Depressed & Disabled. What help get I get?

[CursedJon]

Hello to you all. I'm Jon and 52 years old. Im at this point now in my life where I feel I need help more than ever. I'm finding it harder to function on a daily basis, not only I'm I depressed I'm also disabled. I just wish it would all end. What help can I get? Thanks Jon.

[sweetiepye]

Hello Jon and welcome to our community on line. I'm glad you found us and I think you will be too. There's lots of kindness and support here. The help that we offer is from our own experiences, we are not professionals in the medical sense, although I've seen so many Doctors I feel I should have a degree.

A little more information would be helpful . Can you get out of the house, do you live alone, does your Dr. know about your depression? Have you tried any therapy? Do you have a pet?Seriously , people with pets do better.

My first thought when I read your post was that your mind is intact and you can access all sorts of stimulating things. Hobbies, books, internet, blogging, and more. Something that interest you.

You will get other replies with different advice so you won't be stuck with just me, but I do hope you will reply.

Pam

[CursedJon in reply to sweetiepye]

Hello Pam,

I'm trying to get out more, and I have just bought a new mobility scooter to do this.

I live alone, all I have in my life is my son and daughter.

I have been to the doctors, but I feel no one is listening to me, I have been through so much in life,

When I was 5 i was ran over by a hit and ran driver, and left in the gutter with 2 broken legs.

At the age of 7 in was in a train crash, and was so badly injured I was in and out of hospital for over 3 years.

I was also molested when I was 10 by my own brother.

I have also had many other things happen to me, but I'can go in to more details if needed.

I have never had any therapy in the past.

I do suffer from anger issues, I'm not a trouble maker, but if someone upsets me I feel like hurting them.

This maybe because I was bullied a lot as a child when my legs were badly injured in the train crash.

I have been in prison before, after someone started on me in the past.

And I really hurt him.

This is another reason why I don't go out a lot, because people wind me up, and it worries me what I might do.

I'll finish there Pam.

Could go on all night

Hope to talk soon. Jon.x

[grace111]

john you can get in touch with the council and just refer yourself for help. they will send you forms, thats what i did. it does cost money, they take into consideration all of your benefits or wages. and they dont charge much if you dont have the money, also go to you doctor and tell her what sort of things your not managing with, she will have all the places that you can get help from. or most of them. she may get you a social worker to come and visit you and find out how they can help. i hope you go and find out about this service, love grace xoxoxo

[CursedJon in reply to grace111]

Hello grace,

Thanks for your reply.

I feel I'm not listen to by my doctor, it's a different doctor every time I go.

But I will try the council like you said.

Thanks Jon. X

[grace111 in reply to CursedJon]

john, if you google social care direct you will find plenty links for your city as i dont know where you are. make sure you do this john you dont need your doctors approval nor referral. all the very best i hope your feeling a bit better. i just thought i woud check up and see if i could find the actuall dept that you need to contact. i'v not been to well myself, however im on the mend and i'v been thinking about you. i do hope that you get the help you need. love grace xoxoxo

[sweetiepye]

Hi Jon, I have several Doctors and I knew they weren't listening to me so I wrote a letter addressed to all of them and stated my complaints. I said I felt helpless , like no one was in charge and I wasn't getting any better. I handed each a copy and asked them to read it in front of me. I was nice about it, I just didn't want to forget anything. The Doctors who responded well I still see and the rest I fired. It's been better since then.I Iive in the U.S. so I don't know if you can do that

You have surely had a hard life and obviously you are a survivor . I understand your anger, and you have every right to be angry. Life isn't fair so we work with what we've got. It's important to keep your anger under control, you'll only hurt your self if you un leash it. There is nothing wrong however, with calmly nicely telling someone to get bent or whatever your favorite insult is. As long as you remain in control you won't feel the anger as much and with practice you may be a champion insulter. What do you think? Pam