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"But you look so well, why are you on steroids?!"

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Hello all: I had that question come down the phone the other day from one of my oldest, best friends who is more like a brother (& his wife is like a sister). I just paused, thinking: even he doesn't get it...after all these decades & all my illness.πŸ˜–

So, I said to him:

come on, you know that I'm 62 and have an infant onset incurable progressively debilitating chronic multisystem relapsing & remitting autoimmune condition, which is more or less in pharmaceutical remission some of the time, which NHS treatment is helping but even so this is essentially palliative care (of course he didn't say a word after that, poor guy...I felt really mean, so changed onto a cheery subject..it's not easy for them, is it?)

Since that conversation, I've been jotting down as many of these sort of exasperating comments as I can remember: 'one liner questions & statements' friends & family have made & just keep making...no matter how much they know about me & my health. My feeling is that a collection of these comments will be good: I can use it to practice making pithy replies!πŸ˜†

So: Can you help me? I'd be very glad of any of these sort of 'one liner questions & comments' you're up for sharing here!

Another example in my listing:

"Oh, I thought you're in remission"

And if you have any really good "one liner replies" to share, please please do....I can use ALL the help I can get! You can tell from the reply I gave my poor friend, above, that I need something short I can actually remember and that doesn't seem so mean...although I do like that good old reply:

I do not look sick, and you do not look stupid. Looks can be deceiving

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littleeffie profile image
littleeffie

Ha! you too?

In law comment-

"I know somebody who had what you have and they got over it and are back at work"

My reply- " I am surprised they have to work since selling their cure would make them millions!"

Got to be some great ones out there.

Effie

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Barnclown in reply to littleeffie

BRILLIANT: SCORE!!!!!

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sunshine16 in reply to littleeffie

super posts!

I even get from my mum ... "There must be a cure for you!" I said to her, well there isn't really a cure for Cancer ...her reply, "well thank goodness you haven't got that!" She then changes the subject!

Happy weekend everyone

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Barnclown in reply to sunshine16

FABULOUS!!!!! Many thanks

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Penelope-Mary in reply to sunshine16

Ouch!!!!!

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Diagnosed2012 in reply to littleeffie

The "I know somebody...they've recovered" comments really annoy me too. When I told my new manager about my diagnosis, the conversation went along the lines of....

Manager: "Oh, my friend's daughter had lupus. She had it really bad. I mean REALLY bad. She's fine now after treatment. She didn't let it stop her from living a perfectly normal life"

Me: "That's wonderful about your friend's daughter. My sister had lupus too. She had it bad too. It killed her.

....awkward pause

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Barnclown in reply to Diagnosed2012

EXACTLY!!!!!! many thanks for this

Belee profile image
Belee

What a great post.....I've been in that awful situation soooo many times when I'm just left speechless by peoples comments and don't know how to respond (then usually end up in tears with my husband) ....if I have some good responses up my sleeve I'm sure it'll help me a lot!

...." you shouldn't drink diet coke, it has aspartame in it which can cause lupus. If you stop drinking it, you wont have lupus anymore"!

" If you're so tired, just go to bed earlier. that's what I do !"

" I have pain too and I'm still taking my kids out/going out"

" You'll grow out of it!" (I'm 41 for Goodness sake!!)

I've lost alot of my hair and so I've been wearing a head scarf. It amazes me that random strangers feel they can come up to me and ask me personal questions. I never know what to say!

" Do you mind me asking but what does your husband really think about the way you look"........ left completely speechless with this one!

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flow4 in reply to Belee

Wow, that last comment really crossed the line!

That deserves an answer like "Oh don't worry, he's blind. And anyway, we're both pleased I don't have much hair because it would just get tangled in his mechanical leg*!"

(*P.S. I edited that for polite company!)

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Barnclown in reply to flow4

Oh boy, flow: EEEEK....only a few years ago, but before my lupus was recognised, I had one of my sisters in law tell me (totally out of the blue...unrelated to anything that was going on):

he'll never want to make love to a cripple like you again!

