I've been though the worst part why am I so scared now

[Micky14]

I've breathed in mint smell all day breathing slow even when not needed which has kept me grounded but I feel so low anxious jumpy tired scared all in one go xxx

[Hidden]

Do you think you should go and see someone and talk it through?

It seems that you are not getting any better.

Thinking of you, please take care 👍😊

[Micky14 in reply to Hidden]

It's the time of the month aswell I always feel low anxious I also feel more present at home and abit more myself it's just a scary feeling x

[Hidden in reply to Micky14]

Ahh, well yes that makes a huge difference.

I hope being on here helps, with support things don't feel so bad 👍😊

Take care and best wishes 🌺

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Those days happen...it's a part of it but hopefully you get to the point where bad days will be much less than the good days.

Hope is the only way forward sometimes...

[Micky14 in reply to Nathalie99]

The problems is I fight with the feeling not to be there in stead of allowing it there and sticking with coping skill but in so tired of the fight.

[positiveandcalm in reply to Micky14]

After my father died 'that time of the month was always extremely triggering and difficult. Finally i put 2 and 2 together and explored it with my therapist. It brought up many horrific flashbacks and memories but im so glad she had the insight and patience for me! Its been more than a year or 2 of grulling torture and horror (she was ectremly supportive literally holding my hands and compassionately walking me through it) but now i feel im almost at the end of it and relieved that i understand what happened to me and can now work towards putting it behind me.

So for 40 years i believed its no good to open wounds and now i see first hand how i couldnt move forward until i did open them!

Good luck! Its very difficult but so important and worth while.

Be kind to yourself- do or say things to yourself that you would say or do for your best friend in your shoes.

[Micky14 in reply to positiveandcalm]

Thank you so much I've had this hypo vigilante feeling plus disconnecting from myself all day but at night it seems to settle and it really confuses me x

[positiveandcalm in reply to Micky14]

I hope you have a perfesion as l to explore that confusion! My therapist loves that word -she says thats the gate into ourselves!

Thinking of you!

Were all here for you.....

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Micky14]

I get it, Micky.

It comes natural to want to fight this feeling, to so desperately feel "normal".

But you are already doing great with mindfulness (smelling essential oils) and just understanding that it will pass and fighting it only adds to it, makes it last longer.

Hang on in there x

[Hidden]

Hi Micky I was like you to begin with I fought all the feelings I was getting I was too busy learning how to try and ground them I wasn't accepting what was happening to me. But with help from my therapist I was finally accepting those feelings and learning to go with the flow of the hypo vigilance episodes it was so hard and I got so tired. I found this group and they explained all the details to me and suddenly everything fell into place, knowing there were other people out there like me gave me more confidence to realise what my therapist was saying! I still have episodes but not as bad as they were! If you can talk to a therapist please do they are there for a reason and keep talking to everyone on here, they are brilliant! Good luck x