need to talk ,,,

[FallenAngel]

Today I got an email from a friend of 7 years telling me she had sent me a letter explaining she is in hospital after a suicide attempt ..how can I tell her I am in that place myself ... I don't know what to do .. advice pls xx

[Photogeek]

Hi Angel. If I got a letter like this, I would let her know that you too are suffering

From Depression, she was honest with you. So just tell her how you are, but

At least you are not in hospital.

I always think it's better and less complicated to be honest.

Hugs

Hannah x

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I agree with Hannah, telling the truth to a friend is always the best thing even when it may hurt. You may find that in time you can share things and it may bring you closer as long as you don't offload onto her at a time when she is feeling so down. x

[FallenAngel]

How can I turn her away , what if the roles were reversed? she knows I am depressed but not in great detail ..she has terrible scars from self harming she now tells me she is living on the streets . it has thrown me if im honest xx

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Ask yourself if roles were reversed what would help you? Personally if a friend told me they were depressed I would like to think it would be a relief to know that I wasn't alone and i had someone close that understood. Focusing on another person and helping them can help us as well.

James

[FallenAngel]

she says she is homeless , I could offer her a room but I am not sure 2 suicidal people living together is a good idea ... x

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If you get on with her it may be ok for a time, it depends upon how well you get on with her. You could give her a temporary space maybe for a fixed period - maybe a month - at first to see how it goes. x

[Stilltrying_]

I would agree with what JimDon said. She is a friend who needs your help and maybe helping her by just going to see her and aknowledging her will help you as well. That would be my advice X So many people shy away from people with mental health problems because they are scared but all she probably needs is to know someone cares,and you can show her that.

PS Just read about the offering her a room issue. You can still go and talk to her but you do not have to offer her a room; just explain that you don't think it would do either of you good but that you do care and will support her but trying to do so at too close quarters and so intensely I agree could be too demanding on you with the way you are feeling at the moment.

[FallenAngel]

my worry is 2 suicidal people getting together wouldn't end well ..I feel so bad for her , she has many many complex issues . thanks x

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I would be hesitant about living under the same roof but would help out any other way. If my friend had no other choice then I would offer them a place to stay but only if they exhausted all other options. I would imagine she'll be sectioned for a few weeks at least?

[FallenAngel]

I don't know how sectioning works all I have is a brief email she tells me she has written to me x

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Nowadays with all the NHS cuts in Manchester even people who need sectioning are waiting up to 3 weeks for a hospital bed!

[Stilltrying_]

You don't need to know all about sectioning really to just go and be her friend. She may be in hospital for a while or she may be released. You can still show you care but as Jimdon and myself have said offering her accomodation you don't have to go that far it would probably be too much for both of you and just make your problems worse. You can still support her though. X

[FallenAngel in reply to Stilltrying_]

thank you x

[coatpin]

Not to take away from her pain, but letting her know shes not alone, could help you both. Let her know about this site, it might help her too. We all on here have been to that place. Keep fighting for the light at the end of that dark tunnel. One day you will get there. Every day I get a good day, I delight in how thankful I am for not giving up. xx

[Mister_Bit]

I was "voluntarily" sectioned some years ago now and I have to admit, looking back on it, it helped lots.. it was good just to get away from everything and let others look after me. I know there is still a stigma involved but it's nothing more really than taking a "time out".

Anyhow, as others have mentioned, I think you should tell your friend. It helps in lots of ways.

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I wonder what happened with your friend and whether she is ok - I hope so. Suex