Borderline personality disorder

[rrichardson]

How do you explain your disorder to people so they don't assume you're incapable of loving or a sociopath?

[Annunnaki]

Hi. I.am sorry to hear that you're struggling with the same thing I did and still sometimes do. I can only giversion you the answer is give.

I usually say it's a complex condition resulting from X (in myour case child abuse) that comes with (ie) depression and PTSD. I pick a couple of my main issues and leave it at that. I think we need to take into consideration that those we talk to will have a range of reactions from compassion, shock to evasion. They need time to both adjust and learn about the subject as much or as little as each individual wishes. So small amount of information, sometimes repeated and given in bits. It's an education issue really. I point them to easIly read article. Someone even gave me the advice of writing a letter if info for it easier. I think different tools will work for different person at different times. But most importantly be yourself. Everyone comes with some issues. It just happens the we have this one. I hope you find an answer that works for you. Take care. 💗

Blessings.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello RRichardson I'd just like to say remember your diagnosis or condition isn't what defines you. Your self comes from your soul and you do not have to describe any of this if you choose not to but you will come to do so with those you trust.

Be yourself, best wishes.

[rrichardson in reply to MAS_Nurse]

It's a relief knowing why I do the things I do and why I feel the way I do. I just want people to understand that I am things going on and that I am not a mean person intentionally.

[coolpolitealex]

BORDERLINE Personality Disorder, is just one of those terms used by psychologist's when they can't really form a definitive clinical diagnosis , and so the term Borderline (which is the optimum word) Personality Disorder and which in it's terms just that "Personality Disorder" which if you put many people under a certain microscope, will find that there isn't a personality that can be described in terms that we could call the norm so please try and not get hung up on it. best Alex

[Lx91]

Hi.

I was told it is like being in the middle of a grid formed of depression, anxiety, bipolar and psychosis. You can bob into and overlap in any of these categories but at some point will have shown signs of all of them.

I think it is the opposite of being unloving I would say we (I) almost care to much about people and that is why I worry so much about getting hurt or abandoned.

I guess the answer is that you can tell people as much or as little as you want, there are only a handful of people in my life that know that I have BPD as most people don't need to know, I'm still me I'm not just the girl with BPD.

I would say that if you can do some group therapy/DBT this is the best way to learn about the condition and ways to explain it to people, allthough a group was terrifying to me to begin with it has been the place where I have gathered the most information as I get chance to speak to people with the same condition rather than a nurse telling me what she/he thinks I feel.

L x

[Maxguitar03]

I am brand new to this site, I see this conversation was from a while back but I just wanted to say how I feel, I was diagnosed with BPD, and other mental challenges, I get told every day why do I look so mad or someone couldn't tell I was kidding because i didn't smile, laugh, say jk, ect..its not something I do on purpose or find it a problem it's just not what they are used to. Anxiety really ( really ) challenges me at times and others I'd have no problem walking through a concert crowd of thousands, maintaining a good clear mind, it's a frustrating feeling when we know we're on a rollercoaster but we didnt decide to get on or how long, we just do the best we can, I've thought alot about the comments some make about us being emotionless but in fact in there eyes we are because every second were are consumed by every emotion in our own mind that when an out side energy is telling us something that would usually get gasps or laughter we look at as just more emotions it's just information , I'm going to stop blabbing now. Have a great new year every one.