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Ok, my post was removed due to wrong forum I chose.

Hello,

I had phimosis in past. I had a plastic surgery of my foreskin, because I wanted to save my foreskin. Unfortunately, it didn't help me. In march 2019 I had circumcision in low&tight style and I am terrified now as I had sex after that many times and I cannot cum both with condom and without condom. Now I am feeling bad, because it seems there's no chance for any improvement of my life... I feel like a disable person on demand... I can masturbate with success, but I don't want to rely on my hand in my entire life.

I visited many urologists after that and they say my penis look very good after that surgery. Sexuologists say it's problem with my psycho, but I can't believe that I can "turn off" my sensitivity.

I have read some news about guys that committed suicide after being circumcised and to be honest I think about that more time than before.

One good thing is I didn't have sex before that surgery so I can't compare anything.

Is here any guy with low&tight circumcision who leads great sex life? Is there anything to help me? I want to cry now.

Thank you in advance for your answers.

Best regards,

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Hello Damien, after circumcision many of us have in our minds that we are going to feel the same, mentally we are used to having sex in ways that make us feel good, even when we masturbate. though the process it is still the same, it employs some type of modification.

When having sex, you need to adjust your body in ways that make you feel good so you can remember next time, it takes patience to achieve a desired personal satisfaction. Of course we are all different. personally I enjoyed sex better when I was not cut, but now I have discovered ways that are so emotionally satisfactory that make me enjoy. one thing is for sure I do not get enough and as often sex. but when I do, I make the best of it.

hang in there..

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Damien948 in reply to

Thank you for these words. I am gonna fight for any pleasure when having sex, but sometimes it is really sad and disappointing as before being circumcised I wasn't able to have sex, because my foreskin was really tight and now technically I am able to have sex, but doing that is mechanical for me at the moment... I feel like sex toy for my partner.

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At1012 in reply to

I would expect that an uncut guy would have a much stronger pleasurable orgasm?

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We think that way because when we are intact we have so much sensitiveness. but it is just different. At the beginning, it is amazing, though it takes a long time to climax.

Orgasms are intense but to get there requires an amount of concentration. Now keep in mind, this is my opinion. I can't speak for everyone else.

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At1012 in reply to

the foreskin protects the nerve endings from over sensitivity. But the overhang can cause tightness and scar tissue and a tight frenulum. I still believe that vaginal sex without anal sex or masturbation would keep an uncut penis in perfect shape. Over masterbation, anal sex, forcible retraction, lack of personal hygiene are what cause all the problems. Just like an uncirculated coin, an uncircumcised penis is perfect in every way. I would expect that anal sex would be a big cause for breaking the frenulum as well as forcible retraction. The vagina would provide the perfect environment for an uncut penis because it wouldn’t cause any tension on the frenulum.

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Benjo419

Im on day 21 now and was not able to cum at all, despite trying. I totally get what you are saying with feeling disabled. :/

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jimfromcalif

Very noticeable loss of sensitivity from circumcision is the most common complaint. It stems from the loss of an estimated 20,000 sensory nerves of the inner foreskin. A low circumcision removes nearly all of the inner foreskin, hence the complaints. As time passes, additional losses are suffered from the keritinization of the mucosa of the glans, designed as an internal body part meant to be protected by the foreskin. Scientists report that sensitivity of the glans is less than that of the inner foreskin. The thickening process causes a very gradual loss.

That said, you haven't yet had time to notice any change in sensation from the glans. In addition, your ability to successfully masturbate rules out problems from losing your inner foreskin sensations. It's likely your situation is rooted in the mind.

FYI, keritinization of the glans is preventable and reversible through foreskin restoration.

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Damien948 in reply to jimfromcalif

Yeah, this is what I am affraid of. As for the beginning of being circumcised I have got a problem with pleasure when having sex it's not optimistic when thinking about glans being less sensitive in the future... But one thing is weird for me - I haven't experienced oversensitivity of my glans after that surgery when wearing underwear and as I can see many guys after circumcision have that problem.

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Circedandlovingit in reply to jimfromcalif

Wrong. A high circumcision keeps some or all of the inner foreskin. I have a very loose high cut, and only outer foreskin was removed. A little over eight months since my circumcision, and glans has improved, although I had kept it retracted a lot before getting cut. Back when the glans was covered all the time, it was too sensitive to stand having oral sex, orgasms. I usually had to make the woman stop before I came. Now the orgasms are bearable, and provide much more pleasure.

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jimfromcalif in reply to Circedandlovingit

Yes, you are correct. Thanks for catching that.

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Sorry guys it I do not recognise an overly sensitive glans as being a necessary feature of being uncircumcised. Were that the case then most guys in the U.K. would never be able to have oral sex. There is no indication that that is the case.

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jimfromcalif in reply to

You're misunderstanding the issue. Oversensitivity is nearly universal among intact men with phimosis. When they are circumcised, exposing the glans, even light touches are painful. The masses of intact men with operable foreskins generally don't have that issue.

in reply to jimfromcalif

The guy that mentioned sensitivity kept it retracted all the time!!

