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Borderline Personality Disorder

Does anyone here have Borderline Personality Disorder?

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I have a younger Brother (40)who has learning disabilities as well as being bipolar and has a Borderline personality Disorder, he is my Father's son not my Mother's! I actually only found out about him about 12 or 15 years ago ,he is in a lovely Cottage in Surrey England one other lad with similar difficulties live in another part of the cottage they both have "Carer's" and are happy in their surroundings! I see him a lot nowadays since my Dad passed. He stays at my home sometimes at weekends, I have learnt a lot from him the other lad and the Carers about BPD so that I know how to respond to him or to be perfectly honest keep him in control! (It's difficult as I am not a controlling sort of person as my Children and grandchildren will tell anyone that will listen to them LOL)

I hope you find aqaintants and Friends on here as I certainly have! This really is a great place for advice and support People who actually understand us! And most of all Listen to us. Good Luck BBPDbabe all the best Derek

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Thanks for your reply. I am diagnosed with bipolar 1, borderline personality, and binge eating disorder. The crazy part is that there is no actual treatment for the borderline personality disorder.

I have not found much support on here but hopefully things will change. If not it’s okay. Everything happened for a reason ! 🙂

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Patience Lol it can take time for replies here,all the different timelines, but don't give up , I am on here a lot not necessarily to post but to read posts if you need someone to talk to and you don't mind a middle aged person who is a boring sod then I will always chat when I can

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Thank you, I will keep that in mind & I would appreciate the support!

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Yes. I never had a formal diagnosis though. I do have all of the symptoms listed here nhs.uk/conditions/borderlin... I am also a pretty nice, polite person too and a pacifist, so it should not be the basis of a judgement. I keep it mostly inside me which is a challenge.

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What is stopping you from getting diagnosed for it? I’m having a hard time with it ! The bipolar disorder is being treated with the medication but it’s hard to see improvements in my mental health when dealing with the borderline personality disorder. There’s so much to it and nobody understands

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Thank you for your reply. Unfortunately you are right and a there is so much to BPD and I myself find it hard for people to understand me too, especially with my unique condition that goes with it. I would like to think the BP is the most important thing to deal with though. I am guessing you take Lithium as that is pretty powerful so I have heard and I cannot imagine it being compatible with other meds.

I have not had it formalised because of physical disability (sight). No support or friends. Anxiety. It doesn't affect me most of the time as well.

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I’m sorry for the delayed response! All my energy vanished. I guess that’s a side effect of stopping medications.

Anyways...The upside is that neither one of us are alone now that we’ve found each other here. I thought Bipolar 1 would be the most important and hardest to deal with but it’s nothing compared to Borderline Personality because there’s treatments for Bipolar 1. No, I’m not on Lithium. I’m on a number of other medications to control my moods along with eating disorder.

I think you should still speak to a doctor about the symptoms that you said you have been experiencing and know that you’re no longer alone.

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No worries.

Problem with BPD is that's it's a multitude of issues which as far as I know, can only be

cured by constantly being around caring and patient people.

Will you come with me then please if you think I should?

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That’s true !...I’m not sure if I can physically be present during your evaluation but I can still support you just the same

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Hi. Yes I have bpd - first got a diagnosis 10 years ago, didn't really get much support and have recently had a massive resurgence of symptoms after a few years of managing to hold them at bay. Have realised that I really need to get to the root of things now, was really just burying my issues and keeping my head above water, not fun. Have stopped working and am going through schema therapy as well as trying different medications. There absolutely is treatment for bpd, you just have to fight for it quite a lot. I got some dbt skills training on the nhs last year and am in the fortunate position of having a supportive partner and being able to get schema therapy privately but someone I know IS getting it on the nhs through a complex trauma service. So ask about dbt / schema, both developed for bpd in mind. Dont buy in to the whole untreatable nonsense and look after yourself. Also might be worth looking at support groups in your area. Speaking to others with similar issues can be very helpful. Ive found instagram a rather helpful outlet too! This book is well worth checking out: wordery.com/reinventing-you... - an easy to follow account of schemas and how to work through long standing problems.

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Thank you soooo much ! Please don’t be a stranger! I’m very grateful for your response

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Welcome! I'm grateful for your response too. So easy to start feeling really alone and different with this sort of thing isn't it. You're not at all!

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Yes I do

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Hello

Thanks for responding. Do you care to elaborate?

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I was diagnosed in 2010 and now I successfully manage it.. It once ruled my life.. I have also learnt to master my mind and not let it master me

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I was diagnosed with BPD in 2014, but thankfully it was a mistake as I was found to have ASD instead - the two are often mistaken for each other, especially in women. I say thankfully because it is the worst diagnosis to have, I think. Psychiatrists hate personality disorder patients because medication cannot be a cure all. I, and the other people in the therapy group I was in, reported being treated like malignant attention seekers by the CMHT, GPs, turned away from hospitals when in serious distress (and escorted there by police for the same reason). I hope the perspective changes/has changed for BPD patients soon. It's definitely a bum rap in my experience.

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Thank you for sharing your experience. I appreciate your response.

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Hi,

I was recently diagnosed with BPD, although I suffered with it most of my life.

I've had several years where it's been quite dormant, although my social anxiety has constantly been a problem.

I’ve also got a m8 with BPD and it’s great to just chat with someone who understands, he was the one who talked me into getting help after things recently deteriorated. He says therapy has made a really positive impact for him.

I'm currently on the waiting list for therapy.

Take care

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Thanks for sharing your experience

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I was just diagnosed last week. Don't know how to feel about it. 😕😕😕

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I’m sorry to hear about your diagnosis. But know that you’re not alone. We can support each other. I haven’t been diagnosed that long with Borderline Personality Disorder. It has probably been four to five months if that. So there are many moments when I don’t know how to feel about it. There are times when I can not believe I have “this”. But I have been doing lots of research lately due to my Psychatrist. My Psychatrist told me that the next time I see him I should be able to tell him about my illnesses. So if you want I can share my findings and click the “follow” button. I wish you well.

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Thank you. I have been researching and watching videos. It makes sense, but just unbelievable. I did follow you

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Oh ok. I followed you back

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