Can someone take the time to read and try and help?

[Notfortrllinh]

So to start off it's 5.38am I have to young kids a lovable clueess partner I hate my life I live for my kids without them I wouldn't be here but it's starting to get worse I don't know anyone with a history like mine so I have no one to turn to and doctors are hopeless take these it' in your head this will help I just don't know anymore I grew up with an abusive alcoholic father who recently passed was groomed at 13 his brother and brother in law also assaulted me at 14 15 I escaped to get trapped by a 27 year old man 2honheld me hostage for weeks brutally assaulted&sexually assaulted me to fall pregnant at 16 put that behind me and have police stalk and threaten me to have the 27 year old arrested because he was caught he did it to another girl I felt so guilty met my partner at 17 extremely happy with him even though he leaves his dirty washing lying about I always smile about it he's adorable like a puppy I guess anyway my father passed away last year in May my uncle passed last Feb I found out I was pregnant again last Feb and then 5 months ago the terrors started with headaches cold sweats insomnia binge eating or days without eating anything I am bigger which makes it worse I just can' lose weight no matter what I try I can't shake the depression I can't stop crying being awake alone nothing to do accept going through each horrible thing that happened everything in my life is tainted with what these men have done I just don't know what to do anymore does anyone have advice did anyone stay to the end someone help me I'm not sure how long I can keep going like this

[sevto]

I have also been abused (Sexually, physically and mentally) throughout my life and I also sit and dwell on the bad things that happened to me. I also have an adorable puppy boyfriend that I love. To be honest I have no answers but what usually helps is doing something I like to help stop the thoughts. The flashbacks are hard to deal with and I have no solution. I plan on seeing a therapist soon because I've been really struggling with my depression and anxiety a lot lately and nothing seems to help, so if I find any useful information I'll let you know. Stay strong and know you have a friend.

[blackcat64013]

Hi Notfortrllinh,

Thank you for sharing your story with us.

The most important thing for you at this moment to make connections with people who help you achieve better health and wellbeing. You don't have to go it alone :).

A support group like ours can help you because it

brings together people facing similar issues or health concerns, We often share experiences and advice. Members of our support group usually share their personal experiences and offer each other emotional comfort and moral support. They may also offer practical advice and tips to help you cope with your situation. Just let us know what you want to talk about

It can be more helpful to talk with other people in person who are in the same situation.

The Mayo Clinc staff have great information on their website, some of which I have included below the link

mayoclinic.org/healthy-life...

While not everyone wants or needs support beyond that offered by family and friends, you may find it helpful to turn to others outside your immediate circle. A support group can help you cope better and feel less isolated as you make connections with others facing similar challenges. A support group shouldn't replace your standard medical care, but it can be a valuable resource to help you cope.

Support groups are not the same as group therapy sessions. Group therapy is a formal type of mental health treatment that brings together several people with similar conditions under the guidance of a trained mental health provider.

Support groups may be formed by a lay person with the condition or by someone interested in it, such as a family member. In some cases, support groups may be formed by nonprofit organizations, advocacy organizations, mental health clinics or other organizations.

Support groups also come in a variety of formats, including in person, on the Internet or by telephone. They may be led by professional facilitators — such as a nurse, social worker or psychologist — or by group members.

Some groups are educational and structured. For example, the group leader may invite a doctor, psychologist, nurse or social worker to talk about a topic related to the group's needs. Other support groups emphasize emotional support and shared experiences.

Benefits of support groups

Regardless of format, in a support group, you'll find people with problems similar to yours.

Benefits of participating in support groups may include:

•Feeling less lonely, isolated or judged

•Gaining a sense of empowerment and control

•Improving your coping skills and sense of adjustment

•Talking openly and honestly about your feelings

•Reducing distress, depression, anxiety or fatigue

•Developing a clearer understanding of what to expect with your situation

•Getting practical advice or information about treatment options

•Comparing notes about resources, such as doctors and alternative options

How to find a support group

To find a support group:

•Ask your doctor or other health care provider for assistance. Your doctor, nurse, social worker, chaplain or psychologist may be able to recommend a support group for you.

•Search the Internet. Online support groups are available as email lists, newsgroups, chat rooms, blogs and social networking sites, such as Facebook.

•Contact local centers. Contact community centers, libraries, churches, mosques, synagogues or temples in your area and ask about support groups.

•Check your local listings. Look in your local telephone book or check your newspaper for a listing of support resources.

•Ask people you know with the condition. Ask others you know with the same illness or life situation for support group suggestions.

•Contact organizations. Contact a state or national organization devoted to your disease, condition or situation.

What support group, if any, you ultimately choose may depend largely on what's available in your community, whether you have access to a computer or whether you're able to travel.

[Mizzkent]

Hi Hun sounds like you have been through a lot! There will be people on here that can totally relate. Thank you for sharing your story. I get your frustration with the doctors I’ve been having a similar issue for the past couple of years. I have my own mental health issues BPD depression and Anxiety I also binge eat and have an addictive personality. The doctors have been useless all they seem to do is want to give me pills. I have tried CBT which never worked also tried various anti depressants which made me worse so I would not take them. I’ve finally been given some without side effects. It’s only been a week but have been less anxious and no panic attack’s. I’ve also got an assessment with someone from mental health next month which I was asking for for over a year. Don’t give up with the doctors I know it’s frustrating when you feel no one is taking you seriously. I took my husband with me in the end for him to tell the doctor how bad things where. She finally listened! But I struggled for 3 years I’ve hardly left the house when they give me tablets I’d get terrible side effects so I would not go back for another 6 months to a year. Don’t suffer like I’ve done if things get so bad and you are feeling suicidal please reach out to someone. There is also the crisis team you can call in one in your area it is usually in most AE’s you can look it up. There is also call lines I called one for my area last year it really helped. Your not alone hun you take care always happy to chat. ❤️