new troubles

[Agara33]

once you overcome one challenge, new ones show up quite quickly…I now have that safe sanctuary for a few months but find it hard to relax knowing in about a month I will be on the hunt for a house and have beaurocracy to do…I also have to spend a few days at a time alone and it’s not easy-anc I find something stopping me from going out side in order to help myself survive this time-I just cNt-it wakes up all the pain I went through trying so hard for many years. Maybe I can fix it somehow

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Agara,

I am glad you have a sanctuary for a few months, that's fantastic...

It is a lot of bureaucracy but hopefully worth it. These things can be incredibly stressful especially when in most vulnerable state.

Maybe there will be someone who will help you and be there with you so you could fill out forms, make phone calls or write emails. Just having someone present helps.

Maybe they have a social worker who could physically help.

The other thing is perhaps in a few months you will be feeling much better and you will be in a better position to deal with it.

I am so sorry you can't go outside to get the things you need. This is really tough.

I hope that the place will have someone to guide you through as you gradually do those things, small steps, when ready and hopefully with more support.

Feeling safe is so important.

Let us know how you are doing.

I will be thinking of you.

[Agara33 in reply to Nathalie99]

thank you-i will have someone helping me, but i have often felt very alone and isolated anyway...i think i have a feeling of loneliness that makes everything very hard...its just hard to have my own power to just take a walk---i need contact...and will try to plan my time better so this situation happens less

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Agara33]

I am sorry you feel so alone.I remember a time right after trauma that I needed someone's presence and it took me a while to feel okay on my own eventually.

I was going to work, participating in group activities outside of work and on the weekends but there was still time when I felt very vulnerable and it was very difficult.

It is good idea that you are thinking of planning things. Hope it helps...