I dont know what anyone thinks of this post but I would be interested.
I live in a building which was erected in 1900, so it is one hundred and eighteen years old. It is a Listed Building and home to four families. There are only four flats within the building but we dont have a factor for the building so any works need to be paid by the tenants. We, many years ago, used to have a savings pot but once we realised the person who was in charge of the savings pot was actual very dishonest and most of us asked for our money back, the savings stopped. There is a lot of work needing to be done to both outside and inside the flats.
Anyway, a lot of people may not like my flat. It might not be posh enough or modern enough but for over 20 years now it has been my home even with all of its flaws. (I tend to look upon my building as an old lady who is just in need of some TLC).
Last week an old friend of mine who was "just passing" popped up to say Hello and when this person came in, starting commenting on the cracks in the ceiling in the living room and various other things. I thought he was being a bit rude but didnt say anything other than I was about to go out and he said he would leave.
I became very upset later that evening as he telephone me to say it was lovely to meet up but that I need to see someone about moving out of that "cesspit" that I was living in and how could I have lived there for so long in such poor conditions. My home is always clean, neat and tidy. Smells lovely (I have a thing about smells) but the close and the building needs some attention. We dont have the amount of money it would take to make it "well" again!!
I would never dream of commenting on anyone's living conditions or home, even if I did think they needed some attention. I have come through a lot in that wee flat and managed to bring up a baby (who is now 19) by myself when his useless father decided he couldnt "do this"... To me it feels like "home" and I feel safe there!!
I just felt really embarrassed, ashamed and confused all at the same time. I dont know if I am being "snobby" about this by feeling this way..?? But how dare he!!
I pass people on the streets of Glasgow on my way to work every morning who are living in cardboard boxes and all they have is a sleeping bag and a dog to keep them warm. Yes, my flat might be small and in need of some repair but compared to these poor souls at least I have a roof over my head!!
Sorry for prattling on but has anyone else ever felt, or been made to feel, ashamed of where they live or the house they live in???.
I forgot to add also that I dont invite just anyone into my home so this person will not be coming back!!!
Lots of love to you all..