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Pregnant and lost in my career

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I am 4 month pregnant and recently lost my job. I have nightmares and headaches, my old job was not a normal family friendly job so I guess I need to change my carrer path again....this is so stressful

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Congratulations on the baby!

Are you educated for a specific type job?

If not then your life is wide open. You’re obviously not my age. The world is wide open and needs people willing to work. You can show this child how amazing women can be.

I deal with health issues as well. It doesn’t have to stop you. There’s a better place out there for you.

Doaty💛

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Thanks! i am happy about the baby but also really really stressed and thats stopping me from feeling awesome about it.

I am educated but haven't work on my field for more than 5 years, don't even know if wanna go back to that office job and if i am good for that anymore.

Reinventing myself could take long time

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It does take awhile. I’ve recreated myself a few times. I’m doing it now. It’s a journey where we dance in the rain.

It can be fun. Keep dumping your stress here. 💛

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Thank you!

we had a pretty amazing job, probably allowing us to keep our family in but it just went down for me and my husband too.

I really think I can become someone great to show my kid I am not a job but a great mom that enjoys working . I really want to keep being financially comfortable and enjoy a good life with my family

How are you recreating yourself now?

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I’m getting my second masters so I can switch to being a therapist. Right now I do brain research but I’ve been an EEG tech and a RN. My kids watched a good mom who enjoyed a career as well. I really like how you put that. They even helped me pass all my exams while I helped them.

I love your outlook. Keep it and the universe will conform. 😘

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I just get scared, but reading you helps me remember kids are a motivation.

Maybe just studing again...just i have no idea what.

I am a yoga teacher, private boat chef, telecom engineer and dont have big experience or passion in either to become a Known Yoga Teacher, Private Chef (that takes all your time) and havent work as engineer for more than 5 years.

I just need to see deeper what my passion is...internal work to find motivation maybe

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You know as women age our brains open up to new abilities. We have primary, secondary and tertiary skills at all times.

Allow your brain to show you. It’s in there. You’re very bright and talented. Don’t look back except to bring interpersonal skills forward.

Let the child inside you help guide you. Your husband will help bring out the new you. Let your brain show you what’s next.

I can’t wait to see where you go. ❤️

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Thank you Thank you Thank you

I will start meditation and writing down ideas. Studing might be something interesting again, i will find out what to study, I want to do more than house keeping and baby sitting but if thats the start I'll do it.

Everything has its own time

Congratulations on your baby .although it may not have been the job of your dreams you acquired many skills which could help your future I like you have changed my job several times to fit in with my family don’t be so hard on yourself I had a misscarrige in September and have not been to work since because of sickness and may now again have to change jobs due to ill health I can no longer stand hours on end life gives us a lot of hurdles but we get through them

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Thank you for your words. I am sorry for your loss and I try to always remember that the universe doesn't put us in a situation we can't handle.

We are made strong. Always take care of yourself first and everyone around you will be Ok.

That why i am trying to figure out what can make me happy so my partner and my baby will be ok too.

My husband was in the same job and everything drowned for both. So much uncertity has us both almost on standby

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The job market is like that nowadays no one is safe I was made redundant two years ago luckily found another job but I don’t see myself their any longer I don’t feel like the jobs for me I was practically my own boss in my last job I ran someone’s business for them now I’m a supervisor elsewhere but I don’t get the respect I would of liked in this job and employees are always dropping like flies.Thing is nowadays staff are easily replaceable .your partner and baby I’m sure will be fine their are ways round it I’m in such a predicament myself where I really need money and I’ve started selling my things and doing online surveys I’m that desperate as I need an operation and if I don’t have it soon my condition will get worse but I don’t have the money I also have children to look after my partner is the main income earner at the minute two years ago I had the best income

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What job did you have if you don’t mind me asking?you can message me if you want I’ve had a non family friendly job before was it so bad ?

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It is so important to have the health first, dont stop that for anything. There are healthcare resources for sure that can help you make you operation happen!

We were working on boats for the last 5 years together

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Ok yes I understand that !I stopped travelling the world when I had my kids I was offered repping and a air hostess job.i wish you all the best you will find something else you enjoy eventually right now just focus on the new baby don’t overwhelm yourself x

Sorry You are confused and concerned on a new way forward.

You really need to sit down and take some time working out your needs and expectations.

If you are a lone parent you will be very much more restricted on your new pathway. At this time when awaiting a birth would it be possible to train at home so you can work on ways to change your way ahead. Have words with the Employment office to see if there are any ways to take on something new, however would you prefer to be able to stay at home to look after this new child when born, then it may be possible to use this time to benefit you both for the future ??

Are you with the Father ?, if so has He any suggestions that will help ?

Just a suggestion

BOB

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We are together and he is in the same unemployment situation since we both worked together.

He has suggestions, he also has lots of stress and I dont want to keep adding to it.

I am used to work since I was 13 so I guess this could be me being hard on the idea of having a kid and no working for a while....Who would hire a pregnant woman? How long do I really want to stay with the baby? I would like some time with the baby, but i also want to work, thats something that keeps me balanced. I love kid but i want do keep being productive

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