Scared been triggered 4 weeks ago

[Micky14]

I was triggered feeling scared disconnected from myself.I was doing so well going to collage. I do feel more present this time if that makes sense I'm using coping skills calm breathing . Self talk but sometimes I just cry and cry ........

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Micky,

I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this.

Are you experiencing those symptoms since 4 weeks? Not sure if I understand correctly, but if you are, then it's a quite long time. Usually they don't last so long, they should pass. Unless you are constantly being retriggered.

Is there a specific event that happened that caused you to feel this way? Or was it our of the blue?

I'm just trying to see if you can identify the trigger and to understand what happened.

Is the thing that triggered you still ongoing and continuing to trigger you?

Are there moments that you feel even slightly better, or is it non stop?

Did you talk to a doctor or psychologist about this situation?

[Micky14 in reply to Nathalie99]

I was standing outside its was thundering .then all of a sudden panic truck since then I have lost all connect with my surroundings I disconnect from myself I was doing so well stress doesn't help At home having 3 kids my partner is in supportive feel stuck again yes I contacted my doctor just wanted to give me more pills they have referred me back to the wellbeing service. And waiting to have counselling.if don't consentrate on how I'm felling that helps but soon as I notice something bamm I'm in this huge crying mess not knowing where I am help what's going on I do calm breathing before bed and when I feel anxious

[Nathalie99 Partner in reply to Micky14]

It's possible that you have been triggered by something without knowing it.

It is then perpetuating itself like a vicious circle for some reason. Usually it is supposed to go away but sometimes just simple everyday stress can cause this to happen.

I would say you could use some "me" time, take a break and do something nice for yourself. Build it into your daily routine. I don't know what you enjoy make going walking or watching something or listening to some music.

Did you try the adult coloring books?

I can't imagine how stressful it is having a family to take care of. It sounds like you have so many responsibilities and it can be overwhelming. You need rest for the nervous system to go back to more balanced state.

What helped me was CDs from Claire Weekes "pass through panic" and "freedom from nervous suffering".

Main thing is about not fighting them and letting them pass.

But it's worrying that you have experienced this since a month and still no change.

Are you following therapy, if so, what kind? It is often not enough to have only talk therapy. Trauma needs to be healed on a deeper subconscious level and in the body.

Very good book about it when you are able to read is from Bessel van der Kolk "The body keeps the score". Don't know if you have already heard of it.

Having knowledgeable therapist is very important.

Taking time to rest and do things that are healing is very important too.

I know that with children it is very difficult or impossible to find that time but it's important for healing...

[IChoose in reply to Nathalie99]

Great reply

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Hi Micky14 do you listen to music? If I get stressed or have a bad day I plug in my earphones and shut the world out. You can still do this with your kids about, it takes the edge of all the feeling you have going around in your head! I do this at night when my triggers start when I'm going to bed and when I walk the dogs! Take care Hun thinking of you 😊X

[Micky14 in reply to Hidden]

I had music on in the kitchen but it was going so I started talking to myself then it got to much so I put my ear phones in laid on my bed and just breathed then I snapped out of it sometimes it dose freak me out but today I manage it and thank you xxx

[Hidden in reply to Micky14]

Your welcome Micky14 knowing your not alone in feeling like this helps! I have only had this a short time compared with everyone on here but have found everyone is so supportive and helpful. I don't have support from my family as they don't understand it. But being on here I feel supported and safe, keep your music with you if you can and as soon as you feel your symptoms coming on plug yourself in and the music will relax you plus your breathing. Good luck Hun xx

[IChoose]

I was doing amazing and then I triggered. I'm dealing now with all kinds of things and ocd behavior. It's like out of nowhere but same stuff I've struggled with for years. And, shrinks saw it and not one addressed these nervous issues. They are embarrassing for me to talk about. Sigh.