What am I doing wrong?

[aurora7]

It seems to me that the nicer I am, the more guys think they can play me.

Background info: I have had a long relationship of six years that ended roughly two years ago. For a year or so, I was not interested in dating or guys in general, I was still licking my wounds, so to say. Now that I am back in the dating pool, I realize that it's shallow asf. I used to be the kind of girl who was a bit bitchy, flirty and incredibly private when it came to talking about feelings but I have been trying to change that ever since the breakup because I feel like those traits contributed in ending the relationship I was in greatly.

I have never been played in my life before and this new situation is really bugging me. I have met 2 guys this year, not at the same time, one of them, I found out later on, was also seeing another girl the entire time he was "dating" me. I had told this guy I didn't want anything serious at the moment and that I wanted to take things slow which he agreed to - but he kept repeating that he wanted me onlu, and had serious intentions and whatnot. Then I find out he has been seeing someone else on the side, ha. Of course, I ended things immediately and I really do not care about the guy. No tear wasted there - I just want to know why.

The second guy I have been dating was extremely into me or so it seemed, calling me and texting me all day every day, even on the days we saw each other, non stop checking up on me and talking about his future plans until... he started ghosting me. That's right, ghosting. No replies to my texts, my calls stayed unanswered etc. There weren't any fights or anything of the sort prior so I was left with a what the f... feeling.

To me: I am incredibly attractive and good looking, smart and funny if you like your humour black. So I really have no idea why I have been running into idiots lately when this has never happened to me before.

It is starting to make me think that there is something wrong with me. Any thoughts?

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You seem to be picking up the wrong type of Man, this also happens to Men so no difference there. In a way you must be picking up your past Partners in the wrong place. Also you mention you are a good looker, this sometimes puts the good men of as these women look for for energetic good lookers, not only that the normal man can feel threatened by your looks and a future Partnership together. Would the good looker run of with a man with a bigger attitude to life.

You need to ask what you want out of a relationship and take into consideration faithfulness, you will both be able to follow, lies are a killer in more ways than one. You start by looking for someone with these trends, then look at what His profession is .

Sometimes the middle of the road is safer than jumping of a bridge to find love

BOB