Am I stupid?

I know I only posted on here the other day but I can't even speak to people. At uni I've nearly passed out 3 times today having gotten my self so stressed out about talking to people. Whyou am I being so stupid?

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Hi have you read the replies on your first post 2 days ago? You got some good advice. Have you or are you going to follow it?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

As daft as it sounds I'm terrified of going to see another counselor because I've had nowt but bad experiences with them. I'm not sure if that was just because I was under 18 at the time but I'm really jubious of the risk. I've got no idea what there is available here as I'm in an area where I know nothing.

[equilibrium123 in reply to Hidden]

Just remember that not every counsellor is the same and the more tell yourself that the next one will be the same is your negativity. Have some faith and trust in others. What is your reason for not getting the best experience from your counsellor?

[Goldfish_]

You have to change your user name and start work on positive affirmations. You're certainly a winner to get through your childhood and reach uni. So why not work on your positives. Write down 3 positive things you've done each day. Never use write any negative comments about yourself on this site or anywhere else.

Repeat some positive statements to yourself each night sites.google.com/site/behav...

It's up to you to work on these things. Only you can do it.

[Hidden]

Hi you are not being stupid. U probably got panic attacks. U can ask the uni for help. They have like night lines manned overnight and councillors even grants for special equipment like a dictor phone for when u r anxious and can't focus on lectures. They can help immensely the uni. You just have to ask for help. I hope you get help for the anxiety from doctors. I use to take Propanolol from doctor to slow my racing heart. I would have a panic attack mid lecture. I eventually had to have a word with the tutors who would let me leave the room for a bit if I needed. It released a lot of stress from me knowing I could leave if needed. I wish I had asked straight away. Confide in student services. U can get a mentor through uni. Who meets u once a week to help you work out strategies to manage social situations. Also see if u can tell any new friends u have made or who feel approachable. I made friends like this by talking to one or two who seemed kind. They would let me catch up on their notes if I missed anything. Any mature students on your course might be understanding as it's been a while since they been in a learning environment and with being older they might understand that fish out of water feeling. Students loans company provide grants to for mental health for cetain things to aid you. If you need message me.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for sharing this. It doesnt help that I don't fit in. Pushing myself out of my comfort zone getting people to do something and no one wI'll have a bar of it. I don't understand why tho. I do think I need to bite the bullet and ask for help.

[Toci in reply to Hidden]

I agree you need to ask for help, as many do in your circumstances. And the first step to getting better is changing your user name. I agree with others and have found myself that positive thinking does help. Choose something light, hopeful. Good luck with it all.

[Olderal]

Don't ask us, you are more likely to know the answer. Get rid of the losing pseudomym and tell us what nearly passing out feels like. People either pass out or they don't.

I don't want to sound unkind but if you are at University you are not a kid and after presumably at least 18 years of life you should know that there is nothing stressful about talking to people but you will find life quite stressful if you don't talk to people.You may well need some help, and we'll try and give it but I would expect a university undergraduate to be capable of expressing the help they need a little more clearly, even in dumbed down 2016.

Olderal

[Toci in reply to Olderal]

Oh Olderol you do sound a little unkind. Many people do indeed find talking to others difficult, even those with degrees, I know this first hand and I am no 18-year-old. And I can describe nearly passing out too - a feeling of dizziness as the edges of the vision darken and stability lessens but somehow staying conscious and the feelings eventually receding. Please try not to dismiss something just because you have had no personal experience of it.

Toci

[chloe40 in reply to Olderal]

Your reply was extremely unkind to a member who was seeking support from our Community. I have contacted this member privately.

Chloe

[Toci in reply to chloe40]

Me? I apologise.

[chloe40 in reply to Toci]

No Toci, not you!

Chloe

[Hidden in reply to Olderal]

I think your so called advice is damaging to this persons mental health. University is hard especially if you have anxiety. I would have thought being on this forum you would have had more compassion and understanding. Ps they are not a university graduate. They are just attending university. Most likely a freshman who is just a beginning. I would suggest you would be a more responsible adult yourself that by being so judgemental and making this person feel bad about themselves. Most 18 year olds find it an daunting process who is why so many drop out their first year of uni. Never mind someone with mental health issues.

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I agree Toci. I found social situations very difficult too in my teens and early 20's so I sought counselling which really helped me. Not every young person, even nowadays, is mature to deal with this. My family background was nowhere near as dysfunctional as the posters.

Looser I'm not sure what you expect of the site - we can only listen and give you advice based on our own experiences. Often in life you have to be proactive to get help and you have to either ask or try self help. There is no other choice I'm afraid if you need to sort this. x

[Toci in reply to Hidden]

Oh dear - she has left us.

[Hidden]

Oh what a shame. Let's hope it's just a name change and they come back. x

[bluefolk]

One thing I didn't expect to find here was a tone of judgementalness from some. Yes being active is great but people affected by severe depression cannot always jump to it. There is a difference twixt mild n severe depression. Kindness and acceptance first step. I found the same critical slightly judgemental stance to the distressed Pakistani boy who wanted to move to USA. Kindness is crucial as step one

[Iluvhorses]

Hey there! You can get academic accommodations to help you succeed in school like extended time to complete assignments, test taking in different locations etc. Accommodations can be for people with mental issues and not just physical disabilities. I know because im in college too with ptsd.