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Don’t know what to feel.

senorab12
senorab12

So, I’m 22 years old and I’ve been feeling so bad with myself lately. I feel like I’m not enough I’ve always felt this way but this particular time has become more intense and the reason is because 2 weeks ago I started talking to a boy who apparently liked me, I was really excited because he seemed like a nice guy which I don’t see much nowadays, the thing is we started talking everyday and h was really impressive he treated me so well... and I kinda started falling for him. One day we decided it was time to go on date, (well I think that’s what it was even though we never said it), and it was great, no boy has ever treated me that well in my entire life so I started to love him a little more. Then the next day, I was so scared that he didn’t like me now that he had saw me but he kept going, I kinda started to treat him a little better, started to send him heart emojis and stuff but that’s it, then he changed... he said that I was going too fast, taking this too serious and I honestly had never been on a date so I didn’t know what to do, so I told him that I was sorry and that I would change that but he left me, he stopped talking to me and I’m so devastated because I really want him but I messed it up. The thing is I want him to tell me that it’s over or at least I want to ask him to give me another chance... I don’t know what to do, if I should let him go or keep begging for a chance.

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That's such a lot to happen in just two weeks; it sounds like you're really confused about things. I think perhaps you need to take a little step back and look at how far you have come with this lad in such a short space of time. Definitely don't beg for another chance - no one is that special x

senorab12
senorab12
in reply to Suzie40

Thank you I think you may be right, but after realizing everything that has happened, he doesn’t talk to me (and think he’s ignoring me) at the moment so I should leave things like that or I should talk to him and see if we can continue this?

Suzie40
Suzie40
in reply to senorab12

To be really blunt, and at risk of seeming horrid, I would leave things x

Hi learn your lessons from this and move on to bf no. 2. If he sees you with someone else he will probably wonder if he made a mistake!

I agree don't beg but if eventually he wants to be friends then accept that. x

Thank you, I’ll take your advice!

Don't keep begging.Just let him go and concentrate on your own life. People like that are not worth chasing trust me he will just keep dragging you along.Im 48 I've been there seen it done it.Im always here if you need to talk.

senorab12
senorab12
in reply to Airwolf

Thank you, I’ll have that in mind :)

Airwolf
Airwolf
in reply to senorab12

You have to take every day as it comes.

I've raised 3 sons, their friends and 11 grandsons and 1 great grandson. I have been married 42 years. I've learned this about males: it's the thrill of the chase and not the kill. They are natural born hunters. If that makes sense. They will usually chase after what they think they can't have. If it's too easy it's not a challenge and they love a challenge. I hope that makes sense to you. In 42 years it's still a challenge to keep my husband on his toes and not let him get too comfortable lest he take me for granted. Most men will be scared away if things go too fast. On the other hand, you can do subtle things like be where he is but take no notice of him but make sure he sees you. It's a bit of game playing, but it works.

Hi beautiful,

This is one of those moments in life where your look back and think “wtf did I see in him” fall in love with you again and leave him to find his way. His done you a favour. You can’t see it now but trust me you will x

This is true, I’m in the process of loving me again. Hope I’ll make it, thank you so much 🧡

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