Feeling low

[gibbogibbs123]

Ive gone back to square one again feeling low and feel so I'll and really fed up has anyone got any advice

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I guess by square one you mean you are depressed again? It is hard to find that you have felt ok for a time but then fall back into the low feelings. Can you retrace your steps and discover what triggered the latest episode? Perhaps we can help you if you can tell us more.

Suex

[gibbogibbs123]

I've been depressed for years

[gibbogibbs123]

Not seeing my kids is the main thing that gets me down

[Hidden in reply to gibbogibbs123]

That's a very natural thing to be depressed about as not seeing your children must make you both angry and sad. Are you not allowed to see them or does your ex prevent that? x

[Golfer15]

We all have good and bad days. Dont be too hard on yourself. Do something nice.

Take your mind of things. Do you like exercise? Go for a run, bike ride or brisk walk.

It helps me. Dont let this illness beat you!

David

[gibbogibbs123]

I was a bit silly the other day took 4 of my pills with wine etc

[Photogeek in reply to gibbogibbs123]

Oh well you know it's not sensible to drink with tablets,

As alcohol is a depressant.

Hannah

[Hidden in reply to gibbogibbs123]

I guess you were feeling pretty desperate at the time - don't forget though that if you harm yourself that will not help you to be able to see your kids.

[Gambit62]

Do you have any idea why?

Was it an experiment to see what the effect was? or do you think it was something more sinister and that is worrying you.

Part of human nature is experimenting ... the search for something that makes things better. It doesn't make you a bad person and it doesn't necessarily make you stupid ... though I do think alcohol is best avoided if you are feeling a bit down as it is actually a depressant in terms of its overall effect on the brain.

[gibbogibbs123]

I think it was an experiment to be honest and I just can't stop drinking

[Hidden in reply to gibbogibbs123]

Are you getting any support about the drinking? Maybe Alcoholics Anonymous if drinking gets out of control?

[WantToChange]

Your medication won't be working if you are drinking on the them. Alcohol will basically reverse any effect the meds have as alcohol is a depressant. I have had one drink on two occasions since I started my meds 3-4 months ago. I wanted to see how a small drink would affect me and it had no affect on my mood at all. I won't ever drink any more than this as I'm terrified of the depression coming back but also want to be social when I have to be as well... So it was a test but a risky one.

The alcohol will definitely be affecting your mood, especially if you are drinking every day. Have you considered going to an AA meeting at all? I don't like to suggest anything too directly but perhaps it could be something to consider? At the end of the day we are here to hold your hand but also to tell you when you are putting yourself in danger. People with mental ill health don't always realise or care when they are hurting themselves so I feel it's my duty to point out my worries.

I think you should tell your doctor you are drinking on the meds too. I don't know which meds you are on but some aren't as bad as others with regards to alcohol so it may be worth mentioning to your doctor ans see what he/she says.

All the best xx

[gibbogibbs123]

I just find drinking very relaxing and find its the only thing I enjoy doing

[djo35 in reply to gibbogibbs123]

I used to be a drinker. You must reach a point where you have had enough. Perhaps detox would be helpful or face to face meetings. I had to do something different to stop.

[Hidden in reply to gibbogibbs123]

That sounds really sad as if there is so little in your life that gives you pleasure. Do seek help with the drinking and look at why you turn to drink for comfort rather than get help from people.

[gibbogibbs123]

Detox ? How

[Hidden in reply to gibbogibbs123]

Your GP could refer you if you need detox - which is where you go for support in coming off drink. It all depends upon how heavily and how often you drink, also how dependant you are upon alcohol. It sounds as though you need help with your drinking so do see your GP and ask him to refer you for some help with that. Then maybe we can support you in getting to see your kids more if that's possible? If not, then maybe you need to grieve and we can support you with that. Suex

[gibbogibbs123]

i don't think I have a problem with drink I've just had 2 bad weekends and drunk too much on a normal Monday to Friday I have 2 cans a night I may have more at weekend and with my kids they are 13 and 15 boy and girl and I came out as gay about 5 years ago every time I feel like im getting somewhere bang they don't want to see me I understand what they are going through but I just want them in my life. kev