Fun in the sun .

[Sthandra]

I was reading what VG and Mothy wrote about fun in the sun and it got me thinking how much I would have liked to squeeze into my middle daughters suitcase ,she left for Australia on Saturday for the next 2 years, she has been suffering from depression for a while it got worse when her ex fiancè accused her of cheating again for the umpteenth time, so she called it quits and moved back home only problem is he lives next-door, so a friend of hers asked if she fancied getting away from it all and going to live with him and his dad in Australia for the next two years, she applied for her visa a fortnight ago today in the morning and she had it by 4pm the same day, it's a working holiday she can work 16 hours a week and her friends dad is acting as her sponsor, they had hoped to get her on the same flight as his dad whch was the friday but with it being a last minute booking it would have cost £4000, so she flew out this Saturday and arrived this morning, I wish she was still here but I couldn't try to stand in the way of this once in a lifetime opportunity she would have resented me for ever plus her flight out was payed for and she's 23 so she's an adult so old enough to make her own choices in life, she will be living in Carnes I think I spelt that right so now it will be email and Facebook messaging, her nephew will only know her through them as he will have no memory of her spending physical time together as he's not yet 2 years old, I miss her already,she did remember mothers day though, now my oh has to move all her boxed up things into the loft she never unpacked her things she just sorted out afew things to take with her. Anyway enough rambling gentle hugs to all . Sithy

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Aw it must be hard but as you said you couldn't stand in her way.

My youngest went to the US for three months last summer and I missed him really badly but kind of got used to it too in a way. He is just turned 22 and has said when he is finished college he will emigrate to the US, or somewhere else. I will be devastated but think he is wise to take any opportunity he gets...sometimes wish I could do it, but still have my older son and his partner living nearby and my daughter her partner and my little grandson live not to far away either so we see a lot of them.

With facebook, email, skype etc, it is so easy to keep in touch now, I know it's not the same as them being here but we have to let them go...I like you will be wishing I can sneak in the suitcase when my day comes....

[Fibrofoggiest]

Hi Sithy golly that must be hard, waving your daughter goodbye for two years, thought that having been said I think it sounds like she has made a very good decision. Cairns is a lovely place, I've got some friends who moved out there nearly three years ago, and it was the best thing they ever did. In a way the time is right as far as her nephew is concerned because he will be four by the time she comes home and no doubt will have been in touch through Facebook or Skype and it can be almost as good as being in this country, my friends in Oz are in contact with me far more often than my relatives in this country. The world has shrunk hugely with the emergence of the Internet. But needing you love and hugs anyway

Foggy x

[Sthandra]

I'm just hoping that my youngest daughter dosnt go through with her thoughts of moving to Ghana with her fiancè she got engaged a fortnight a go Saturday he's from Ghana if they go my grandson will not be coming for weekend visits I will miss them all so much, my eldest daughter lives in Carlisle Cumbria , second in Australia and third in Ghans I know I can't stand in her way either but its making my reflux worse just thinking about it, I know it may not happen for years yet but its still there at the back of my mind , will they accept her as she's mixed race and so is her son his dad is full black will they be able to find jobs as his mother can't and she's a single mother, they send Her £20 aweek to help with her bills and his siblings school fees I don't know what's happened with their dad I only know he has a different one to them and its not my place to be nosey, what happens to her if they split up over there will he take my grandson from her or will she have custody what are the laws out there, so as you can see I have all sorts of worrys and no matter how much I shove them back they keep coming to the front again. A thoroughly confused sithy

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Morning Slithy it always so hard to let them go but they come home and the lovely chats you will have on what do you call it Skype will keep you both positive it is just like she has dropped in for coffee and a chat and then you can chat on facebook so really you are not loosing her at all so spirits up I find it hard just to have my daughter other end of this country best wishes xgins

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Awww my son is still at home so haven't had to face this yet..... Yes thank I goodness for Skype ..... I hope you daughter has a lovely time

VG. X

[Kugagirl1]

Hi that has to b dificult but all my children moved out my youngest came back home last year so see her every day now bless . But evan though the others still live in this country they have lives an you dont see th asmuch . But 2 years , it is a Opportunity of a life time i went over in my teens as my family was going to emigrate i loved it but my mom backed out at las min saying she couldent take us kids from our grandparents .

She will be full of exciting thing's to tell you when she calls much better than having sad things to say .

An might i say congratulations to to for raising such grown up adventurous children . I wish mine would of seen more if the world than they have becouse as we all know onece we settle down there is alway some reason not to go .

So i hold my glass up to a very brave girl an her Mom for not being selfish an helping her spread her wings. You will have 2 years of soft hugs to catch up on when she comes home xx

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Hi Slighy

My son left in October for 4 years backpacking. He came home for Christmas ! He's in Australia now, in Melbourne and has a good job. What's app is brilliant because its free to send pictures. The hardest part is the time difference and patchy WiFi. I think I hear more from him now than when he was local. I'm sure your daughter will be the same. The sun in Australia is great for depression. Its a more laid back life, but don't under estimate how much she'll miss you too.

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Sorry...my phone changed your name

[Sthandra]

Thankyou all for your lovely coments and good wishes gentle hugs for all love Sithy.