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But my *%#@$*&% kids are. A stressful day with a sick grandchild, doctor visits, and so on. I finally settle down, to relax a moment and the phone rings. I always know when my phone rings it's not going to be good because it never is. I hate phones. My daughter apparently has been kicked out of rehab. 47 years old she is. An hour and a half drive from home for me. Stranded in a crime infested city, no money and no one to call but me? Really? She abandoned her kids, why should I be there for her when she treats me like crap anyway? Because I'm a good mother or just a fool?

I've entitled the above picture "The Takers".

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kenster1

kids always pull at a parents heart good or bad.kicked out of rehab can mean four things drink drugs stealing or causing trouble.if shes in an unfit state would you let her back.its hard because as you say your a loving mother.try and gauge her mood over the phone before making any decisions.its hard but think of the kids.

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Suzie40

Your her Mum, and if you didn't care you wouldn't be posting here. She's lucky to have you. Why was she kicked out? My partner works in a residential detox clinic and he always feels really sad for patients who don't make it x

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MsTree in reply to Suzie40

She didn't tell me but I already know. Her 23-year-old boyfriend was in this rehab. From what I understand, a couple can't go to the same rehab. At least not at this one. They to the point of nearly killing each other and I've allowed them to stay here in the past. It's not going to change no matter how much she tries to believe it will. I've learned a lot about addicts and manipulation is something they are skilled at. I have to stay one step ahead all the time just waiting on the next thing to happen. Her brother, my youngest, has already put me through hell on earth. It's a living nightmare I wouldn't wish on Osama Bin Ladin. Well, I might wish it on him. I love them, God knows I do, there my kids. But there comes a time when you realize you are not helping them but instead you're killing yourself to meet their needs. Gheesh

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DiamondHeart

Hey ,

I hope you've woken up today a little more positive ....

Your children are yours and you feel as you brought them into the world you have an obligation to go through life with them and clean up their messes as you would when they were a child.

However , shes an adult shes now responsible for herself as a mother she needs to be able to pull herself out of hole shes in and stand on her own to feet ..

Sometimes she needs no one to fall back on to understand shes old enough now to be her own savior.

When is it your turn for some peace ?

I would tell her shes on her own as heart breaking as it sounds she makes the choices you can keep fixing them , if you enable her to continue they way she is this will be your cycle of life forever.

Power of now

xx

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MsTree in reply to DiamondHeart

Thank you for those words of encouragement. I guess I needed validation for how I really felt about it. I'm not a cold hearte4d person. There comes a time to just say to yourself "STOP". My mother always said, "To Thine Ownself Be True".

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