I am feeling a little disheartened today after my ex flew back from NZ to take me away for 3 weeks but we only lasted 4 days in Paris before he decided to go back to NZ. We dated before i got ill in NZ and i had to come home to my family for support as he didn't deal with it or take the time to understand Lupus but spent the last year chasing me again saying he wanted me back. I wasn't sure i could trust he would be there and asked too many questions and he ran a mile. Perhaps he wasn't ready to accept me and Lupus or wasn't prepared for how i would be.
It makes me feel scared now as i am 36 in Nov, just divorced from my husband (left him for the kiwi ex so kicking myself now) had a great life in NZ now living with my parents in a small village no mates and on benefits and wandering if anyone would ever want to be with me now. My mates said try dating websites when i am up to it but i don't know what to put on there as i used to have a very successful career in advertising and was so sporty and outgoing i just wouldn't know what i could offer a man and it would take a certain type of guy to take me and Lupus on.
I would love to hear some success stories of how anyone has found love since being diagnosed and any advice with dating. Do you tell them about lupus straight away?
Hope there are lots of happy Lupies in love cause that will really make me smile today.