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CuriousQ in reply to Circedandlovingit

A key component here is that you used to be over sensitive. I think most men can handle a blow job fine. I didn't get much pleasure from them intact actually. Now that I had the circumcision my pleasure is down a lot. Way more than I ever imagined. But we're all different.

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Circedandlovingit in reply to CuriousQ

I had a lot of pleasure from uncircumcised, and even more circumcised. I ask the women to use their teeth on it and it's gotten better over time. A re-circumcise will be almost like starting at the beginning.

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SadWilly in reply to jimfromcalif

My circumcision was done as a baby, leaving just enough, so the restoration devices could stretch it. The fake foreskin I have covering the glans, did not improve anything, like what was claimed would happen on the sites selling the products. Sure it has a slightly more purple look, and maybe the surface it a little smoother, but the skin just gets in the way

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At1012 in reply to SadWilly

When you say the skin gets in the way, how would you describe the sensation difference? There must be some sort of benefit or maybe not? Are your orgasms stronger? Also before you started stretching the skin how far could you stretch the tissue over the glans in both the flaccid and erect states? In addition I think it would be variable considering in the modern practice every circumcision is a little different. Can you please show me a picture of the before and after of your penis?

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SadWilly in reply to At1012

The fake foreskin has made it almost impossible to reach an orgasm. Before the restoration, I only had a small amount of foreskin left from being circumcised as a baby. Hopefully another circumcision will correct the problem. I will ask for the new circumcision to be fairly tight, exactly how my baby circumcision was. I don't want any experiments

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At1012 in reply to SadWilly

I understand you are upset. Could you please share pictures of the before and after?

in reply to SadWilly

I guess that some of us will never be satisfied with the hand that life has dealt us. I hope that your chopping, stretching and chopping will not give you long term problems.

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CuriousQ in reply to SadWilly

I think stretching will help in that it will make the head more sensitive for some guys. But you can't get your inner foreskin and frenelum back from stretching so it's never going to be 100 percent of what it was.

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At1012 in reply to jimfromcalif

I believe that vaginal sex by itself combined with good personal hygiene would be enough to prevent any problems with the foreskin. Anal sex, over masterbation, and forcible retraction cause all the problems with the foreskin. Anal sex can cause the frenulum to break easier because it is much tighter. Over masterbation can cause scar tissue to develop at the tip of foreskin. Also forcible retraction could easily be the exact reason para-phimosis exists. The vagina was designed for an uncircumcised penis. It wouldn’t cause any extra tension. I am curious, I have heard that the foreskin would cause much more pleasure for the female. Why would this be?

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jimfromcalif

The problem of oversensitivity generally is related to those who had retraction problems, and it is very common among them.

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Circedandlovingit in reply to jimfromcalif

Slightly tight fenulum, but no retraction problems.

God I was like that and I couldn’t cum. It’s natural to worry about it. But soon you get that confidence you I’ll not want to stop enjoying it.

Maybe who your having sex with / sexual preferences I dunno we are all different

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Damien948 in reply to

what's type of circumcision you have? how long time it took you to starting enjoying sex after surgery?

I have low / high cut. So to be honest I didn’t rush into it as I wanted to give it time to heals and get some confidence to start it. It was bang on 6 weeks

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Damien948

I am 9 months after and still nothing. :/

in reply to Damien948

I think you maybe over thinking it ! Your putting a lot pressure on yourself. The one your having sex with. Are they turning you on? Maybe have a longer oral session and sit back and enjoy someone mouth 👄

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At1012 in reply to Damien948

What did you feel before? What was the reason you were circumcised?

And there are those who favour circumcision that are guilty too!

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Circedandlovingit in reply to

The circumcision guilt syndrome.

in reply to Circedandlovingit

Not a syndrome I have come across.

This is entirely psychological trauma post op . Some people have it , couple this with possibly not knowing how to handle everything post op ,the overthinking you may have harmed yourself irreversibly doing the circumcision plays with your mind. Have you tried getting more creative , visualise porn together , role playing , doing all kinds of things to stop thinking about physical ejaculation all the time .

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CuriousQ

I have the same issue. Low and tight and sex is not fun anymore. I wish I asked on this forum before my circumcision. If I'd done that I would never have gone through with the surgery as I had very mild issues. I've literally lost 70 percent of my sensitivity. I wish my doctors warned me. I didn't even have phimosis but my skin was sensitive and red. Wish I could go back.

It seems you never really know what you'll get with a circumcision. Some people are completely fine and others are devastated by the loss.

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Jdouk6907 in reply to CuriousQ

I now go limp during sex as I can’t feel anything. Lost a lot of sensation after being cut.

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CuriousQ in reply to Jdouk6907

Sorry to hear that. I'm in the same boat. After a year that's probably what you'll have for the rest of your life unless you're lucky. Circumcision is not as simple a procedure as it's made out to be, unfortunately. I'm devastated too knowing my sex life will never be the same again.

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Jdouk6907 in reply to CuriousQ

I’ve heard of a few treatments like gainswave and the p shot but not sure if they really work. Worth looking into

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