Advice needed please

[missconfusedea]

I’m new here so not sure if I’m doing this right, but I just need some support! I have suffered with depression and anxiety on and off for years, I go up and down. I have been fine but lately I am finding my self in a down hill spiral...it’s getting worse every day and I am forever arguing with myself, trying my hardest to snap out of it but I can’t this time. It’s affecting my relationship, I have no time to enjoy my children as I’m always stressed and down, even every day living is becoming harder, I pushed myself to my limits a few month ago and forced myself to taking my driving test, which I passed....The plan was to get on the road so I can better mine and my children’s lives....live more, see more places, be more independent but it’s been 5 month since I passed and all I do is the school run, I’m too scared to go anywhere. It’s affecting me so much....I just need some advice please

[Alex79]

Stay strong! Do the things you are comfortable with and don't beat yourself up when you can't do something if you are really anxious about something talk about it because a lot of the time that can help to calm you down. At times when you are feeling very anxious take a time out that's what I do just take a breath in a quite room for 30 minutes or so. Good luck!

[missconfusedea in reply to Alex79]

Thankyou that’s probably my worst habit, I don’t talk I just bottle it up hoping it will go away on it own....I’m my own worst nightmare at times

[Alex79 in reply to missconfusedea]

If you ever need someone to rant at I'm here for you x

[missconfusedea in reply to Alex79]

Thankyou that means a lot

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missconfused

I passed my test when I was seventeen and a half, I had a great deal of travelling to do when away on courses and by the time I had completed my courses I could not be bothered to go away for several months. I took my Youth and Community Certificates and would spend my weekend with the youth club camping and walking the countryside eventually I was hill walking with them and going on holidays Ridge Walking and Scree Running. However most of my walks were on countryside and would go away several times a year to different areas.

What I am trying to explain is you do not need to travel very far in the UK and you do not need to climb mountains. Take your family out once every fortnight walking on the beach or in parks , whatever anything to take your mind of your low mood, it does work and you have the benefit of doing something your family can manage together. Use your car as a way of releasing all your tensions. We are members of English Heritage, boys love castles and girls like dressing up. They have history days where the children can join in. It will engage there thoughts and they will learn.

You can also try other diversions with your family when at home, consider hobbies or activities that you and partner can do with your children. Swimming, most kids can learn to swim as can you, another way to make a positive impact on you and your families lives

BOB

[missconfusedea in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou that makes a lot of sense in what your saying, I will try this

[welly10]

Hi try this book feel the fear and do it anyway Susan Jeffers.also a book called f#*k it.try to learn your triggers and manage them anxiety is a bitch but learning how to breath and use calming measures helps cbt is also good for recognising your negative and irrational thoughts and challenging them good luck for the future and try stay strong