I GASPED & stared in awe (as a young woman, she'd driven her car over a level crossing and been hit by a train: spent years having corrective surgery...is vvv lucky to have sorted that out & led a v active life with no hint of a limp...but she also has early onset crohns with especially bad complications...at nearly 70 she lives alone in bitterness...she seems to enjoy making malicious wisecracks...and I don't want to play her game...I usually try to just ignore them.... and make sure I vent about them to someone who understands. What's the moral of this?...you tell me....I don't know...but we can't explain away every horrible comment just because we're mainly sympathetic towards the speaker....can we? Well, this is a dilemma I do find myself mulling over at regular intervals)

Thanks so much for joining in on this thread!

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flow4 in reply to Barnclown

I'm much better at imaginary retorts than real ones! Not long after my hip replacement last year, my brother told me he understood the pain I was in, because he'd had a... circumcision! That would have been the perfect moment for a witty come-back, but instead I was speechless and angry!

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Barnclown in reply to Belee

OH MY ***: some of those are INCREDIBLE: and yet, TOTALLY believable.....thanks belee!!!!

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Amethyst

Mum: " Still feeling bad? Just shake it off"

Who does she think I am - Taylor Swift! I've been trying to shake it off for 26 years.

Sister: "A girl at work was recently diagnosed with lupus but she's decided not to put her life on hold"

Lupus put me on hold, pause, rewind while I'm always trying to fast forward.

You have to laugh x

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Barnclown in reply to Amethyst

Am LAUGHING: good ones, amethyst: many thanks!

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flow4

I had a hip replacement last year, and in the year before surgery, I was limping, in awful pain that must've been etched on my face, and gained a lot of weight... This year, I look better but often feel worse... I've lost count of the times people say "Wow, you look well!" I resist the urge to say "I may look well but I feel shit!" Mostly.

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Barnclown in reply to flow4

EXACTLY: and I like your honesty: the "mostly"...I can relate to that a lot...

I had this problem at a party last night from several old friends. The first one really did look crap and was eating her way through all the crisps and cheap sausages she could lay her hands on while sitting by the open garden door cooling off a hot flush. She said "well before we went off round the world for a year I thought you were looking great despite your arthritis. But now you look even younger and better. But (a mutual friend) told us you've been quite ill this year. So how do you do it?" I just leant forward quite close and whispered "steroids - want some?" By this time I was too cold to say another word so I grinned at her and walked off.

Later someone said "every time I see you you look better". I replied "thanks - but last time we chatted a few months ago and you said that I ended up in hospital with blood poisoning a few hours later from an infected wound in my navel". She was actually being lovely and we are about to leave our home town of 26 years so it was all said as lightly as I could muster because I do really love these old friends, just as you love your brother figure friend too. Nevertheless some punchy but humorous one liners can do the job much better than anything more long winded. I still got plenty of hugs and promises to visit us soon so obviously got away with it?!

While in hospital during admission no.2 this year I met a woman with advanced Scleroderma. She told me that, in her long experience, people with autoimmune diseases tend to look well. She is a retired nurse and she explained her theory that we a) look after ourselves extra well to compensate for the drugs and b) our bodies are fighting the nasty things as well as the important things that our immune systems should be doing for us. So she felt that having an overactive immune system can make us look extra well too. Twitchy x

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Barnclown in reply to

Oh my gosh: this is what we're dealing with day in, day out....you describe it beautifully, twitchy!

Yes: gosh: I do agree with your retired nurse friend's observations: e.g. my mother mostly looked great although hypothyroid, I've lived 30 years with my husband mostly looking great despite crohns, and in my 4 years meeting others with autoimmune diseases again & again I see many of us mostly looking great.

