Loss of sensitivity after adult circumcision. Any help?

Hi everyone, I'm new here but came across this website/forum recently and was intrigued because it seems to be both instructive and helpful. I'm not sure if this is a USA or UK website (perhaps I should have looked more closely?) but whatever the fact, issues remain largely the same.

I'm English. Many years ago when I was a six year old boy living in Kloof, South Africa, I suffered frightening and very painful genital abuse in a children's home where I and my twin brother were sent when our parents had to be away in Johannesburg for several weeks.

The end result was a badly injured foreskin of limited use to me. Failed attempts to keep myself erect meant I had to 'start again' when fathering my three children. But at least what I had left of my foreskin kept my glans protected and of some pleasure to my wife

Eventually, following a frightening incidence of paraphimosis during sexual intercourse, I had to be circumcised shortly after; thankfully with a local anaesthetic.

But now I'm left with increasing loss of sensitivity to a permanently exposed glans (head of penis) as each month and year goes by. Is there ANY way I can retrieve the sensitivity I once had before I was circumcised?

Do the testicles and/or scrotum have any influence? I think not.

I can send a photo if needed.

Christopher

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  • Hi Christopher,

    Welcome to Healthunlocked.

    Firstly, sorry to hear about the abuse. Can you give the details:

    Have you been taking any medications post the treatment? How long has it been with the treatment.

    The community will help you

    Thanks

    kittu20

    healthunlocked.com/sexual-h...

  • Hi Kittu,

    Thank you very much for your welcome to HealthUnlocked.

    This will be a lengthy post giving necessary details of the abuse I suffered in the setting it occurred.

    When my twin brother and I were about five to six years old in Kloof, South Africa, Dad had to be taken to Johannesburg for an operation on one of his legs and Mother went with him, taking Tony, our younger brother, with them. This was pre-apartheid, and South Africa was a safe and wonderful place to be, even in the last months of WW2. I was very happy there. We had a nanny, our beloved Harriet, a black girl ('grown-up' to us, of course) who loved us as if we were her own. But caring for us night and day single-handed while our parents were away was not practicable. This left us needing care. We were put into a children's home for about two weeks.

    On our first night in this place, one of the other children knelt on his bed and told us, "You won't ever see your Mummy and Daddy again - not ever, ever, ever!" My mind went into a spin, shocked and uncomprehending. I tried to settle down on the thin mattress, so unlike my real bed at home, with his words filling my head.

    The next morning I woke up and was mortified to discover I had doubly fouled my bed. It was the same the following morning and the next... and so on. I feared waking up each morning with a soaking wet bed and the sensation of dried faeces cracking apart between my buttocks. "No, noo," I pleaded, burying my head in my pillow. I was deeply ashamed. I was bad.

    Initially I was dealt with in a detached, matter-of-fact manner: showered, dressed and left to live each day with all the other children. But I felt imprisoned. I still recall the high walls surrounding the tiny playground.

    Finally, one carer lost her patience with me. I was dragged to the showers and in an act of unconscionable violence she took the opportunity to punish me 'appropriately'. Grabbing a floor brush, she scrubbed me, back and front. My mouth opened in a choking, soundless scream, as mind-numbing, stabbing pain buckled my legs to the sight of blood washing away in the water at my feet. My memory of anything that ensued after that terrible morning is lost - except this:

    We were eventually taken back home... and to this day I remember in vivid detail the moment I saw my mother standing, waiting at the front door. I ran down the long path, crying out in joy, "Mummy, Mummy, Mummy!" And fell into her open arms, sobbing uncontrollably, released from that little boy's lies and the terror I had lived through.

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    By 'treatment' I assume you mean my consequent need to be circumcised as an adult. Please clarify if I'm wrong. I take totally unrelated medication. To my knowledge there is no medicine available to treat loss of penile sensitivity post circumcision. Again, please correct me if I'm wrong. I was circumcised in March 2001.

    Kind regards,

    Christopher

  • Rather than a urologist, I think its better you need to take help from sexologist or psyhologist for help.

    Thanks

  • I have noted your suggestion.

    Thanks

  • Hi Christopher,

    I believe that these forums are indeed 'international', and you'll quite often find questions and answers from members in various countries.

    Maybe I'm being rather dense, but I'm not clear what you mean by 'starting again' when fathering your children?

    May I ask how old you were when you were circumcised and how many years ago was the procedure undertaken?

    Am I right in assuming that you can still climax, but that it takes you ever longer to reach your orgasm and ejaculate?

    From my own experience, the glans does lose some sensitivity after this operation as it is constantly being stimulated by clothing, etc. For some men, that can of course be a bonus, especially if they've previously suffered from premature ejaculation.

    I'm afraid I don't know of anything that will restore penile sensitivity. I guess most of us enjoy having our scrotum/testicles played with during foreplay/intercourse.

