Stressed out

[Oldlass]

I have been in this awful situation for years but for the past 3years I have got worse not good at socializing no interest in anything I still work but I cannot be bothered with my housework or the way I look I have put on 3stone and just can't get motivated to lose it my husband is very understanding and does the housework and cooking just wish I could get out of this rut and be my old self

[Hidden]

Hi Oldlass and poor you, it sounds like you’ve got in bad habits that’s spiralled and you need to take charge of your life.

First I’d have a blood test/check over to make sure you’re not lacking vitamins or minerals.

I would sit quietly and comfortably somewhere and think about how you would really like your life to be like and then everyday work towards your goal of a new positive self image, because you’re worth it.

A healthy diet with excercise is mother nature’s gift as it’s a stress buster so it’s down to you wanting to make the right choices for you as you’ve taken the first step and can do it, with support on here too.

So good luck 😊

[Oldlass in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for your kind words they have given me hope😅

[tashapope in reply to Oldlass]

Absolutely agree with this advice. I made the decision to take the bull by the horns get out, be brave, it is scary, yes but once you make a positive decision, it builds you up and you feel boosted and start looking at yourself differently. I joined a social group with people similar to myself,(in my particular case was a disabled persons group), we chatted, played games, had coffee, lunch and just got involved, before I knew it I was out and about, went to see a doctor, got some blood tests got high cholesterol under control. Then I felt motivated enough to join a gym, a 50 year old in amongst a bunch of super fit young people, would never have thought I could, That was scary, but it motivated me, because if you look at it another way they were there to get fit too!

I got a training programme suited to me, got motivated and ended up after 2 years being more confident and 2 stone lighter. Now, due to a life change, I am getting back to going back to carrying on doing the same thing in my new home. Life assessment definitely helped me and gave me the boost to change my life for the better because at the end of the day you are the one that counts and I am so glad I took that step.

[Zest]

Hi Oldlass

A warm welcome to you in the Healthy eating forum, and I hope you'll feel better as time goes on - and that you'll be back to your old self in time - give yourself time, and take it a step at a time - have a look around the forum.

Good luck with everything.

Zest

[Oldlass in reply to Zest]

Thank you for taking the time to send me this lovely message😅

[PhilFreeToAsk]

Have a walk in a natural setting and feel part of your surroundings. Walking and being near trees can be a great stress buster and health improver. huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/....

[Oldlass in reply to PhilFreeToAsk]

Thankyou I will try your suggestion and try to think more positive

[Brightfeather]

You have taken the first step Oldlass. There is always a way out ...the time is perhaps now. Good advice re vits/minerals. If your b vits and d3 are low you can feel very low. We are all here on this forum - you're not on your own. Sending you kindest thoughts.

[Edm174]

Hi anytime you want a chat everyone on here are lovely and friendly !!!

[Oldlass in reply to Edm174]

Thankyou so much just joined today and the response has been unbelievable 😊

[Edm174 in reply to Oldlass]

They are a nice bunch !!! If I’m feeling down I usually have a chat about anything really makes me feel better !!! I’ve even made some tomato chutney today so pleased with myself 😄😄

[Hidden]

Join walking club in London, they have many interests, on the internet

[Hidden]

So sorry to hear you feel so rotten. Have you visited your GP? It sounds as if you need some help. Sorry if that sounds intrusive, but it sounds as though you are in a bad place and need some help. Hope things improve for you. Stay connected to this forum as support does help.

[DRS54]

A big WELCOME! And GOOD LUCK! You've been your old self once, so you know you can get back there.

[Hidden]

Hi Oldlass you are clearly feeling stuck but, acknowledging that and then joining this group are TWO very positive things to have actioned, well done YOU! 👍👍 You are not alone now.

[Redspot]

Small steps lead to big changes———go slow but steady. One change at a time.

First choose which diet you would like..?

[wobblypat High Risk]

Poor you. I suspect more than a few of us are in/was in this state. My suggestion, for what it's worth, is to talk honestly and openly to your husband, say you want to get back to how you were but you need his help................then plan something positive together. It could be anything, from a world cruise to a walk round the block together, do it, then plan your next activity, and so on...........now you are looking forward, not back. This will be very difficult/ impossible at times, but the support/sympathy/bullying you will receive. I suspect you both still have gallons of tears to shed, my husband and I did, and life did slowly improve.

I am not a medic, just a fellow sufferer.

Good luck!

[Oldlass in reply to wobblypat]

Thankyou so much for your reply my husband is so good and understanding I'll get there one day being overweight doesn't help IV been trying to log my weight and start a diet on this site but just cant