Job help pls ? 😩

[nickyyyy61]

So I haven’t worked in a couple years due to my anxiety and depression i use to work when i was younger but ever since i just let myself go i feel like a complete failure and disgrace to my family 💔 i think about it so much and it makes my anxiety and depression much much worse cause i do wanna work and i do wanna be successful but i get scared of working it’s not because im lazy im just scared and i hate feeling this way i want to apply onlinee for jobs near me and im so scared of interviews what if I don’t know how to answer a certain question? What if i stutter, all these what ifs come to mind ! Would they understand if i told them i have anxiety and depression? I need help can you guys please give me some feedback 😩😩😩😩😩it will mean alot !♥️

[mz_rachel]

I know exactly what you mean... but for me the difference now with my anxiety is that I’ll always wanna run home. Uncomfortable at a setting where I can’t just leave. That’s why I chose to work from home and it kinda just fell onto my lap. It’s been 5 yrs for me and I can’t imagine going back to the work field. But for you my friend (as I’m having an episode), be honest with your interviewer. If you don’t know the answer then explain bc you’re suffering from anxiety but you’re reliable. Be honest about it some way shape or form. It’ll make you feel better. Let’s say you feel like you won’t get that job, well then that goes to show they’re not compassionate and the job wasn’t meant for you. Look, I feel nervous all the time like I AM going to an interview even though I’m just laying down. That’s the example I give to people of what it’s like to step into my shoes. The ones that don’t get it. As far as family and how you feel worse but didn’t really ask for any of this that you’re going through, explain to them that you’re trying. This is something you’re dealing with and it’s paralyzing you in every way. I know they love you and understand even though they may not say the right thing to you about it. I still gotta remind people how to talk to me and EVERYDAY I still feel like a burden to my bf who does it all bc I’m afraid all the time. And it truly sucks. The battle in our minds wear us out to the point that after you’re episode is over, you’re physically drained! Not bc we’re lazy.. trust me it’s like we didn’t ask for this. It was just handed to us bc of how we dealt with things and now it’s just become somewhat out of control and we’re still learning how to manage it all. I get it my friend..

[nickyyyy61 in reply to mz_rachel]

I would vet scared to ask them or tell them I don’t understand a question because I wouldn’t want to be looked at as dumb or anything 😩! I understand it always feels like you’re on edge just preparing yourself thats how i feel im just so incredibly shy too which makes everything much worse and i turn tomato red lol ! But god knows im not lazy i wanna be able to do things and accomplish it 😭thanks for your words ❤️

[hypercat54]

Hi I wouldn't volunteer any info about your issues unless they ask specifically about them, or ask if you have any issues which might interfere with the job. I assume you wouldn't be applying for a job where you might have issues so just answer no. If they ask you directly then don't lie and tell them but downplay it. All they are concerned about is can you do the job or not? x

[nickyyyy61 in reply to hypercat54]

Yeah you’re absolutely right for now i just wanna try something small like walmart or sams club or just my local stores and restaurants it still makes me so nervous 😩 ! Cause the interviews and all I wouldn’t even know what to wear 😭

[hypercat54 in reply to nickyyyy61]

Just look smart and definitely no jeans! x

[Hidden]

Hi. The world is your market!

What's your passion? Think about how you can create a business or trade that you can run online. All you need is a product or service to offer and a website / social media etc. It's the future and people don't have to see you or hear you if you don't want that. Many people do this kind of work. Look at the bloggers who just share their lives and get paid for it!

There is so much to try and it's less risk online. You don't have to use your own name either! Start researching on Google about options. Good luck! 😎

[nickyyyy61 in reply to Hidden]

Well a passion of mine is probably makeup haha i love makeup and I’m pretty good but not really really good just right tho if that makes any sense 😩 i just don’t know how online works lol like how to do all that editing and stuff 😆😩

[kel110 in reply to nickyyyy61]

You've found your starting point - make up.....now find a way you can work on improving your skills... any courses at local colleges?? Ask at local salons etc XX as for the tech side of things there may be short courses at a local college?? Now's the time to be applying - and you can do it online! GOOD LUCK - let us know how you get on 😍

[Hidden]

Try some voluntary work, it worked for me and it helped to give me purpose in life.

I was retired on health grounds many years ago and I used to attend a Mental Health Day Centre and would help in their Information Shop, they helped me and I was shown how to use their computers and listen to members concerns like they did for me. It gave me more confidence when helping others and I also began to trust, that had been lacking after loosing my job. I also took quite a few courses and that helped to extend my interests.

You will find it will be easier to get a good job if you are taking part in other interests in the voluntary field in fact you may become employed working in the centre you choose.

BOB

[nickyyyy61 in reply to Hidden]

I should try volunteering! It will probably get me to open up more like I’m really talkative and know how to keep a conversation going . I can be so outspoken but i just fear rejection thats all 😩

[Hidden in reply to nickyyyy61]

We all fear rejection if we suffer Anxiety or depression. Mixing with people who understand how you feel are very supportive and will actually listen to you.

Voluntary work worked for me, I do not do it now, the centre I was attending is over sixty miles away, however I do miss those who help me and others.

BOB

[Hidden in reply to nickyyyy61]

That's a great idea. No person likes rejection! You have to push yourself outside your comfort zone to move on in life. Good luck!

[Hidden]

What about working from home on ur computer??? Maybe start at something super easy..with super low stress.Do u like animals? Sometimes working with animals can really help those of us with medical issues.If I didn't have my pets..I don't know what Id do.

[nickyyyy61 in reply to Hidden]

I don’t have a computer i mean i have a laptop but no wifi lol and if i was to work from home how does that work ? And of course , i love animals i have alot of pets 😍❤️

[Hidden in reply to nickyyyy61]

The first thing to do is make sure that you do have Wi-Fi at home and a computer that you can use. If you can't do this then go to coffee shop with wifi and use your laptop there. Use Google to research what jobs people do from home and go from there. Everybody has to start out like this. Let us know how you get on ✌🏼️