    I would suggest that as this is clearly an issue for you that perhaps you visit your GP with a view to being referred to a specialist in sexual medicine?

    All good wishes,

    Peter

  • Hi Peter,

    By 'starting again' I was referring to my need to produce an erection rigid enough to penetrate my wife in the act of sexual intercourse and STAY erect within her long enough to reach climax. As you know, my foreskin was injured from the abuse I suffered as a boy. Its elasticity was severely compromised by ihe scars left behind. I often had to masturbate, sometimes with my wife's help, before I could penetrate her successfully.

    I was middle-aged when the surgery to remove my foreskin to place in March 2001.

    You're right that I can still climax and ejaculate, but it takes a learning curve to master without a foreskin.

    You are also circumcised. How and when did the surgery take place? As a baby perhaps? Please let me know, I'm very interested.

    A newly circumcised penis in adulthood with its permanently exposed glans is subject to extreme sensitivity when stimulated by the merest touch of clothing,. But the sensation is more than anything like hitting our humerus (funny bone) - very uncomfortable.

    Should you and I be happy that we now feel less and less glans sensation as every year passes by? You say: "For some men, that can of course be a bonus, especially if they've previously suffered from premature ejaculation." This is essentially a myth. A man with a fully functioning foreskin can stay erect and wait until his partner is 'ready'.

    You say: "I guess most of us enjoy having our scrotum/testicles played with during foreplay/intercourse." This is true, but is it true enough?

    My GP would possibly refer me to a urologist or a councillor I think. She is the best doctor I have ever been registered with as an adult, so I do thank you for your input, Peter.

    With my best wishers,

    Christopher

  • Hi Christopher,

    Thanks for your reply.

    To answer your question, I had the procedure done when I was 31 and I'm now 63. I'm not married neither have I ever lived with anyone nor have I any children, so my circumstances are very different to yours.

    I was deeply saddened to read of your experiences in SA in the response you posted in reply to Kittu20. It must have been an absolute nightmare for you, and I can only begin to imagine the sense of relief and security you felt when you were finally reunited with your Mother.

    I do wish you well and hope you can the answers you need.

    Kindest regards,

    Peter

  • My kindest regards to you too, Peter, and thank you for your kind words.

    Christopher

  • I'm so sorry for all the abuse, pain, and trauma that you experienced.

    I would recommend looking into foreskin restoration to help you gain back some of that sensitivity.

    savingsons.org/2009/10/fore...

    savingsons.org/2016/04/fore...

  • Danijenks,

    I must thank you kindly for your response.

    It's not the first time foreskin 'restoration' has been suggested to me. I put the word in quotes because the actual foreskin with all its fine-touch nerve endings can never be restored, as I'm sure you know. Had I been circumcised as an infant - as tragically so many USA boys still are - I would never have experienced the pleasure of a foreskin. And what I didn't have I couldn't miss.

    Therefore for men like these, using their penis shaft-skin to stretch and cover their exposed, dried-out insensitive glans must often be a welcome endeavour. But a hard work endeavour it really is.

    However, for me, who once had a vestige of the pleasure a real foreskin can give, 'restoration' can only be a compromise I would rather not endure.

    I will access the links you offered, after I send this reply - and respond in my next post.

    Christopher

  • Danijenks,

    The second of your two links - 'Foreskin is Better' - impressed me most because the man who lost his foreskin was circumcised as an adult and therefore KNEW what he had lost - just like me.

    That said, I still cannot encompass the notion of 'restoration'. But - and a big but - is the following recent news item from Mail Online:

    dailymail.co.uk/health/arti...

    Think of the joy it would give if it actually comes to pass, not just for men, but their partners too!

    Christopher

  • Hardly matters. Sensation is not on glans . It's inside . Don't worry

  • Not so with any intact penis. The inner foreskin with its myriad fine-touch nerve endings, reacts in tandem with the soft and very sensitive surface of the glans which is designed as an internal organ, covered and protected by the foreskin when the penis is flaccid and keeping the surface of the glans and inner mucosa moist and supple. When the penis is erect in the act of sexual intercourse the foreskin slides back and forth over the glans upon each thrust and semi-withdrawal within the vagina, giving exquisite pleasure to both partners. I know. I've been there, read the book and got the t-shirt.

    After circumcision, however, my glans and surrounding mucosa is now permanently externalised, exposed to the air and the constant abrasion of clothing. These areas dried out, causing layers of keratin to build, and have given my glans a dry, leathery appearance and nothing more than pressure-touch sensitivity - nature's attempt to simulate the protection of a foreskin.

    I ask again. does anyone know of a method or solution that will somehow simulate a foreskin? And I don't mean foreskin 'restoration' which is no more than using weights or pulling devices to stretch shaft skin over the glans.

    It's a tall order, I know; so "pigs might fly" might be the only response I get.

    Christopher

  • I dont think it really matters whether you have or don't have the foreskin, because the sexual ecstasy sensation is much inside and not on the glans only .

