Hi I'm new

[Willing]

Feeling really low don't no who to turn to I have 3 children and I'm 28 love my children so much there father left me a few months ago and blames me for why he left I have become very depressed and feel a sense that I'm lost I don't want there farther back as he manipulated me for years just wanna loose this worthless feeling

[Photogeek]

Hi there and welcome, I can sense your pain and worry, it's only natural to feel like this after a breakup of any kind,never mind when you have the responsibility of you three children.

Firstly it's not your fault he left, when relationships break down it's been know to happen that people don't accept their part in the. Breakup and they blame the other. So repeat after me " It's not my fault , " breakups are caused by bits of this and that, forget what he said.

He manipulated you so In that case you will find your feet and put on your warrior stance and be strong. Once you get your breath back you will get stronger. So take it day by day.

Use every support you can get and don't be afraid to ask for help from friends or family. This Forum is great for support and encouragement, so relax and you will be fine.

Hannah

[Willing in reply to Photogeek]

Thank u

[Willing in reply to Willing]

Kind words

[Olderal]

Hello Willing , well of course he blames you. maybe he's right but the odds are very strongly that he's just following normal human practice of blaming anyone but himself. Even more likely is a bit of blame on both sides.

You should definitely turn to your GP. They won't be able to give you as much time as you need or all the help you need but you'll feel better from having done something about it and your GP should be able to offer treatment that will at least help.

Depression will make you feel lost , lonely and worthless. It's no friend and does that to all of us. You'll certainly none of those things, you've got three kids, and hopefully other family and friends. Very few people have the inner resources to fight depression without medical help so if you have n't already done so get along to your GP. Even if he was a manipulator the breakup of a relationship is very traumatic and its not surprising its caused depression. Seek help.

Olderal

[Willing in reply to Olderal]

I think gp is the best option I have suffered with phcosis b4 so really don't want to deal with these feelings on my own

[Aiden1996]

Don't let them see the damage. Don't withdraw from them. I know it's hard being a parent but trust me, it's so difficult to grow up with a mother who shows a void in her life. I have severe borderline personality disorder, ADHD, dyslexia, major depression and mass anxiety. Don't let them grow up like me. It's really not worth it. Make them a reason to be happy

[Willing in reply to Aiden1996]

Trying really am trying,sometimes feels like I'm sinking

[Aiden1996]

I have techniques I use. I'm in a close personal group of people with disorders. We can all offer support. We have a lot of demons that all need to be controlled

[Willing]

Ok