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Why do I have a cpn that only has one thing on his mind and that's his big ego after my second visit to him I told him we are not connecting at all.

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hypercat54

Maybe it's the male ego thing? I would change him then to someone better. You haven't got to tell him just do it. I don't know if you are female or male but I know I would prefer someone of the same sex. x

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Mullberrybush in reply to hypercat54

Iam male he's horrible shouldn't be doing mental health assessments it's all about him x

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hypercat54 in reply to Mullberrybush

No he shouldn't. You often have to go to several before you find one that you can connect with so keep looking is my advice. x

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Mullberrybush in reply to hypercat54

I had one but he retired I seemed to got a bit lost in the system for a while then was referred to this chap he's so unpleasent pushing you into things you don't want to do I have a rare illness that not many specialist know anything about not even me but this cpn seems to know all about it he's a total nightmare and pushing all my wrong buttons x

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hypercat54 in reply to Mullberrybush

Not the one for you then! x

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Mullberrybush in reply to hypercat54

Definitely not am seeing gp tomorrow a need moving asap x

in reply to Mullberrybush

That's not good for "ur" health even if he does know about ur illness. Sounds like he needs to get reeducated on how to speak to a patient.Maybe he needs to see someone,lol

Good for u.. find the best fit for u!!! No one needs to go in for help and have to deal with someone like that!! Ive had that happen.. and told them.. "Your fired..bye bye". Best of luck to u!!

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It sounds like He is trying to relate to you and your Mental Health condition. Also if He has been briefed on your Health Condition it may be that He is trying to refer to it and explain He understands how you must be feeling.

Sometimes initial meetings can be fraught until it begins to settle to a working relationship with you and that can take time. A CPN needs to be able to introduce you to various coping techniques and this can initially feel He is assessing you in a way you do not like. So you are pushing back.

You may find getting a CPN you can fully relate to can be quite a problem, remember we do not get on with everyone in life. For example, Me, many people may hate the site of me while others would feel I am the greatest thing since sliced bread. A relationship with someone you may pass by in life may be a really nice person, that is life. Remember He is a health professional may not like you, He is there to take you down a well laid out pathway.

Just thoughts

BOB

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Spgsamuel

Usually carers that push, want you to join the support group. They have groups, clubs and volunteer groups. Its quite childish, the groups are nearly always unsuitable. They won't stop pushing. they will start to make you compliant or until you are under a GP's care. Ultimately it makes no difference your situation will be the same, its all red tape. Support group, CPN or GP You will still have the same condition and get the same welfare and be as sick as you were before. Sorry mental health services are not much good today in the UK, we have had our funding below the amount to to treat the amount of people in services, so support groups are the criteria for support. Or its the GP. Best to comply until you can't stand it.

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Stilltrying_ in reply to Spgsamuel

Honestly spoken Spgsamuel and I agree. I have had some people who were helpful over the years but lately the mental health system in my area is becoming diablolical. I also found that I was referred to a personality disorder service when I don't consider myself to have a pesonality disorder though I was a victim of someone who did. Also I have come to the conclusions I have about my problems mainly by myself and with the help of friends. They never told me I was subject to narcissistic abuse. This could have stopped 60 years of pain.

Regarding the CPN I guess one thing I could say that I can't even get one nowadays but I agree they try and push groups eg mindfulness. I did not find the group useful I was also put in a group with people with borderline personality when I don't consider myself to have that disorder and I think that was not meeting my needs. I could go on.

Just bear in mind it's a very flawed system and often you get treated worse than you would by a shopkeeper or a hairdresser or anyone who isn't in that "helping" profession. I don't know why it is . Maybe they are burned out or these are the only people they can get.

Having said that to redress the balance I do want to say that years ago I did have some good people help me. The MIND charity used to be very good but now it is all housing related and I just cannot for the life of me get a support worker whereas I did in the past and some of them were very nice and helpful.

So it takes all types and there are still some good people in the system I believe; especially students but then they see you for two weeks then they are moved on somewhere else. :)

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Mullberrybush in reply to Stilltrying_

It's just a total mess am going back over on everything to do with my health

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Hello Gemma

We all know Mental Health Services are at rock bottom and the services are beginning to run on empty, it has been like that now for about ten or twenty years.

I know when I passed my Youth and Community tickets back in seventy one even then our life as a part time worker was put down to about ten years it was put down to demands put onto the worker. I worked then as a Voluntary, as soon as I passed the meter started to tick and my last paid position ended in December 1976. so it was a matter of six years for me. Even when the reason I stopped was a bad car accident.

I suppose the demands and rationing of appointments must be caused by staff finding they on occasions burn out and many may be leaving the Service, given that remaining staff do not have the time to fulfill the needs of the Patient especially if the number of sessions are rationed to ten/twelve sessions, Patients need to learn fast and the getting to know the patient has become stinted and both persons need to move on with some urgency.

Mind I do feel Day Centres do work, patients meet others with same or similar problems and they begin to support each other

Generally these centers have a facility where a course of CBT is offered, about ten sessions. Sometimes this is one reason the GP or CPN will try for the patient to join the centre. Areas are very lucky to have this type of service, I know from experience the good work they do.

Sad to say we are where we are, all very sad.

BOB

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Mullberrybush in reply to

What's CBT Bob thanks

in reply to Mullberrybush

Talking Therapy, between therapist and Patient

BOB

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Mullberrybush in reply to

Thank you

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Spgsamuel in reply to Stilltrying_

Honestly,

You are the first person on the internet to ever agree with what I wrote. I've only really just figured out how to follow posts so I'm sorry its late.

I can relate to the o.p. because I've done with services and am now in gp care, which is as good as adult services, only my gp is more motivated to both my health and my mental health and she is invested in my recovery more so than rapidly changing support group workers, who have no idea what's going on in my mental health. Let's hope thing work out for the best.

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Dolphin14

Can I ask what s cpn is

I'm in the US. Is it an advanced practice nurse?

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