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So is like the guy I was talking about he messaged me apologizing and saying he misses me. An in that moment I was so happy sadly I responded. I know it was probably a wrong decision but I did it anyway. It's just I don't know what to do now. What if they don't respond or they just leave me on read. I just so don't know why life treating me like this you know. I miss him so much but I just not sure if I could believe him. He just left me here alone but I miss him so much you know. What do I do?

Someone please help? 😞😶😣

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sweetiepye

I have been reading your posts and I think I may have responded to some and the feeling I get from you is that you are a little gullible and naïve. I am not trying to be mean, but to let you know you need to protect yourself from some people. If someone hurts you once they will probably do so again. No matter what they say or how nicely they apologize you need to be skeptical of their intentions.. It's better to be alone for awhile than to continue in a corrosive relationship. Trust yourself. Pam

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Charmerbluegirl in reply tosweetiepye

It's fine I'm pretty stupid too at making decisions cause I always make the wrong ones. I am scared yes but just think if this could be it what if he is it. The person, my person. Why life hates me?

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everyone makes mistakes.. and we learn n r stronger for them....Life does hate u.. otherwise Id be on the Americas Most Wanted List for that one LOL Don't be hard on urself.. this is just a pothole in ur road for now.Get some dirt, and tar.. and go fill in that pothole girl.. ur gonna be ok!!!! :)

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sweetiepye in reply toCharmerbluegirl

Don't think of yourself as stupid, you are not. Life is a journey and we learn about ourselves and others as we go along.. There are many things I know now that I didn't know at your age. The trick is to not repeat things that didn't work out the first time. Use your mistakes as lessons. If this guy were the one I don't think you would have so many doubts. I think you are lonely and want someone of your own so you need to be careful that you don't rush into anything. We all have these feelings, but it's better to be alone than in a wrong relationship. Chalk it up to experience..

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Charmerbluegirl in reply tosweetiepye

Probably true but he came back you know that has to have meaning or something? We might never be the same but I just so confused I don't wanna get myself into anything right now all I need is to be healthy.

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Delzek in reply toCharmerbluegirl

Charmèrbluegirl, You are NOT Stupid, your naivety is your Charm,don't lose it ! You have not made wrong decisions you have made decisions that were right at the time,,we can all say "I should have done this or I should have done that . It's easy to say with hindsight, learn from the decision that you have made,then next time it will be easier to make a more comfortable, one that will help you gain more control of your situation.

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Charmerbluegirl in reply toDelzek

Thanks let's hope I make the right one this time

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Charmerbluegirl

Aw thanks for your words of wisdom but I had his number but he blocked me so I deleted but I just really confused on what I should do. I never expected him to come back I was just gonna stay depressed till I got better.

Ive been there ,done that.. got the t-shirt.... find urself a local support group (even if its not exactly what ur looking for) it will get ya out n about n with others ,having there own issues.Your here with us reaching out... which is great because we r good listeners n hand holders :) . Take time for u and figure out what u REALLY want and then u can always go back with this guy, if u so choose to. For me.. hearing others issues..different then mine and there solutions..helped me focus on me.End of the day your the #1 in ur life.Anyone in ur life, should treat u as #1 otherwise they r a #2 LOL

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Charmerbluegirl

Aww thank you such wonderful advice

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