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I can't seem to get anything right.I either overeat or undereat. I either get scared of having no friends or get scared of having too many friends.I'm just really confused in life right now.I justtild one if my really mature friends and she got scared so now I am questioning :how different is my life to hers?

[Olderal]

You sound very young. Life is confusing even to those of us well into the pensioner bracket and its more confusing if you are young.

You don't write as if you're particularly depressed. Your life is probably not that different to your friend's if shes around the same age. It does n't matter an awful lot if you overeat sometimes and undereat some times as long as your weight and build are reasonable and you are happy with how you look. If you're not then how much you eat is entirely up to you , no one else can decide what you eat and how much except you.

As for the friends issue never mind worrying about it just decide .Do you have too many friends or too few ? What is there to be scared of ? If you have too many thats easily and quickly dealt with and if you have too few, get involved in things that give you the opportunity to make more friends . We can't decide for you how many friends you want. This is not a forum for teenage angst, and your post reads rather like that I'm afraid. If you have a real problem tell us and we'll try to help.

People with dementia are confused and have a real problem. You just sound indecisive and while I sympathise that's hardly a thing we can help with except to tell you to make some decisions about what you want and then go and do it.

Don't let this put you off if you have a real problem. Post again and we'll try to help.

Olderal

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Life can be confusing at times. You need to look at if there is anyone who you can talk to about how you feel. If you feel like you can't talk to your family or friends you should check and see what services there are in your area that could help you. If you are at school, college or university there may be some counselling services on campus you can us. If you check out your local health centre.

We all get confused at times. Try and find think about why you think your eating habits aren't right, why you feel you have too few or too many friends and also why you feel confused. Also try thinking about what is going well in your life right now and what goals you have for the future.

I think you need to talk to someone who can help you.

All the best and I hope you have someone you can talk to.

[Findingme]

Feeling unsure of yourself is quite common when you are young and starting out in life, but some people have learned to hide it more than others, and some people have been through the same experience and learned how to overcome their fears.

Therefore merely comparing yourself is unproductive. If your friends are doing something that you would like to do but are scared if, ask them how they managed it. They might be flattered by your asking for help, and might be able to give you some tips. One day you will be in the position to help another person, so do not forget how this felt when you are feeling better.

Try to approach people whose lifestyle you admire, and always think carefully about following any advice which could be harmful. For example, if someone seems confident because they use drugs, this is not something to emulate. If they use meditation or visualisation techniques it could be more healthy.

[David196]

Hi

You are getting some things right.

You are aware of the emotions and confusing choices you are experiencing

You are sharing your concerns with a friend.

You have chosen to post on here and look for support.

Better choices than I make most of the time by not sharing at all.

I'm really confused with life right now but getting used to it.

Being confused is ok.

Being scared is ok too.

You are making choices, seeking support, asking questions to reduce your confusion and making courageous choices here and with friends to reduce how scared you feel.

Those actions are perfectly appropriate.

They build stronger friendships too.

If your friend is scared too then you are not so different in some ways.

You now have a chance to talk again and support each other.

We will all be different from each other and have different views and perspectives and experiences.

It's ok to worry as long as it is a trigger to do something about it as you have done.

By the way, you cannot have too many friends. The good ones will hang around and the others will become acquaintances, which is ok too.

If you want to post again, let us know a little of your circumstances and ask more questions. Its the only way to sort out the confusion which you cant deal with yourself yet.

Take care

Dave

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Hi just to remind you that this person is only 11 and has already been advised that they are far too young for this site where the minimum age is 16. AOD have already told them this and has given them a link to a more age appropriate site. x