baby or no baby

[luupysue]

My daughter and her husband are thinking about starting a family,only thing is they are worried his mother has Fibromyaligia, I have lupus, sicca, underactive thyroid, raynards and undiferentiated connective tissue disease, they are worried any child they have will be affected, can anyone please help/advise

[Gillyg]

Hello, my daughter is trying for a baby at the moment without success, I have lupus, fibromyalgia and S/S. I didn't think because I have these problems that it would be a problem unless she is tested positive herself. My daughter does have Raynaulds. I have advised my daughter to get tested but her Gp said there is no blood test which I know to be wrong.I would be also interested in an answer to this. I hope your daughter successfully has a baby, but it is good to get advise. So complicated.

[moss]

hiya. i have three children. i am 35, son is 13, daughter 8 and 6. so far they have no symptoms or problems at birth. infact i had flare free prgnancy s which is not uncommon. All 3 are hypermobile and out of the three the middle is the one who get s growing pain s ect-just have to wait and see. dont let it put you off

[luupysue]

thank you for the replies i think she was more concerned as its on both sides of the family in both mothers so thinks a baby will be at higher risk

[janiceray]

Perhaps they should have a word with their GP just to be on the safe side

[kittykat68]

ahhh i feel for you im the only one in my family with lupus :(( i have a 14 year old son and i get so mother hen when he has the slightest pain i worry that he will have lupus even though it is rare in men so it must be difficult decision, but in another breath perhaps there is a chance of foster/adoption for under an privalidge child as your daughter sounds like she has a lot of love to give, just an though sending spoons :))

[Angelmumma]

Hi there...im new here but saw your post & wanted to give you a little hope...

I have had 3 early miscarriages, a mid term (18 weeks) baby girl & Ella-Mae who was delivered at 25+2 as i had severe pre-eclampsia in June 06...sadly she passed away at 3 days old. I was then diagnosed with having SLE, i was also pg with my DH only 9 weeks after losing my DD...i was able to inject with Clexane & take asparin throughout my pregnancy, when my DH was 7 months old i found out i was pg with my 2nd DS but by then i was also diagnosed with fibromyalgia & i was on morphine etc...i was able to inject with Clexane again & take low dose asparin & i truely believe that i have been able to have my DH because i was diagnosed with SLE & i could take my Clexane etc. My SLE is now dormant & my fibromyalgia has very much taken president

I wish yourself, your DD & family all well & i hope this may have helped a little. Shelly

[Angelmumma]

I have just re-read your post & i forgot to say that i also have Rayneuds Disease diagnosed in 2011 & an Under active thyroid diagnosed also in 2011 & my father has a degenerative tissue disease...

[Hidden]

Hi . i got lupus after after my 1st daughter and me and my partner never wanted an only child. after lots of chats with docs was told that a future child wouldnt get lupus but were risks to my health.............my second daughter is now 9 and was born prem but is amazing! my daughters are my carers and the best thing they do is make me giggle withn their sillyness!

[luupysue]

thank you all for your replies I will pass all the info onto them and hopefully I will become a grandmother for the first time when her husband gets back from Afgan

[ebril]

Myself, and two of my daughters have SLE my two other children are lucky enough not too. My oldest daughter has had three very healty children I think as with everything else you have to weigh up the pro's and con's if you or any other member of your family have illnesses I passed it on to two of my children and thats because I didnt know I had it myself, and Im one of the lucky ones where I was blessed with four children. Would I have tried for them if I had know.............I dont know, am I angry I passed this illness on to them.........oh yes, are they angry at me.............no. So all I can say is sit down and have a good think about it.............but I am so glad I was able to have my children

[luupysue]

So glad your children aren't angry at you and thank you for your reply I intend passing all comments on when I see her next