Yes, I think your retired nurse friend is pretty much describing how I mangaged to survive with un recognised infant onset lupus & immunodeficiency for 50-something years...except I wasn't on lupus drugs...I was just on somewhat numbing prescription NSAIDs + analgesics + antibiotics, and obsessively lifestyle managing my conditions with the help of complementary therapists. Of course, there were phases when I looked dreadful, but mostly people saw the veneer, and wouldn't or couldn't look hard enough to see how poorly I was feeling all the time underneath the veneer. one thing I mostly hid very well, was the extreme tiredness...I could because I was home alone while my husband worked away in London during the week...I did nothing but go to work where I'd self medicate with caffeine, and then come home, try to eat something, & go to sleep right away.

After nearly 20 years of that, the veneer cracked big time and then I really did begin to look poorly all the time, but people just assumed that was the 14 year old tumour Drs eventually found and/or my long term spine condition: both much easier for them to relate to. Now the same people see me and simply cannot relate at all to the implications of infant onset lupus + early onset immunodeficiency and the meds that are now helping me look & genuinely feel better at 62 than I have since my 20s

Yikes, twitchy: you've got me going again!

Wishing you all the best with this big move...a wrenching time for you all...and an important move towards better diagnosis & treatment

XO

As a nurse we get asked questions about treatment. When dealing with a patient with recurring chest infections due to COPD, and refusing to give up smoking, the patient asked whether they could get a lung transplant to ease the coughing!

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Barnclown in reply to

GRRRRREAT: thanks!

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cuttysark

Great post Barnclown!!

I find the "You're looking SO well " thing one of the worst parts of chronic disease.

One old friend, a dear soul said as much to me and I replied it was the steroids. She replied, " Gosh I'll have some of those!"

I had no answer! She then said how well her old dog of 16 was doing on high dose steroids, so why did they not just give me more and more. Trouble is if you actually try to explain you see their eyes glaze over as basically they can't understand it at all.

You then feel they think you are a lazy hypochondriac!

It often makes me want to live on a tiny island with husb, dog and my knitting!

I feel a total alien!

Even my dearest friend who has seen me go through the decades of this disease nodded in sympathy as I said I would so love to get away for more little holidays, just in this country.

She then said , Well why don't you, just get up and go, just do it"

After that I thought no one can actually understand unless they have a chronic illness themselves.

Thank God indeed for this forum!!! We have an uncritical listening ear and many shoulders to cry on when we need them.

All the best to you, C xx

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Barnclown in reply to cuttysark

You've put it all so so well, cuttysark! I regularly run into the thing about pets being on steroids....oh my gosh....and the eyes glazing over when you have a go at explanation...GRRRROAN...many thanks for your reply

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Penelope-Mary in reply to cuttysark

This conversation has cheered me up no end, well sadly 😒! Awful to read but lovely to feel part of a community.

Compassion fatigue is bad enough but these comments are just plain nasty 😑

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Purpletop

This is such a great post, thank you. The responses are hilarious, they made my day.

I can only remember one from my niece (27 yo) who, after dragging myself out of bed during a nasty flare to meet for a coffee, she asked me when will I "do my roots". I didn't know which reply to give first: "because I can barely get out of bed to get dressed let alone go to a salon", or "because I cant do it myself anymore once Plaquenil made my hair so coarse and white", or "because the way I look is no longer my priority, being alive is", and so on.

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Barnclown in reply to Purpletop

So glad you've joined in: great stuff, purpletop: am LAUGHING! XO

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nerossa

From sister in law...'at least you're not a man the man-kind of Lupus is the bad one, they get really sick'. From my mother in law to my husband 'she looks fine, she's a lazy bitch,' and from my dear, alternative lifestyle mother, 'I cured myself of Colitis by eliminating gluten. If you eliminate gluten I think you'll find you lose that systemic 'bloat'".

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Barnclown in reply to nerossa

GASP...EEEEEK....SO, how do you respond to them?

