Weight loss and unintentional

[JessFM]

I have been losing weight now for the last year and I am currently 12st 8lbs.. I used to be a healthy looking 16stone which I loved because I carry weight well. Now I look and feel like I am disgusting and really HATE the way I look. I know 'hate is a strong word' but I honestly do hate it. I hate getting dressed and seeing my body because my ribs are visible and others have noticed and commented that I have lost ALOT of weight too. I used to love my body once upon a time and now can't think of anything worse! I am REALLY struggling to gain weight. Doctor has done bloods and all have came back normal and the doctor has said I am a good weight not taking in to account I am of white British and Jamaican ethnicity so I am 5ft8 and I just look VERY skinny which makes me look very ill.

Apologies, I know this is a sensitive subject for some but I would REALLY appreciate help to gain weight in a healthy way. 😪

[Beavis2022]

So sorry to hear this; I've heard that eating a lot of ice cream will help put on weight. There were other things - whatever is calorie-packed, like pure cream, oil, etc. Maybe your doctor could give you something? Most people have the opposite problem! I'm sure both are equally depressing....

[Massiveship]

Wow, what you are experiencing, I am too. I carry weight well and I’ve lost about 30lbs. People are commenting on my body in a positive way and my internal feelings do not match the feedback. I’ve been weightlifting for years to manage my depression and I’ve always felt strong. With the weight loss, I feel weak and tired all the time. I don’t feel good in my body and I don’t really enjoy the male gaze, so new attention from men doesn’t make me feel good about myself. It makes me feel objectified and I don’t like it. I started out wanting to lose weight because I’m aging and have one kidney and know long term healthy blood pressure would support a healthy renal system. It’s just zapped me of my energy and everyone talks about how much energy they have with weight loss, and I feel like a zombie. I feel like it’s intensified my depression and I’m sleeping a lot, I’m out of breath doing simple chores. I don’t feel as powerful and my weightlifting has suffered. The gym used to be a staple of my day. Now I dread it and I’m lucky if I can do a 1/2 hour workout. It’s just really knocked me for a loop.

You’re the first person I’ve heard talking about weight loss like this. Society says we should be thrilled and feel of more value or something because we look “better” but internally my reality doesn’t match the feedback I’m getting. My depression has increased. It’s also confusing because my lack of motivation and dwindled energy could be from the weight loss or depression, but either way the results the same. I feel like crap. My vitals, bloodwork, blood pressure are all fantastic. So no underlying health issues.

[JessFM in reply to Massiveship]

Oh my goodness, I feel your pain! Everyone comments on my glorified weight loss and I want to gain weight SO DESPERATELY! I feel like I am ill because I have gone ever so skinny. I get out of breath from the smallest of tasks and I'm then sat breathing very heavily. I've no underlying health issues either. I'm sick of going round in circles a d getting no help from the GP and oh boy does my mental health suffer too!

[Massiveship]

I’m really working on getting more protien, to the point that I’m drinking protien shakes. I’m also trying to be religious with my vitamins. I do notice a bump in energy after I eat red meat, which I don’t do often. I also think that a lot of the test run at the drs are so general. I do think every body is different. I do think I need more iron in my diet, either through veg or meat at times. I’m not a big meat eater though.