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[Wolfasaur]

Hello, I am really struggling. My symptoms have become unbearable and I have no one to talk to. I just feel really, really alone. I am currently safe and in therapy once a week, but that isn’t enough. I need people. I miss relationships, but everyone is suffering so much from Covid and I don’t want to hurt them with my needs or bring them down. I found this forum and just typing this is bringing me some relief.

[freeandalive1 Volunteer]

Thanks for sharing, Wolfasaur. Hopefully, Covid19 will not last forever. Have you thought about asking your therapist if there is a Zoom group where you can connect in a group setting? I know that is wonky, but it does bring some type of interaction and relationship. What things do you like to do for hobbies? What country are you in?

[Wolfasaur in reply to freeandalive1]

Thanks, I’ll ask her. I’m in the US. I’m a mom of two and getting my masters so I don’t have a lot of free time, but I like to read, hike, and go on walks or bike rides.

[Lindyloo53 Volunteer]

Hello Wolfasaur, and welcome to the forum. It’s good that you’re seeing a therapist, if your not finding once a week enough, could you negotiate some extra session for a while.I’m not sure where you are but it’s possible you are in a country where you are in lockdown. People are afraid of mixing during this pandemic. I wonder if you could arrange a virtual catch up with friends over zoom? If some friends know each other you could all join and They May need support as well during this time. You could set a time all make a cuppa and have an hours chit chat where you could all give voice to your concerns.

My experience was that everyone was missing the relationships to support them in their sufferings as much as I was.

We’re no longer in lockdown here so can now meet up face to face and I hope soon you are able to do the same.

And of course there is this group and because it’s world wide there is usually someone here most of the time.

All the very best to you on your own recovery journey.

[Shy_Guy]

Welcome to the forum. Dealing with symptoms is the biggy here.

I think learning what the triggers that cause the symptoms is the most helpful part. I found that if I know what starts the symptoms than I have a chance to do something about them.

Everyone is different but one of mine is the fear of large crowds. I can only deal with them in short amounts of time. Not so hard during COVID but concerts, bars, baseball games can overwhelm me really fast. So I have figured out ways to deal with them. Drive my own car, find a quiet place to hang out for a while to calm myself or just take ear plugs to quiet the loudness. It has helped.

There are other triggers but this is a good example of an obvious one.

So welcome and keep posting when you have time

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Welcome, Wolfasaur.

I've been where you are when I didn't have adequate support and it was very tough.

Finding how to get through the time between the sessions and find some coping tools took a while.

Talking to others can bring relief, just feeling other's presence for me is important.

I am sorry you are struggling. Have you got any plan with your therapist how to get through this tough time with coping strategies?

[Wolfasaur in reply to Nathalie99]

Hi Nathalie, I’m sorry you have gone through this too. We have mostly talked about deep breathing, meditation, and breathing with movement. It does help.

[designguy]

Hello Wolfasaur and welcome. it's not a substitute for people but you might try just writing out how and what you are feeling. i suggest just writing it as stream of conscious without editing yourself and worrying about grammar or punctuation, etc... You don't even need to keep it if you don't want. I found it just felt good as a cathartic release I could do on my own.