I a going for my PIP assessment tomorrow. I'm a little nervous though.
I have asked my dad to come with me as I'm worried I may not understand some of the questions.
My dad did come round to mine about an hour ago telling me off saying I'm doing fraud with my PIP claim. As a couple of weeks ago I went out clubbing with a few friends for a birthday, someone has told my dad that I was jumping around making a t*t of myself and that I'm being fraudulent because I say I use a wheelchair. What someone (or who ever was spying on me) forgot to mention was that I had a seat next to me so when my legs were hurting me I would have a sit down.
My dad has now asked me if I took my wheelchair out with me when I went out clubbing, the reason being 1 the toilets are all upstairs and there's no lift and 2 when I'm in that particular night club I ALWAYS have a seat next me as my legs give way when I'm out.
Now my dad is now telling me that I am breaking the law because I have said that I use my wheelchair which I do when I need to as I have stated in my PIP form, but when I don't need to use it I try and walk, then have a break as and when I need to. Could anyone please telling me if I'm breaking the law or being fraudulent at all??
I have also put in my PIP form that I struggle with my social skills and I can't budget my money at all so my dad has to help me with that.
My flat is adapted for me, I have a bed leaver, a higher toilet seat (or as my friends call it, my potty lol), a bath lift, handrails in the bathroom, a higher sofa, which is on blocks so it's not to low, handrails at my front door (as I got my flat before I got my wheelchair so I use them to help pull myself out of my chair, I also hold on to them to steady myself when I'm on my feet), I have a trolley with two shelves that I put food and drinks of so I don't need to carry anything and I can just wheel them from the kitchen to the sitting room and lastly I have a purching stool in the kitchen which I use sometimes, the only problem with that is I'm tall and it hurts my back to sit on it and I end up hunched over when doing the dishes or cooking.
My dad thinks I'm just doing it for the money but I'm honestly not. I'm telling them that my circumstances have changed a lot since I started my DLA claim back in 2006. When I first made the claim my mam was alive and she helped me with lots of things now since she died in 2011, I have had to try and defend for myself.
The only reason why my dad is having a go at me about the PIP Claim is because his partner doesn't think I'm severe enough for it and she thinks I play on my disabilities to get attention which for me is extremely hurtful and upsetting to think my dad is taking her side on this. (My dads partner told me that she is ill enough for PIP as she has been told she can get it. But she doesn't want to apply for it. But according to her I shouldn't get it).
That's is why I don't want her there at the assessment incase she says something and then I don't get it. Which I think she is capable of doing that. Even though I didn't want to no her opinion on if I should apply for PIP she told me it. As if you do not want to no something she will tell you no matter if it hurts your feelings in the process.
He will shout at me like he did today about the night club subject of me jumping around that is my dads partner finding out some information and twisting it and instead on my dad asking me in a calm and gentle manner he shouts and raises his voice at me. I turned round to him today and said why are you talking to me like this there is no need to shout at me..... His response well this is how I have to talk to you to make use you understand what I'm saying to you, I turned around and then said why don't you approach me ask me instead of taking other people's word for it. I then get upset and start to cry because I doesn't matter what I say he will never believe me. I even told him to ask my friend who was out with me if I had a chair to sit on and he didn't say anything.
Now I'm pretty miffed about what my dads partner has done by spreading lies and now she wants to do something with me. But my sister, brother and I have noticed that my dads partner will only do things with me to score brownie point with my dad and it just so wrong and hurtful. All this time she says she cares and I feel like she is stabbing me in the back.
My niece was over a my dads the other week and I new he had someone coming over to speak to him so I thought if she is still awake and if it was a nice day I could take her over to the park. But my dads partner sat there and questioned me saying but I thought you needed a wheelchair when you go out, what happens if she runs off, I turned around and said I only use my wheelchair if I'm having a bad day and I'm not in any pain today, if Myla (my niece) runs off I would run after her even if I was in pain or not as I wouldn't put her in any danger. But no matter what I said she kept questioning me on everything about the wheelchair of Myla ran off would I be able to catch her. I then turned around and told her that Myla was out of her pram the previous week I was in some discomfort but I was pushing the pram to help my balance and was fine I didn't have to run after Myla as she was walking nicely next to me and the decided to hold my hand instead. When my dads partner was having a go at me I corrected her every time she tried to have a dig at me and in the end she stopped and I was calm at first but as she started to annoy me more and more I changed the tone of my voice so she new I was going sit there and let her talk down to me.
Oh I'm sorry I'm droning on and on.
I'm just so sick of her trying to have a go at me all the time.
I might speak to my sister and see what she says and thinks as the last time I had an argument with my dad about his partner I ended up saying to him and you all wonder why I have depression and thoughts of self harm and suicide when you all have ago at me and don't bother asking my side of the story and only takes his partners. It's funny as I get wrong for only listening to one side of the story yet that's what my dad does all the time.