How you tell someone?

Hi, I started to date again , he knows I've been through stress and stuff over the passing of my husband but I don't know how to tell him about lupus , cause I know he will google the condition and he 'll be scared off.

[jayfer]

Hi, why don't you ask lupus UK to send you their information then tell him and give the correct info, or sit and read it with him . maybe then he won't feel the need to google . Hope it all goes well for you

[jacqueline121]

Hi, i feel if he really cares about you he'll want to stay and won't be put off by your health problems.

Maybe wait until the time feels right. But, if he doesn't stay then he's probably not the right person for you anyway.

I wish you all the best and hope you find true love and happiness xx

[creaky]

I would suggest telling him quite soon, if he's easily scared, he's probably not a keeper. Definitely direct him to lupus uk and warn him that there is lots of poor information and advice on the Internet.

Hope it goes well. 🍀

[Paul_Howard Partner LUPUS UK]

Hi Maria68,

Good luck with your dating, I hope that you have a lovely time. There was a good discussion about this topic on here quite recently that you may want to take a look at - healthunlocked.com/lupusuk/...

You've had some good advice from other members already and I'm sure you'll get plenty more. If you do need anything information from LUPUS UK you can download our booklets here lupusuk.org.uk/publications/ or send us an email/message to request physcial copies.

[Roanna]

Wow to date again, how scary, I didn't tell my dates until they became more serious, and at that point, they saw some of my symptoms in action. One guy I dated for a month told me once that he would never marry anyone with an illness, of course I didn't have to tell him, I just moved on. You will know if the time is right, and if the guy is worth telling at all. I stayed single for many years when I was in a flare because I just wasn't ready to be in a relationship and go through this type of stress. Sometimes a good friend is more important than a relationship with a maybe other because they are going to be there for you no matter what you go through. good luck.