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nerossa in reply to Barnclown

I don't. My Italian husband has a lovely Italian saying: non se puo vincere contro l'ignorance...you can't win against ignorance. I tell myself their denial is a function of their fear that I may get so sick that I will die and so the denial protects them. Obviously, they aren't part of my support system. I walk away.

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littleeffie in reply to nerossa

I am lucky now I suppose as don't have to hear the in law comments as after too many to me and him I think the last one from hubby,so lucky he is wonderful, made the biggest point.

In law -" are you really going to spend you life and kids with someone like that?"

His answer was " Definitely I chose her you just happen to be related!"

At which point he made the decision to have no contact with them since.As he put it to me ,"the drink might look nice and be familiar if it is toxic it will kill you in the end."

As it happens he has become a much more confident and relaxed person since the decision so I guess he was right.

Effie

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Barnclown in reply to littleeffie

YES❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️❗️

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nerossa in reply to littleeffie

Good for your hubby. I went no contact with my in laws too. You are NOT lucky and neither is your hubby because you've been robbed of a loving family. However, the next best thing is freeing yourself from their toxicity so you can define and create 'family' for yourself.

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Belee in reply to littleeffie

I can totally relate to this.....my mother in law said to me (in front of the kids)....." he didn't sign up for this its not fair on him!"

At which point my husband who'd overheard said " well she didn't sign up for it either! If I was ill you wouldn't be saying this would you?

Needless to say, we don't see the m in law much anymore!

in reply to Belee

That's really appalling Belee - thank goodness for your husband finding such a great come back! And To think I find my mother in law fairly annoying. But she always asks my husband how I am and seems genuinely concerned. I think my own late mum would have been a lot less patient with me. She always worried terribly about my tendency to be introspective./ self indulgent. Which was pretty hypocritical actually when she was often on the brink of madness herself and very demanding of me as her daughter.

When I was terribly overweight about 20 years ago she advised him to have an affair and let me know so I would have to lose weight in order to win him back! Needless to say I just ate more to punish her!

But yoiur MIL takes the biscuit.

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Belee in reply to

That is truly shocking twitchytoes!...where do these awful m in laws come from?!

...I guess from a positive point of view, at least we know how not to behave towards our kids partners when they grow up!!

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Penelope-Mary in reply to nerossa

Way too harsh and IGNORANT ❗️

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Barnclown

A great lupus friend just sent me this link on this VERY subject...ENJOY πŸ‘πŸ‘Œ

buzzfeed.com/laraparker/you...

Thanks everyone

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On being diagnosed with Graves Disease years ago: Are you sure you have hyperthyroidism? You've put on so much weight/you're always tired. You're lucky, you can eat whatever you want. I thought you'd be better by now (a couple of weeks post RAI). Stop doing that with your eyes. OMG, look at her/your eyes...

Last year, being told to 'perk myself up a bit.' - with an iron count of 3.5

Are you finished with all your running to the doctor's?

My aunty had that and died of it.

It can't be that serious because you are still out running/at the gym etc.

On the other hand people have been really supportive and positive and look out for me. I think everybody has some sort of battle going on and it is important not to become so self obsessed that you fail to notice other people's trials.

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Barnclown in reply to

Thanks shazzer...good examples!

And I do agree: the supportive positivity is at hand...

in fact, our great friends just left here (he was the one making the comments down the phone in my intro to this thread)...they had come for the day...having recently returned to live nearby again after living in another country for a year. Today he was really thoughtful & kind: asked sensible questions & made fair & encouraging comments...showed real empathy. She was the same. And we related to them likewise. They are dear old friends

Basically, I guess, most of us are dealing with lots of tough stuff of one kind or another in our lives...whether we have immune dysfunction or not. I try to give others the benefit of any doubt when they make hurtful or silly comments about lupus & me....and I hope others will give me the benefit of the doubt when I put my foot in my mouth....cause for sure I'm only human and am bound to slip up sometimes...

