So, my sister has been through a very difficult time mentally and financially. She went through detox with meth and alcohol. Came out of the other side beautifully. Stayed clean, worked her job everything.
I was there to help in every way. I love my sister I want her to be happy.
I don't know what's going on now. But she's avoiding my phone calls and doest want to speak to me..
I don't understand?! I know I haven't done anything to make her angry. Why is she shutting me out?? It really hurts
Sunontheice
Sometimes after treatment patients sometimes need to be alone sometimes. It may be that you need to give Her Space, although if you are passing ring her doorbell.
BOB
I'm going to give her some space. It's going to be difficult. I'm afraid she'll get hurt or something.
Hello Sunontheice
Do you know anyone is is able to see Her or are they stuck as well ?
She is going to need some support, I hope She is ok, could you have words with Her GP and get some advice
BOB
Could there be a change that she relapsed?
That's what I'm afraid of.
Hi I am wondering if she is trying to forget the past and maybe she associates you with it? If this is the case I should imagine she will come to terms with it in time.
Another thought which occurs to me is to wonder if she is one of those people whom the more you help the more they resent it and turn on you? I have a sister who is just like that. I know it's nothing like as bad as you went through with your sister but mine has severe osteoarthritis and a couple of years ago got huge pain and was told the muscle in here back was separating. I spent 3 days looking after her, cooking, getting her meds and shopping and speaking to the doctor on her behalf. I even got her doctor to give her some oramorph etc. I fought her battles for her.
My reward? On the 4th day she spoke to the doctor who was just a bit concerned about the addictive qualities of oramorph and my sister got very upset with her at the thought that SHE could get addicted. When I went round she was crying hysterically so I rang the doctor asking what on earth had happened. The doctor explained it to me so I calmly explained it to my sister saying why blah blah. She refused to listen and just screamed abuse at me at me accusing me of never being on her side, it was my fault she got the oramorph and I made her take too much (only the prescribed dose). After about 10 minutes of this when I couldn't calm her down and was sick of being treated like a bit of dirt I walked out. She then rang a very close male friend to help instead. She never apologised for that when she recovered even though she admitted she wasn't seeing things straight at the time.
Never will I ever be caught again like that! I hope your sister isn't like that but who knows with people. I would give it some time and leave it to her to contact you again. I am sure she will in time. x
I'm sorry what you and your sister have been through.
I'm not sure if my sister resents me helping her. I know she gets frustrated with me when I worry too much. It's hard not too.
Maybe like others on here have said she just needs some space. Thank you for responding.
Is She on Drug substitutes, or has the now had them withdrawn ?
Some people are not capable, simply not capable, of being supportive of any relationship 100% of the time because their emotional stability comes and goes. Cut her slack on this one. She’s fighting to get back to being the sister you know and love. I’m stepping back with my brother now. We just need space and time to heal. And I’ve realized he’s not able to be all he is all the time. Sensitive types need to recharge. Most important thing: don’t take it personally, it’s not about you.
Your probably right. Maybe space is what she's needing.
I'm sorry to hear about your brother.
It's hard.
Hi Sunontheice, Very saddened to hear this but Meth is worse than heroin to come off especially if she has been on for a while and that’s without the drink to detox too, she will be feeling pretty rough with literally no energy or get up and go for a while and mentally getting on for a year if she’s been using it for a long time, so she may just need to be alone for a bit as sometimes people start to agitate you a bit when you keep getting asked if your ok OR she may have had a “lapse” and may have “scored” because everything just gets so overwhelming after the main detox is over, I hope she hasn’t Relapsed and fully blown it, this comes from 18 years of addiction to heroin and prescription pain meds, and iv just relapsed after 5 years with my partner and child and she was/is my Soul mate, So I do prey she isn’t using again, not sure if this helped you much or answered your question very accurate.
Also if u were wondering the difference between a “Lapse” & “Relapse” is a lapse is just when u have a day doing whatever you drug or drink of choice was and a Relapse is when u full blown screw up back to square 1
Thank you for your insight. I don't know if she's had a lapse or relapse.
She's so good at hiding her addictions.
When she went into rehab, I had no idea she was hooked on anything. I was shocked to learn she had been a meth addict and for years and years. I knew she drank, but I never saw it in excess. I must be the most blind person on the planet. Smh.
My sister lives in another state. I drove down to see her. I stayed on her porch for four hours. It was fine I read my kindle. When she finally came home we had a talk, I think it's going to be ok.
And for the comments that I'm not there for het. Well kiss my ads. Thank you. And have a nice day.
You know what I meant
My narcissistic mother has abused me yet again and im in a very dark place right now....
Mom's back on her manipulations and abusive behaviour. I feel bad i was scared of the job, i want to rush back to university city asap
Don't know what to do about my mum!
I was chatting with my youngest sister yesterday about our childhood and my mums behaviour towards us both. It was very interesting.
My mother is the main reason for my depression.