  • You've said this before, and it's your use of the word 'inside' which has confused me. By 'inside' do you mean a mental and emotional sensation of passion, bliss and joy? In other words, ecstasy? It's been said it’s like floating in water on your back while someone performs oral sex and at same time exploring other pleasure zones, such as the prostate gland or the perineum. Is that what you mean by 'inside'?

    BUT, even oral sex for a man - or just masturbation - needs a foreskin for ultimate pleasure, let alone sexual intercourse! Don't you see? By ignoring the foreskin and its outstanding benefits, you give fuel to those who believe all males should be circumcised.

    I have a question and please be truthful: are you intact or circumcised?

    Christopher

  • I mean pleasure is not only in glans , ultimate pleasure generates inside the shaft . There is no need that all males need to be circumcised .But whoever needs to be done need not be afraid .That's what I wanted to mean .I am not sure how foreskin helps in oral ? Well anything there is a pleasure for which instinct and mind also has a role .

  • I can best answer much of what you have said, including how the foreskin helps in oral sex, by quoting an article by an American woman. It's lengthy but fascinating and very well written:

    "Now I look at the cut penis and see it as something disfigured, injured: I see what I thought was normal before for what it really is. I see the cracked and pitted skin of the glans, where my partner's is smooth and silken to the touch. I see the strange rings of discolouration from scarring and unnatural exposure to the elements, where my partner's is gracefully coloured, culminating in a glans that looks flush and rosy like a baby's soft cheek.

    I love being sexual with an intact penis. I love the different options it affords in the way of play... it's like an entire new world to explore and enjoy to our heart's content. I love the way it moves in my mouth during oral sex, the way I can pull it up over the glans and back down with my lips.

    Cut penises do not afford the same variety of sensations, teasing tricks, or pleasurable movement.

    I love the fluid feel of the foreskin gliding during intercourse, the way it eases penetration and makes lube a totally unnecessary substance.

    I love the way his glans is softer and more gentle. At first, I thought he just wasn't getting fully erect and felt insecure... and then I read more and learned that the protected, sheathed glans is really just supposed to be softer and less rigid than the scarred and unnaturally roughened cut penis.

    And then I realized how much better it felt: in my cut partners, the glans felt too hard, like it was ramming into my vagina. The intact glans feels like it gracefully melds with my internal shape, complementing it instead of assaulting it.

    More than anything, I love the difference in responses between him and my other, cut partners. All I have to do is gently touch my tongue to his frenulum, and that evokes a huge shiver of pleasure, or lightly hook my finger under the foreskin to produce a powerful moan.

    To me, sexual intimacy with this intact man has been a more sensitive, intense, intricate experience than with any of my cut partners. They were all very skilled in bed... but the difference in sensation that they required is very noticeable. They needed more aggressive oral or manual stimulation to near or reach orgasm. I felt like a jackhammer.

    With this partner, the slowest, most gentle strokes can produce incredible pleasure, since the natural nerve endings of the inner foreskin provide its own intense stimulation. I find it to be a beautiful experience, just watching and admiring how the foreskin acts for his pleasure.

    And I realized more than anything that that piece of skin is his birthright. The pleasure that he receives from his foreskin belongs to him as much as his sense of taste and touch... and nobody, no doctor or parent in the world has the right to take that from him, or from any other male, unnecessarily."

    So, Diptasu, do you now understand why a circumcised penis is a crippled penis? And why I am looking for something - anything - that can help me restore even a residue of the pleasure I once enjoyed with a foreskin; but which doesn't involve so-called foreskin 'restoration'?

    There is no pleasure in a permanently exposed glans after the act of circumcision. Even the shaft of an erect penis has more sensitivity - plus the penile frenulum if it was not also cut away during the surgery.

    You have not answered my question about whether you are intact or circumcised. Please do so.

    Christopher

  • I am having troubles, due to medication, where my foreskin has tightened so much that I can't draw it all the way back over the glans. I found this, useful, site searching for "Adult circumcision" and I'm glad I found it. the sensitivity of the glans is high and I wouldn't want it exposed to clothing Etc, permanently. I really ought to talk to my doctor and see if there are any other options, rather than the knife. I hope, Islaywhisky, that you find a way to put your problems into good shape again, by whatever means.

  • Firstly, thank you for your kind wishes, Breff. Today I can at least achieve an erection first - and ejaculate after considerable hard work.

    Secondly, other options for a very tight foreskin ARE available. Topical steroids (a cream, gel or ointment that contains corticosteroids) are sometimes prescribed to treat a tight foreskin. They can help soften the skin of the foreskin, making it easier to retract.

    These were given to me, but sadly the scar tissue on my injured foreskin prevented a successful outcome. Topical ointments cannot work wonders on a non-elastic foreskin caused by an injury. In my case paraphimosis occured and meant a consequent circumcision.

    Christopher

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