those who carry the scars of caring

we pay tribute to all the caregivers in all forms..(v the divas and the super entitldd)

the photo speaks for itself.......

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Hi Brig; Wouldn't it be wonderful if all of us here could find caring people to help us through tough times.

Those of us with PTSD need good mental health workers. It's obvious from people's experience that we are not all fortunate to find the right help.

I have been lucky. My team has been fabulous.

Everyone deserves good care.

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deserves is the correct word....deserves deseerves....all true (im not good for this sight due to my bitterness with the system....dont know familiy or take history dont listen dont beliefe the client- a laundry list of what not to do and then we are told pretty much were wrong and the system is wonderful and we are trhe problem.....and why i should refrain from posting and find my own solutions....ptsd is earned just as the heroic workers fo chernobyl.....save people but dumped as expendibles ......so thankful u have good peple around u per se and as u are such an adovate for people .....part of whihc is p=mental health but its a full dedk of cards that impact that ......not just the mental health card....nutrion bosses family ........we look at the whole care of our horses.........to say that housing and footing doesnt affect them or a poorly fitting equipemnt or lack of training....or ignore their history is just incredbily naive.....we end up training the so called mh professionals who hadn out meds like candy..........never warn anyone abot potenti side effects..........the condtion is easier than the cure sometimes. .....whatever workds for that person........i need to walk my own road and take my resentment with me so i dont pollute the pool) ....

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i applaud the real mh worlker who use therpay dogs or art or coloring books or safe horses or safe plants ......i rave about them......i also see people who are used by parents to control and crush their rebelous family members who ......are correctly rebelous of tyrants - that form of rembioiuls or difiance ...is not wrong....itrs right....too many counelors are cookie cutter with zero life experecnece......and want to tell us.....that have a life time in our indudstries....same as our families....no thats not the way it is....see on page 56 of teh dm5....

get a life....i listen to people whith real epxereince and onow u have towrk at things.....and suport those who really konw twhat they are doing.....get invovled in someonting ...the aniety godes away and great way to gain expereince......they need peopel liek u ...

who delivers the message is as m imprtant as the message itself.......doens bother me at all i watch for those who people run to ......and suport them........i dont want to be the star ...........

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Hidden]

Hi Brig,

Replying to this part:

"a laundry list of what not to do and then we are told pretty much were wrong and the system is wonderful and we are trhe problem.....and why i should refrain from posting and find my own solutions"

- I shared with you privately my struggles with the system and how I had to find help outside it, so I would never say it's not allowed to post experiences that are difficult.

There are professionals who don't have understanding of trauma and they can do more damage then help.

Your experience is like that...many others on here too.

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so thankful dolphin....all athletes win on teams of good people....why anyone would want less or have to deal with teams of critics ....a mystery to me.....u mean a great deal to us all as everyone here so special in the way they answer people needing some deserved tlc........wish i had a magic wand for everyhone here.....gigantic group hugs all around

[Dolphin14 Moderator in reply to Hidden]

Brig

That magic wand would be welcome by all. You have such a kind heart.

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i come from a family of "generals" - they dont do the work...we do. Secondly they look down at anyone who isnt a bruiser.....and distain the weak mpeople.......its as u know....takes a different kind of strenght emotional strenght to live wth people and comfrot them with ailments .or hold their hands as they trainsition to heaven or ororo ........but they get zero respect....always the extroverts .....who dont do thework get the praise aoubt their leardershipand andn.....total ..nonesen se........its the workers......who carry out the function of the company or take care of the vulernable or relate to people kicked around endlessly ....the good counselors know that there are jerks and bad bosses.......and truly advocate for people who are kind or quiet or not loud and bossy.........they help those run over by society.....those counselros arent the kind that make it worse......the true advocates......i applaud ......its not joe or sally fajlt they arnt agressive..........they are the grass and get mowed by the lawnmowers..........but who gets the praise........sure isnt the kind and gentle ones....

secondly i dont have the emotional strenght havingt lived it vet med to live dailiy whtih the suffering of others (unless we are fighting for them) its far harder than the extroverst can posibley know........to them its....discounted.........they have no clue.....the emotinal rewards but also the tragedies........

caretakers including here....people who advocate and fight for people.........dont need supprt

they darn well desrve it.....teh narciaists and divas and extroferts have people seriving their every need.....praising them constantly aoub how amazintg they are...............no they are just loud obnxious and bossy.......hard wired to the mouth that barks orders...