But it's great to know our community is here on forum, sharing as we do...and that we can vent about this sort of stuff when we need to. I'm thankful every day for you all

XO

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Penelope-Mary

When I was diagnosed 15 years ago upon telling my sister in law who is a doctor, received the tossed off reply" oh I know someone with lupus and she plays on our netball team". I do wish I'd had the experience to reply something such as - good for her!

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Penelope-Mary

I read that a lupus clinic in the UK has a sign that reads something akin to- do not say to the patients that they are looking well today βœ”οΈ

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Barnclown in reply to Penelope-Mary

WOW; good ones!!!!! thanks so, so much xo

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Cristylee1969

I loved your post !!!!! It really lighted up my evening. A little stressed out and feeling no good so this made my night!!!! I need to take lessons from you!!! Thank you for helping helping us have have a back bone.

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Barnclown in reply to Cristylee1969

Agreed, cristy: this thread...all these wonderful contributions from so many of us TOTALLY made my evening glow...and this morning the glow continues...really really fantastic, life enhancing stuff from everyone. AND Thank you too

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ijeasike

I love this post alot(lol). An acquintance once told me that she has the gift of healing. So i bumped into her one day and that day i was in somuch pain. Then she said to me do you want to be healed from this illness i looked at her and i was almost at edge of plucking her eye out. I smiled and kept my comment to myseld lucky for her my mum was there to change d subject.

A family member who is diabetic once compared diabetis with lupus. She said she has seen people on tv who have been healed from lupus and that diabetis is more serious so i should pick myself up and move on. I said to her if lupus can be healed diabetis too can be healed. My faith is very important to me it has been my means of survival so it annoys me when some trys to communicate the fact that am not praying enough or am hiding behind the illness.

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Barnclown in reply to ijeasike

ijeasike: thank you for these deeply felt and very moving examples....they mean a lot! last night my husband & i got up at 2:30 th watch the lunar eclipse: between that & this wonderful discussion, the past 24 hours have been extraordinary for me....i woke up this morning and went on forum to see who had replied while i was asleep...i am utterly blown away by the tremendous responses...you are all wonderful...xo

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nanleighh

Yours answer was brilliant. I will have to memorize that line because I'm the same age as you, sans the infant onset because I was only diagnosed at 61.

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Barnclown in reply to nanleighh

thanks nanleighh: and i bet your symptomology (great word, sheesh) was developing for years before your diagnosis...well, for me, life is really beginning in my 60s thanks to my lupus (re) diagnosis and you, my wonderful lupus friends. am hoping your treatment plan is helping you a lot too (on balance..right? we'll never quite manage to actually be 21 again, i guess..but stranger things have been known to happen...am thinking positive...)

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nanleighh in reply to Barnclown

Yes you're right barn clown, I've been having symptoms since my 30s off and on but not diagnosed till 2015 after a very smart nurse practitioner did bloodwork on me because of my facial and neck rash. I don't seem to have the balance for medications yet, But sincerely working on it.thank you for all your kind advice and support. Nan

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Barnclown in reply to nanleighh

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johare

I too felt the comments about looking too well to leave work, when managing on steroids and painkillers. However, the best one is a close family member who prides herself on not taking medication. Good for her I say..

However, when staying at her house, she watched me take a large number of tablets, iron injection, eye drops etc and said " I'm sure you would feel better if you just detoxed, and drunk more water. The odd paracetamol does it for me."

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Barnclown in reply to johare

thanks so much johare...i cannot get over how often it's family saying this stuff to us....xo

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littleeffie

Oops! Too cynical?

Sitting at hospital today for 3hours with youngest son having ecg,bloods etc . and these two women in the blood test waiting room ,which was full,kept looking at me ,actually my flared up malar rash,and making side comments to each other and sniggering then one said loudly to me"that sunburn really doesn't match with your lipstick,you should go for a lighter colour"

My return was" whereas your insults match your ignorance perfectly! "

They got up and went to wait in the corridor.

