Penis help

[Jack32]

I need some help with my penis it's too small for mywife

[Goldfish_]

We all have to make the best of what we've got. Some things can't realistically be changed.

[kirubagaran]

what is the age of your wife and you?there are many medications and penis extenders avl.google it.

[Goldfish_ in reply to kirubagaran]

But they don't work and may cause problems. Best not to go there

[Hidden]

Hi Jack32,

Who says it's too small? You or her? In reality, how 'small' are you? And too small for what, exactly?

I'm honestly not trying to be in any way unsympathetic, especially if you feel your confidence or self-esteem is being eroded, but we are what we are and have to make the best of what we've got (in my case, not that much at all - well below average!!).

I agree with 'Goldfish_' some things can't easily be changed, and we just have to live with the fact.

To the best of my knowledge, there isn't yet a reliable surgical procedure to increase the length of an erect penis and while there are certainly various bits of equipment, potions, creams etc on the market (some of which may have a small effect, if only temporarily), I believe the received medical wisdom is that they are as yet unproven and not worth spending (wasting?) your hard-earned money on buying. Of course, I might well be wrong on these points so you'd need to do your own research.

As always, if you and/or your wife are having real problems, a visit to your GP may help, although I'm not sure what he/she can practically do to help you. Another option which comes to mind - and please, please don't be offended at this suggestion - is the possibility of you both considering some form of sexual counselling. That may well be a positive way forward, should you both still feel there is a real issue to be addressed.

Whatever you decide, I do wish you both well.

Kindest regards,

Peter

[Hidden]

Tell her to enjoy the small one

[gaunt897]

penis implant? or a penis pump.

[kirubagaran]

please understand ,what can not be cured must be endured.

[jimpollard Partner]

Has your wife said that? In practice, there are very few men whose penises are too small or too big for pleasurable sex and in fact there's far less diversion in erect penis size than porn and our sex-obsessed culture might like to suggest. If your penis size is causing you distress or you and your wife distress, try our beat stress service:

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[Hidden in reply to jimpollard]

An excellent reply, Jimpollard, if I may say so.

Kindest regards,

Peter

[Goldfish_]

I hope you realise that there is less difference in erect penis size than flaccid, non erect size. So some have a large flaccid penis that doesn't get much bigger on erectoon and others have a small flaccid penis that can grow considerably when erect. They are either 'showes or growers'.

Bear this in mind when you see other men in the changing rooms!

[Hidden in reply to Goldfish_]

Very true, Goldfish_, and well worth remembering.

[Stephen1955]

For most women achieving orgasm is unrelated to penis size. In fact, many women would rather their partner didn't have a penis as he is too engaged with the pleasure he gets from that, and doesn't give enough time to the pleasure he can give his wife.

Have you tried oral sex with your wife - many women prefer oral sex as they are far more likely to reach orgasmn that way than through penile penetration. There is an awful lot you can also do with your hand or fingers to bring her to orgasm.

Has your wife raised this as a problem since having a baby She may well have found that her vaginal entrance or even the vagina itself has become enlarged after giving birth.

If she has in the past been able to reach orgasm through pentration, post birth she may have lost sensation in her vagina. If she had an Episiotomy where the vaginal entrance is cut so as to prevent the baby's head tearing the skin too far, she may need a stitch or two to reshape and reduce the vaginal entrance so as to help her regain sensitivity - but it also might require her to do some exercises as well to improve the muscles around her vagina. She can ask to see a gynaecologist for advice on this

Penile surgery - and I am an expert on this having had such surgery (long story) - is difficult, complex, painful, and as my surgeon said "as much an art as a science". It can cause far more problems than it can solve. The penis can be enlarged as regards girth (thickness) by transplanting fats from the buttock or belly to the penis. However the result can become quite lumpy as years pass.

The penis cannot be easily lengthened however. You can have surgery to insert polythene rods which make it look longer by placing it in a semi-erect position. But Creating a truly longer penis is only possible by surgically removing what you have and replacing it with a new phallus (it is called this as it isn't a penis any longer). This will be made from skin from your arm, your belly or your thigh. It will need a penile prosthetic inserted so that it can be 'pumped' to create an erection. It is not possible to have an ordinary erection, or ejaculation with this penis - but it is a good alternative if for any reason such as an accident, your penis has been very badly damaged. However this is rarely a one stage operation, often requiring 3 to 6 separate operations (at least here in the UK).

FInally, has it occurred to you that your wife is generally unhappy with your lovemaking. Presumably when you first met she thought your penis was more than adequate and gained pleasur when you made love. Maybe you are not giving enough time and attention to foreplay, maybe you are moving too quickly to penetration and ejaculation, maybe you need to compliment her a lot, take her out to dinner, make her laugh (as you did when she first knew you), and spend far more time giving her back a massage before even thinking of foreplay and long before thinking of penetration. Furthermore, the more excited you are, and the longer you have to wait before penetration, the bigger your erection is likely to be.

If you think you need help with lovemaking there are many sources of help. A psychosexual therapist can help you both, or each of you separately, re-introduce pleasure into your lovemaking. Alternatively you can find out about th TAO of sex - Taoist practices focus on providing methods which heighten, intensify, and prolong lovemaking to strengthen the bond of love between a couple. Find out more by searching google.

I can honestly say that penile surgery is not a solution, it is the best that can be done when all else is not possible (in my case after injury).. However, there is an awful lot you can do before ever discussing this with a surgeon. But, if you do ever get that far because you cannot find any other solution, the only trained teams in penile surgery in the NHS are based in the Urology department at University College Hospitals London (UCLH).

My wife and I have been together for 40 years, and have 3 children. Only once has one of us not reached orgasm in our lovemaking - and that was me and was due to medication. I did then take viagra for a while in order to help with maintaining an erection. That was before my accident.. Since the accident, both before (when my penis really didn't work at all) and after penile surgery we have continued our lovemaking, always successfully. But we have both ensured we have educated ourselves about what each of us enjoys, and we spend a lot of time laughing - probably the best aphrodisiac in the world..

I would suggest you start by taking some time out together, without the children. Do something you both enjoy and then spend the night in a really nice hotel and take the time to help your wife remember what it was she really liked about you and what you liked about her. It will make a massive difference to both of you and truly enhance your lovemaking.

I wish you all the luck in the world in solving these problems, as the best and biggest adventure in my life has been the years I have spent with my wife and the fun we have had together.

[jenniferwilson]

I think you should stop worrying about it and try out some different things to make her satisfy and be confident about your body.