical health.

I for one landed up with "real,true,caring" people in my life.

At the end of the day..its about "u".

[Jorna]

I know what I'm going to do now I just thought I was beening selfish but there the ones that r

[Jorna]

And the sad thing is I'm always nice to everyone and no one is nice back now I really is time to think about"me"

[Hidden]

Jorna

Why would you want to keep caustic people in your life, I would advise you give them the push and move on to find more positive friendships.

Toxic people, all my Family are that way will destroy your confidence and possibly destroy people who you enjoy to be with. Move on

Yes have boundaries although I feel these types of people will push you down while you may not understand what they have been up to as they will be talking behind your back. Sometimes they can become a real problem telling tales about you.

BOB