"Nice one mom" from my youngest.

Was that too harsh?

Ah well life goes on.

Take care all

Effie

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Barnclown in reply to littleeffie

SWEET❗️I like your sonπŸ‘ Definitely not too harsh, just giving as good as you got...and with real style...way to go, effieπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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misty14

Hi Barnclown

I've had this comment from a neighbour 'you've been put on this earth for your beautiful smile and eyes' I didn't know what to say at the time. Same neighbour Also gave me the inference that I was ill because I didn't go to church often enough!. She was a great believer!.

Have so enjoyed reading your replies as you have too, great post thank you. X

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Barnclown in reply to misty14

Oh my gosh❗️ That first reply: did you ever figure out what to say...it was such a bizarre comment...seems almost Victorian to me: the concept of the beautiful brave Pollyanna languishing or something....flippin heck! and the church thing is similar to my mother who is certain I'm not praying enough, or praying the wrong way, or something. Great reply, many thanks misty. Glad you've enjoyed this thread...I'm just thrilled everyone joined in: every reply is v special! XO

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lupusinflight

Such a fantastic post - and everyone's replies are so brilliant - depressing how easily we can all relate to so many of the inanities - and yet so comforting.

Clearly we are an incredibly polite bunch!

I think my least favourite question has always been around the lines of, 'But what exactly is it that's wrong with you? Sorry, I just can't get my head around/don't understand/can't remember what's wrong with you.'

Leaving me with the sense that because I haven't explained it properly - enough for them to remember what exactly is wrong with me - maybe I don't know myself/ am confused/ need a second thousandth opinion.

We are all in the shadow of the snappy one word answer: cancer. Anything else is beside the point. As though auto-immune illness isn't life and death!! Friends who have/ have had cancer often think I've got the worse deal.

It's an upside down world we inhabit.

Thanks for posting this C!

Xxx

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Barnclown in reply to lupusinflight

YES! I both think & feel your summation is perfect. Thanks so much lupusinflight. This discussion is going to stay with me for years to come. It addresses THE most central, personal & crucial aspects of our lives...in which the known unknowns loom large. XOπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ€

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PeaJay

Late to the party... but wonderful post, Barnclown, and thank you for replying to us!

If someone who I suspect is n't actually very interested in the reply asks how I am I say "I'm stable....." and leave it at that. If they are kind they may well ask for an explanation and I tell them a little more, and I really appreciate it.

Another useful sentence I have used is "diagnosed four years ago after many years of symptoms, and have n't had a day without some symptoms yet". Puts it in perspective!

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Barnclown in reply to PeaJay

Glad you joined in peajay. I like your replies a lot.

The "I'm stable" could be easily alternated with "I'm unstable"!πŸ˜† I think I can remember those 2.

And I do go for the perspective of your "diagnosed X yrs...symptoms yet" too: well put❗️

Clear & concise❗️

Lupus meds & multisystem treatment plans can help a lot, but only so much....new stuff keeps cropping up...old stuff persists😁

ThanksπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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minka

and this is from a rumi person

the ct of his thorax found a small hilary lymph node

the ct of his neck found found moderate bilateral ertmoidal a course of antibiotics may cure this

his prostrait was found lightly enlarged

at l5/s1 their was a subtle retrolisthesis of not

plus a few other thing AND THE LETTER FINISHED I HOPE THIS WILL REASURE U WITH THIS SCAN AS THE RESULTS ARE UNREMAKABLE whot whot im falling to bits refer also to urologist re prostrait and the doc just got me bloods done and said your results are within range.

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Barnclown in reply to minka

so sorry minka...these medics are failing to figure out your complex case. can only be v tough to accept....my feeling is that you need medics with more insight... i wish i could do more to help. if i were you, i'd contact Paul_Howard at head office Lupus UK when the office reopens in the new year: ask for his advice

Take care

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