Erectile Dysfunction... 5 Minutes into foreplay, Every time

[CobraStubbles]

I'm in my mid-twenties, 6', 165-175 lb, and lead a rather sedentary lifestyle (thank god for that youthful metabolism amirite?), though I'm getting out and walking a lot more than I used to as of late (about the past 6 weeks).

As the title suggests, I've been having a persistent problem for the past three to four years where I'm just... not able to keep an erection after a certain part in foreplay. We get started, and I'm interested and into it and even the big guy downstairs is down to play. But maybe... 3-5 minutes into it, the big guy downstairs goes fishing.

Now, I'm a gay nonbinary person who enjoys to receiving penetrative sex, so it hardly gets in the way of things proceeding. But I used to enjoy giving and receiving and now I just can't be as versatile as I'd like to be. Its pretty distressing, especially when guys I like think that I don't like them.

The big kicker is that I can keep an erection while I'm masturbating - which can last for anywhere from a couple minutes to a half an hour. Lately (for about 5 days now), I've even started taking Rhodiola and doing kegel exercises a couple of times a day, and my erections during masturbation are stronger, higher angled, and longer-lasting than they've been in a while.

But that hasn't translated to a change in the big guy's vanishing act when it comes to sex with a partner.

Now, I do watch porn every time I masturbate, a habit I've been struggling to drop recently. I've been making a conscious effort to have it on only in the background or turn it off all together a couple times a week for the past three weeks or so. For perspective, I masturbate everyday, sometimes a couple times a day.

I did have a partner a year ago who liked to play porn during sex, and in that circumstance, I was able to get it back after he'd finished and then finish myself (eventually) but that was pretty tedious and uncomfortable.

So... there it is. I've finally said it.

Can anyone weigh in and give me some advice? Because like... I'm not going to be 20something forever, and I just want to enjoy it while I've got it.

[Hidden]

What happens when you foreplay with women ?

[CobraStubbles in reply to Hidden]

Gotta say, the last thing I expected was a response from Avatar Aang

[jaglad]

Try refraining from sex and masturbation for a while.

This does sound more psychological than medical but if you do find an answer please let us know.

[CobraStubbles]

Yeah... Pretty sold on dick, but thanks for your feedback.

[Galen70]

I think this is a psychosexual issue, as with porn you can last for longer. Its very difficult, the fantasy stimulation is of course exactly what gets you going, whereas with the other guy things may not be as "porn perfect" as you would like them to be. I think the strategies you have tried moving away from porn are a step in the right direction. next stop would be psychosexual counseling if this doesn't work. Your sexual preferences are men, not sure what all these comments about what do women do for you are talking about.