Grieving a pet

[Malumaf]

I just recently lost my dog about a month and a half ago, it was a sudden loss, she was taken from me by someone else’s evil hands, and it takes all of my energy to just breathe and function, every time I pull into my driveway, walk into my house, go downstairs in the morning, open my bedroom or bathroom door, I forget that she’s gone and I have to go through this heartbreak over and over again and I don’t know how I can keep handling this because I’m not coping I’m just going numb, she was my world, TRIGGWR WARNING, I use to always say if anything happens to her I’ll kill myself, and it still just feels like that’s just a backup option if I can’t get through this, I just want to feel again, I have no joys in life, I’m trying to live the way she did, adventurous free always running around trying new things telling people when you don’t like them, but I have no joy in anything I use to, don’t like working out anymore, don’t enjoy food I have to force myself to eat so I don’t get sick or lightheaded, I don’t really enjoy tv or movies or videos, but at the same time I have to have a movie or show or video or podcast playing every second of every day even when I’m asleep or else I just picture her and I cry for hours, sorry this was long, I just don’t know what to do anymore

[Netty888]

My heart goes out to you. I don’t think I would be able to function either. My pet dog was taken away when I was 5. I suspect my step father sold her for beer money. As soon as I was old enough I left home and got a dog. As an adult, every time I’m having a crisis I go to the shelter and get another dog. You can’t replace your lost love but another helpless soul from the rescue centre will make a huge difference to your life and emptiness. I really recommend doing this. It works for me ❤️ x

[CatSandy7]

Hi, I too feel pain for my animals as strong as you x Grieving is a process you must go through, but unless you also keep your life going the grief will take over and your life will get out of control. Our animals are so dependent on us we grieve so intensly and we need them back in our life. You need to keep speaking about the pain. There are help-lines out there and you can speak to someone on the phone as often as you need – this is something that has helped me in the past when I lose one of my friends. I lost one of my cats to a dog owned by a very selfish and uncaring person. This for me was an extremely difficult time. I was off work for 2 weeks and I couldn’t stop crying and thinking about what happened. I was helpless to help Harry my cat and I still love him soo much ... tears ... I screamed for a long time I just want him back!! You need to keep talking about it, but you must keep your life going too. It takes a long time for the memory of what happened to get to a place where it’s not so vivid. I won’t allow myself to remember the circumstances of how he was taken, I remember Harry and the pain of not having him still with me, but also how he was such a fantastic cat and loved very much. I do believe they are around us and when we dream about them, it’s their way to communicate with us. Take care and stay well x

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We lost a Pat Dog eight years ago caused by stupidity of someone parking on a footpath and the car was leaking brake fluid. The dogs toe was extracted and eventually the dog got cancer in the paw that spread to the lungs and heart. It was heartrending even for the Day Centre Members that became very upset at the loss.

It is important you heal and one way is to talk out the loss, eventually you will move on. To get over the loss we took two holidays in Europe, a bus tour. When we returned we visited Dogs Trust and we were selected to take our new dog a Collie,X. called Pax. Yes it is hard when we lose our pets especially if we loose them through no fault of our own, by some one ignorance. All we can do is move on and possibly get another companion that although will never replace the lost, A new animal will help you recover as you become used to a new family member. Our Pip, the old dog, I still feel He is around at meal times, Pax sometimes growls like someone is going for His food. Also I feel a lick on my toes when Pax is nowhere near. or something rubbing against me at night.

There are many dogs who need a home, they never replace although they do fall into your needs. Pax was left on an Irish Ferry at five weeks old, it took us twelve months to get Him Healthy, it did seem that Pip chose Him for us. Pip was a Jack Russell X Staffy.

Move on given time and hopefully you will find a new doggie Partner who needs your help. Our dogs always go on holiday with us and Pax is no different, you will make new memories eventually.

BOB