Green Card Marriage

[Iluvhorses]

Hello everyone! So I totalled my car a few months ago and that's how this all got started. I am currently renting a room from a Pakistani family and was talking with the wife yesterday. We were discussing how I could buy myself a new car. She suggested that I marry her nephew in exchange for one. He lives in Pakistan and wants to come to America. I said no, but this conversation really stressed me out. This "proposal" has taken an emotional toll on me even though I turned it down. I just can't understand why I am so affected emotionally seeing that I didn't agree to anything. Anyone have any ideas?

[Stilltrying_]

Well it's an outrageous suggestion of that lady and presumably you were getting a sense of security from having somewhere nice to live before all this happened. This conversation will have put a question mark over your trust of the lady in question and subsequently may have made you feel insecure in your situation. I think I would be very affronted by someone suggesting that to me, as if I was a person who would do such a thing, NO WAY! ; so it would make me feel very jumpy as well in that way.

I would suggest you think about finding somewhere else to live if that is at all possible as I wouldn't really want to live in that kind of environment. If not just stay firm and make it clear you are not that sort of a person and would never agree to do anything dishonest for them.

Best of luck xx

[Iluvhorses in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thank you. It's good to know that my feelings are valid. I just couldn't pinpoint why I was feeling this way since nothing has changed or happened.

[Hidden]

Move out and find somewhere else too live.

BOB

[Hidden]

I'd prob feel the same way as you, shocked too.

Maybe you need to get out of there asap.

If you feel threatened by it or they keep asking you about it, don't be afraid to call the authorities, I'm sure it is illegal.

[Iluvhorses]

She dropped it as soon as I said no. She assured me that the man was respectful and that I would get my end of the bargain. I still said no because marriage is far too big of a deal for me. Plus I've never met the guy, so I can't really know what he's all about. Up until this conversation, everyone has been very nice to me. Especially since my Mom lives in the same house, I think I will stay here for now and maybe address the issue. Maybe I'll let her (the homeowner) know how this suggestion made me feel.

[Hidden in reply to Iluvhorses]

As long as you are ok, that's the main thing.

[Iluvhorses in reply to Hidden]

Yes I'm fine thank you. Like I said, the conversation made me feel very uncomfortable.

[Hidden in reply to Iluvhorses]

I'd have felt the same....

Take care Ilovehorses.

[sweetiepye]

Ok my friend, We've been through a few issues before. I trust and respect your judgement, however you can be a little too trusting at times. Get out of there. Do it now. I don't care if your Mother does live there. Are you still in school, is a dorm room an option ? This woman has asked you to do something illegal , she may feel threatened by you now. Crazy things happen so take this seriously. Pam

[Iluvhorses in reply to sweetiepye]

I do not have any options unless you want to count my Dad with whom I don't get along. Do you think it's possible that she didn't realize green card marriages are illegal?

[sweetiepye in reply to Iluvhorses]

I think she knew exactly what she was doing and assumed you would be naïve enough to go along with it. The fact that she was willing to use you and possibly get you into trouble should be enough to tell you never to trust her.Pam