I so stupid

[Charmerbluegirl]

When I'm finally happy again I always ruin it. I just don't know why I can't seem to be happy. I hate myself for this one stupid thing I gonna regret probably forever.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Charmerbluegirl

Thank you for your message. Can you let us know what ruined your happiness so we can help?

Please don’t hate yourself we all have things happen that we either regret or wish had not happened.

Is it something you need to talk about with someone, perhaps your doctor or a friend or family member?

Do let us know more

Take care and best wishes

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to MAS_Nurse]

I rather not say Mas_Nurse but it's nothing medical thanks for the concern.

[Humankind-BE_BOTH]

As someone who has also done very stupid regrettable things this quote brings me solace

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel"

And when I apologize sincerely it made them feel better and forgot the initial wrong...

Give it time

[fauxartist]

self sabotage is very common with a lot of us. When we hold onto boundaries that have been crossed and internalize it, hold onto regrets, guilt, blame, shame.....all of that which cannot be changed, what's done is done....and things done to us by bad people have to eventually be addressed. Preferably with a professional for guidance....all of these things and more that beat us down and hold us down.....often self loathing and self hate come from all of the above..... we self sabotage because we feel we don't deserve to be happy, ...we are the only ones who can burn those old tapes and change out tune....no one else can do that for us. But I am here to tell you that you can do this for yourself...no quick fix's....no one size fits all....no magic pill....just work on a daily basis. And some days are better or worse...it's just part of the cycle.