its the army that makes those orders real

its the army that takes care of people

we dont need useles counselros who never been there.....or peoplw who lecture about poor choices............what do they know of the terrible choices peopl have to make

sitting in their warm cushy office plenty or money and well rested and fat...

peopl havve to do as hey are told to keep a job.........ooh u made unhlahy choices

dude....get a life....

the good chousnelors.....knwo the real score- people

deserve support...........

otherwise.....stay away from my friends.........all this theorietical bs poly pscyhe aint real life

we often have to chose one of ten terrible choices......

the mhs system just makes it worse until u find poepole who have been there....

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bad things happen to good people all the time......true advocates know this...the bad ones

just complicate life immeasurably ......book smart aint life smart.........as i said.....some peopel have terible framilies..........some counselors know htis other

preach about this and that and how theres good is all people-

pardon me for not commenting here and why am soo o thankful for compasionste popel iread helping these people..........im better elseehere....thank god thank god thank god for the compassionate poeople here.........i wouldnt have a clue what to sa y or do

a society is a range of pepole.....diff=people for diff niches.....

thank the heavens ofr the caretakers.......

my niches is to support them and find my niche........soceity so underestimates how hard it is to comfort share the time be there......for people.....

i cant play music either so im in awe of that and caretakers....

being a jerk isnt a talent in my book but in the hrose world....they love those coaches

ooh hes so mean he really

oh we dont like him or her.....way to nice......

the horse world is the wierdest world walking and the mhs system hasnt a clue---tell us who grw up in it were all wrong (somehing LC NEVER does or dolphin)

fine by me MHS let them do all teachint.....only took me 40 years to master.....have fun know it all mhs.........

im done and retired and done wth people that destroyed my world upteen times

all urs.....

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i used to work the mh call lines- i know of nasty familes and living conditions or stupid doctors.....i saw students abused by parents and coaches.....to which my familhy and poly annie cooneslors.....total denial as are what really goes on in these barns and hospitals.....

the real advocates....are gold.....taking care of my frineds....protedt them and andnand...

fight for them protect the during vulerable stages.....

my freinds didnt ask for ther

injstiees

they deserve

people in theri corner

not jerks ...bosses or sign others or whatever

my freinds deserve ten adovates.........dserve.......

same wth the unsung caregivers in any form.........give and pro5tect dgintiy and selfr respect

dignity

and self respect....not talking at people

not talkin down or lecturing

redude suffering and pain...protect selr worth and ditnty

whole lot of mh counselro adn docrors need a serous refresher course.....

dignitty -- reemember that?

to preserve dignty and self respect............? they have forgottten what we all know

thank god for all those who serve here.........

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life for many here is sooo complex....and made MORE compliarted by people who can hear.....

or blieve.....im incredilby sorry for pepole not beilvieng u not beint supor5tive then tiwst u shoudl suport his.

not true thats for pros.....

caretakers must like all firs5 responders ..must stay healthy to be there for ohters

not selfish as u know but loads of famiiles and others......never read the memo

omg what nightmare marathon u have been through....i totally believe every word.....

what huge staminae adn grit and courage......must have felt so alone alone against the world no believeng

everyone here does.......they not me not me as im a guy .....hey are sending u ten thousand hugs group hugs long holding hugs every day..............get the courage award big time.....soooo sorry for ur ordeal......thank u for writint ....helps me a lot .....always feel i scare people off as im pretty angry wth people who traumatize traumatized people

the deserve the people here

take care

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part of the complicated world of women....mean NOOOO disrespect

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try again...i very much apologize for the video problems...plse ignore the singer ....the point is not that she wants to run to me....but many of the words do touch a cord in me trying to educate us men about the lives of kinder women and what they go through and may or may not say...........(been around lots of mean men and women which make the kind ones ....treasured frankly........the golden retrievers and dolphins are NOT the Mako Sharks.....or difficualt people ive had lots of in my careers) .........i may be unsucess ful in tryhing to convery our respects to the kind people in this world ....(certrainly diff than our familes) .......if i offend anyone then i apoligize in advance

its just a tribute

to people who care

v ice cubes or mean people......

regret in advance anyone i offend.....not not not my intention

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