Stop the drink

[STE1892]

I'm not doing the best I can for my mental health I'm in a vicious circle of not helping myself or being as responsible as I could be I need to cut out alcohol

[Strongheartforever]

Hey we are all there. Don’t go into a spiral. Get GABA it’s a natural neurotransmitter you can buy at a health food store or decent grocery store. And while you’re there pick up some CALM gummies, it’s just magnesium but it calms the mind. I’m popping them lately. Come back from the ledge. We are all clawing through the days with a respite here and there. What’s going on exactly? Write it out here and gain some perspective. Believe me, I can relate to this feeling of falling and losing control and you are in danger of losing your grip on reality if you don’t stop yourself. Alcohol can dehydrate you, then your brain can’t function on top of being wasted. You gotta hydrate your body. The world is full of people who want to help other people, who want to SAVE other people. I’m one of them. I never thought I’d be one who needed this much help OR would have the TIME and desire to help. I’m feeling more safe in the world now in knowing there MUST be good-hearted people with the time, will, energy and platform to come through for a total stranger. I wanna get stronger so I can help more. Know this. You aren’t alone in fact you’re on a planet filled with abundance!! Have no fear!!

[Sarah1111111]

Hi, I’ve been there, and still am really if 8m honest. It’s really hard but you are right that breaking the cycle is the first step. Make sure you don’t have alcohol in the house as it makes it too easy, then try and find other things that work for you. Work out what helps distract you, calm emotions, basically anything that can help to reduce the level of emotions you are feeling in the moment. I’ve found a couple of apps that help. One that’s more for self harm /suicide can be useful as it lists activities that last 5 or 15 minutes to prompt you to try them and so put off the negative response for a short while. Eventually if you can keep putting it off the feeling does subside and you don’t want to drink/self harm/act on suicidal thoughts. It’s called card harm and is free. Posting on here is a good distraction that I find works!

[Strongheartforever in reply to Sarah1111111]

Yes and not only is it a distraction it’s therapeutic distraction to post here and vent and take away the heaviness of these thoughts we run from. What are you fearing so much? Stay out of the future. Try to communicate better with yourself and get clear on where the pain stems from. I found I was choosing not to feel safe in the world and in turn, my whole foundation was rocked, by my own doing. You have support here but you need more in the real physical world. Find someone and give them this burden you are carrying and also, let it go a little every day and get into nature. She will show you the moment in all it’s vibrant beauty. Find a sanctuary out or in or here or there but find safety and relish it and enjoy it. Love is the answer.

[Sarah1111111 in reply to Strongheartforever]

For me it’s the past as well as the future that takes me away from now and makes me eel unsafe. I just want to stop feeling, stop remembering, stop everything for a while and end up trying anything that seems to do the trick. Trouble is it comes back to me as soon as whatever it is has worn off. Don’t you just sometimes wish you could stop the world for a while, be in nothingness just to have a break and then come back later when you are stronger.

I know nature helps but some days I struggle to get out the house, it’s better if I’m meeting someone as I feel responsible for not letting them down. Life used to be so easy, if only I had realized then how easy it was!

[bailey01]

Hi,

I am recovering from one huge severe depressive episode, which if I'm honest has gone on for over a year with huge lows, and some good times. I've come to the conclusion that alcohol is no good for me either so have cut right back. I drink no alcohol wine and lagers in the house and sometimes when I'm out and only on occasions have the odd shandy, which is ok. With me it's just not worth the risk having anymore. Hope you're doing ok xoox

[STE1892 in reply to bailey01]

Thank you