What next?

[helena182]

Prior to my previous post the doctors were no help. I'm on medication as have always been, I finished my therapy sessions but still I am constantly reminded of the past things I've done things that happened which just makes my depression worse. I now feel like I'm at a road block 😔

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Hi Helena I am sorry to hear that. It can be very difficult to let go of the past can't it? But you have to accept that you can't change what has already happened - you can only learn from it and make your future better.

So you made mistakes? Show me someone who hasn't! I am sure you have done your best and even if that is c..p best is best isn't it? Your future is in your hands to mould as you will so concentrate on that. x

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Hi,

I couldn't let go of the past either and find myself reliving what if scenarios every once in a while. I got some advise from a therapist I was see, my GP and close friends and they basically all said the same thing.

1. Nobody is perfect

2. Don't be so hard on yourself (I play the Jess Glynn song with this title to remind me of this fact)

3. The past is gone you can't change it.

4. Sometimes when you are ill you do things that are out of character. Would you blame someone else that was ill for making mistakes. NO, so stop blaming yourself.

5. Think of the future and what kind of person you want to be and work towards that.

6. You are a good person and capable of good things, go out enjoy your life, learn something new, make new friends and most of all be good to yourself.

There is more, but I think you'll get the gist of what people have told me.

I still think of the mistakes I've made with regret, but I am getting better at accepting that the things I did I though were right at the time and even although I did somethings that I am so embarrassed about I have to learn to accept that the past is the past and I am not that person anymore because I am working to being a stronger,happier person and I am working on being me and not the person I was cause that is what I thought made some people happy.

Workout who you are, what you believe in and be who you want to be.

We are all entitled to be happy and we are all beautiful people, we are all different for a reason. Life would be boring if we were all the same, so embrace your uniqueness and yes you are entitled to have made mistakes, but you will learn from them.

When you start thinking about the past. Stop yourself and give yourself permission to let it go. I've heard that writing down a situation that you want to let go of and either shredding it or burning it helps to let go. Just be safe if your going to burn it.

My way is it picture it when I am at my archery club and shoot arrows at it, but the end of the night it's gone like popping a balloon with an arrow.

Wishing you the best for being happy. You deserve it.